The honeymoon is long over. Dad says it’s now whiskey and marriage on the rocks. Mom says she’s going to take him to the cleaners.

Why are they getting divorced and why now that you’re an adult child? Your parents are divorcing or maybe they have divorced already. Everyone is focused on them, but you’re suffering too. Adult children have a really tough time when their parents split up – just as tough, if not tougher, than young children. In this book several adult children of divorce (18 years and older) share their advice, first-hand experience, confusion, uncertainty, anger and sadness that begin the moment when Mom and Dad say: It’s over.

The bad news? The divorce will always be a wound. The good news? You can learn how to handle it better and in time it could just become a scar. In the words of a respondent, Gretha (26): “Time makes all wounds bearable.”

Die koeël is deur die kerk. Die huweliksbootjie het gesink. Hy kry die bed en sy die tafel. Hoekom skei hulle en hoekom skei hulle nóú dat jy ’n volwasse kind is?

Jou ouers is besig om te skei of hulle is klaar geskei. Almal fokus op hulle, maar jy suffer ook. Volwasse kinders kry swáár wanneer hulle ouers skei. Net so swaar, indien nie swaarder as jong kinders nie.

’n Eerste in Afrikaans — ’n handleiding vol raad oor hoe om die sleg en gesukkel van ’n egskeiding te hanteer waar volwasse kinders van egskeiding (18 jaar en ouer) hulle eerstehandse ervaring, verwarring, onsekerheid, woede en hartseer deel wat begin die oomblik as Ma en Pa sê: dis verby.

Die slegte nuus? Die egskeiding sal altyd ’n wond wees. Die goeie nuus? Jy kan leer hoe om dit beter te hanteer en met tyd kan dit net ’n letsel word. Soos Gretha (26) sê: “Time makes all wounds bearable.”