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Gender based violence is widely prevalent in South African society, but male rape is often a neglected area. According to The Conversation, in an article by Prof Louise Du Toit, men make up around 10% of victims of sexual violence.
The group South African Male Survivors of Sexual Abuse says one in six adult males in the country have been victims of sexual offences in their lifetimes and, in 2012, almost 20% of all sexual abuse victims were male. But men are up to 10 times less likely than women to report sexual violence against them. Frequently men who report sexual assault are accused of being gay. In addition, according to Prof Du Toit, “Some feminist activists are reluctant to focus on the male victims because they think it will undermine long-fought-for attention for female victims.”
Silent Scream is a refreshing acknowledgement of this disturbing picture, told firsthand by a survivor of multiple instances of sexual violence, including gang rape and other forms of physical and sexual violence.
The author is a man in his fifties, intelligent and multifaceted, who carried the weight of the ages on his tattooed shoulders. Following a childhood marred by distant parents, he was assaulted in his late teens.
This is a book filled with hurt, with anger, with events that should never occur, but that the author has been able to rise above. It’s also a book about recovery, redemption, and the power of healing. No punches are pulled. It’s a very necessary book for our country and our time.
You can’t move past the breakup. You feel stuck in cycles of rumination
and pain.
This helpful guide provides brand-new therapeutic tools to
revolutionise the way we overcome loss, and seek and welcome love,
within and outside of ourselves.
We know heartbreaks are inevitable. We also know that somehow it is
within our power to break free of the suffering and transform pain into
meaning. Yet, somewhere between the sad songs, the late-night
fixations, and the social media stalking, we get lost.
Alice Haddon, psychologist of over twenty-five years, and Ruth Field,
bestselling self-help author, show us how we can dissect heartbreaks,
mine them for strength and live our most empowered life. They also
examine how society sets up women to fall into love traps and engage
bad habits of self-sacrificing and enabling. With Alice and Ruth’s
help, those patterns end forever.
Bursting with compassion, humour and courage, this book will take you
into the actual exercises conducted at the retreat that they run. It
will teach you how to:
- face your deepest hurt without shame or
judgment
- ask for help and lean on the collective
- be kind and forgiving to yourself
- turn your heartbreak into love and pride
Providing you with a clear pathway to recovery,
Alice and Ruth draw on their wealth of professional and personal
experience to help you.
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