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Books > Health, Home & Family > Family & health > Family & other relationships > Adoption & tracing birth parents
Susan Silverman grew up with parents who were, both before and
after a devastating loss, atheists. Yet, as a young adult, she
shocked everyone who knew her ( But you were elected Class Flirt in
high school!" ) and became a rabbi. What was not surprising,
however, was that she built her own big, unwieldy family through
both birth and adoption, something she had intended from childhood.
With three daughters and two sons ( We produce girls and import
boys" ), this unique family becomes a metaphor for the world's
contradictions and complexities,a microcosm of the tragedy and joy,
hope and despair, cruelty and compassion, predictability and
absurdity of this world we all live in. A meditation on identity,
faith, and belonging,one that's as funny as it is moving, Casting
Lots will resonate with anyone who has struggled to find their
place in the world and to understand the significance of that
place.
From 1870 until after World War I, reformers led an effort to place
children from orphanages, asylums, and children's homes with
farming families. The farmers received free labor in return for
providing room and board. Reformers, meanwhile, believed children
learned lessons in family life, citizenry, and work habits that
institutions simply could not provide. Drawing on institution
records, correspondence from children and placement families, and
state reports, Megan Birk scrutinizes how the farm system
developed--and how the children involved may have become some of
America's last indentured laborers. Between 1850 and 1900, up to
one-third of farm homes contained children from outside the family.
Birk reveals how the nostalgia attached to misplaced perceptions
about healthy, family-based labor masked the realities of abuse,
overwork, and loveless upbringings endemic in the system. She also
considers how rural people cared for their own children while being
bombarded with dependents from elsewhere. Finally, Birk traces how
the ills associated with rural placement eventually forced
reformers to transition to a system of paid foster care, adoptions,
and family preservation.
Omdat mensen nietzelf kunnen kiezen volgens welk receptzijhun
kinderwens vorm geven, is begnip en respect erg belangrijk. Dit
boekje is een schitterend instrument om kinderen te introduceren in
de complexe wereld van fertiliteitsbehandelingen. Het ontdoet de
problematiek van de taboes waarmee fertilieteitsbehandelingen vaak
nog zijn omgeven en helpt inzien dat het niet uitmaakt volgens welk
recept je op de wereld gekomen bent. Kortom, een aanrader voor
groot en klein"
In Instant Mom, Nia Vardalos, writer and star of My Big Fat Greek
Wedding, tells her hilarious and poignant road-to-parenting story
that eventually leads to her daughter and prompts her to become a
major advocate for adoption. Moments after Nia Vardalos finds out
she has been nominated for an Oscar for the screenplay for My Big
Fat Greek Wedding, she is alone and en route to a fertility clinic,
trying yet again for a chance at motherhood. Vardalos chronicles
her attempts to have a baby, and how she tries everything-from
drinking jugs of green mud tea, to acupuncture, to working with two
surrogates. Finally, she and her husband, actor Ian Gomez, decide
to try adoption and discover a free service: Foster Family
Agencies. Then one day, the social workers "match" her with an
almost-three-year-old girl, who she knows, instantly, is her
daughter. With her signature wit and candor, Nia Vardalos reveals
what really came next-the truth of how she and her husband
transitioned a preschooler into their home. Vardalos opens up about
the bawling-tears and belly-laughter that all make up what it means
to be...a parent.
This gripping memoir details an ordinary American woman's quest to
adopt a baby girl from Guatemala in the face of overwhelming
adversity. At only 32 years old, Jessica O'Dwyer experiences early
menopause, seemingly ending her chances of becoming a mother. Years
later, married but childless, she comes across a photo of a
two-month-old girl on a Guatemalan adoption website , and feels an
instant connection. From the get-go, Jessica and her husband face
numerous and maddening obstacles. After a year of tireless efforts,
Jessica finds herself abandoned by her adoption agency undaunted,
she quits her job and moves to Antigua so she can bring her little
girl to live with her and wrap up the adoption, no matter what the
cost. Eventually, after months of disappointments, she finesses her
way through the thorny adoption process and is finally able to
bring her new daughter home. Mamalita is as much a story about the
bond between a mother and child as it is about the lengths adoptive
parents go to in their quest to bring their children home. At turns
harrowing, heartbreaking, and inspiring, this is a classic story of
the triumph of a mother's love over almost insurmountable odds.
"It sounded at first like something out of an old horror movie. I
thought maybe someone was just playing around, but then I heard it
again and again, a loud piercing cry, and less like Hollywood every
time. The windows were down in my police cruiser on that warm fall
day, but I still couldn't tell where the sounds came from. I began
looking around for the unlikely sight of someone being disemboweled
in a mall parking lot on a Saturday afternoon. Seeing nothing, and
still hearing the screams, I called in a 'disturbance.' Around the
next corner I found the source of the commotion." So begins Greg
Lucas' captivating account of life as a husband, a police officer,
and Jake's dad. Jake Lucas, the first of four children, lives with
severe physical and mental challenges. Caring for him each day is
an ordeal few of us can imagine, and this story of Jake's first 17
years is not one you will soon forget. But the remarkable thing is
how the whole narrative is saturated with wonder at the grace and
goodness of God, who brings hope and promise through his Son into
the darkest of circumstances. In this book, we see that Jake's
problems are our problems, only bigger, and the challenges of
caring for him carry profound lessons about God's care for us.
Wrestling with an Angel is about tragedy and laughter and pain and
joy. It is about faith and grace and endurance and God's unfailing,
loving wisdom daily being worked out in each of our lives, whatever
the nature or extent of our difficulties. Here is a book that may
explain faith to you in ways you never quite grasped, through a
life few of us can relate to. When it is all done, we come away
better able to live as Christ calls us to live.
CBITS was developed for use by school-based mental health
professionals for any student with symptoms of distress following
exposure to trauma. SSET was adapted from CBITS for use by any
school personnel with the time and interest to work with students
affected by trauma. This toolkit assists social workers,
school-based mental health professionals, and school personnel in
adapting these interventions for use with youth who are in foster
care.
You can do adoption right with the help of this authoritative and
refreshingly candid guide. Uniquely qualified as coauthors, Dr.
Cynthia Martin and Dr. Martin Groves combine their extensive
personal and professional experience with adoption to help you take
charge of the adoption process. Comprehensive and user-friendly,
Beating the Adoption Odds is the indispensable manual for those
seeking to adopt.
An abused little girl desperate for someone to love her, and the
foster carer who refused to give up on her. A heartbreaking true
story by Sunday Times bestselling author Maggie Hartley. Perfect
for fans of Cathy Glass, Casey Watson, Angela Hart and Rosie Lewis.
***** Abused, starved and neglected. Ruth was a little ghost of a
girl when she arrived into foster mother Maggie Hartley's care. As
soon as Ruth arrived on her doorstep, it was clear to foster carer
Maggie Hartley that Ruth had seen and experienced things that no
11-year-old should have to. Pale, frail and withdrawn, Ruth had
been conditioned to 'see no evil, speak no evil'. Raised by a cruel
stepmother and father, Ruth had been abused, underfed and ignored,
while her half-siblings lived a life of luxury. Ruth is in
desperate need of help, but can Maggie get through to her and
unlock the harrowing secret she carries? With no one left in the
world to love Ruth, it's up to Maggie to help her find her voice;
to be a ghost no more, and bring those who've harmed her to
justice. An uplifting and ultimately redemptive read, perfect for
fans of Cathy Glass, Casey Watson, Angela Hart and Rosie Lewis.
Julie is adopted. She is also a twin. Because their adoption was
closed, she and her sister lack both a health history and their
adoption papers-which becomes an issue for Julie when, at
forty-eight years old, she finds herself facing several serious
health issues. To launch the probe into her closed adoption, Julie
first needs the support of her sister. The twins talk things over,
and make a pact: Julie will approach their adoptive parents for the
adoption paperwork and investigate search options, and the sisters
will split the costs involved in locating their birth relatives.
But their adoptive parents aren't happy that their daughters want
to locate their birth parents-and that is only the first of many
obstacles Julie will come up against as she digs into her
background. Julie's search for her birth relatives spans eight
years and involves a search agency, a PI, a confidential
intermediary, a judge, an adoption agency, a social worker, and a
genealogist. By journey's end, what began as a simple desire for a
family medical history has evolved into a complicated quest-one
that unearths secrets, lies, and family members that are literally
right next door.
Lori Chamber's fascinating study explores the legal history of
adoption in Ontario since the passage of the first statute in 1921.
This volume explores a wide range of themes and issues in the
history of adoption including: the reasons for the creation of
statutory adoption, the increasing voice of unmarried fathers in
newborn adoption, the reasons for movement away from secrecy in
adoption, the evolution of step-parent adoption, the adoption of
Indigenous children, and the growth of international adoption.
Unlike other works on adoption, this book focuses explicitly on
statutes, statutory debates, and the interpretation of statutes in
court. In doing so, she concludes that adoption is an inadequate
response to child welfare and on its own cannot solve problems
regarding child neglect and abuse. Rather, Chambers argues that in
order to reform the area of adoption we must first acknowledge that
it is built upon social inequalities within and between nations.
"Who makes adoption a success? We do: the kids and parents in the
new family as we change shape to accommodate each other." With more
than 70 real life stories, revealing moments of vulnerability and
moments of joy, this book provides an authentic insight into
adoption. These stories take the reader on a journey through every
stage of the adoption process, from making the initial decision to
adopt to hearing from adoptees, and offer an informative and
emotive account of the reality of families' experiences along the
way. It includes chapters on adopting children of all ages as well
as sibling groups; adopting as a single parent; adopting as a same
sex couple; adopting emotionally and physically abused children;
the nightmare of adoption breaking down; contact with birth
parents; tracing and social media and more. Adopting: Real Life
Stories will be an informative and refreshing read for adopters,
potential adopters, professionals and all those whose lives have in
some way been touched by adoption or want to know more about it.
Lori Chambers' fascinating study explores the legal history of
adoption in Ontario since the passage of the first statute in 1921.
This volume explores a wide range of themes and issues in the
history of adoption including: the reasons for the creation of
statutory adoption, the increasing voice of unmarried fathers in
newborn adoption, the reasons for movement away from secrecy in
adoption, the evolution of step-parent adoption, the adoption of
Indigenous children, and the growth of international adoption.
Unlike other works on adoption, Chambers focuses explicitly on
statutes, statutory debates and the interpretation of statues in
court. In doing so, she concludes that adoption is an inadequate
response to child welfare and on its own cannot solve problems
regarding child neglect and abuse. Rather, Chambers argues that in
order to reform the area of adoption we must first acknowledge that
it is built upon social inequalities within and between nations.
Friendship is so complicated! The children of The Adoption Club
think they are friends - they go to the same school and belong to
The Adoption Club. But what does it mean? What is the difference
between a casual and a close friend? How should you respond to
teasing? It's time for The Adoption Club to explore friendship.
Written for counsellors and therapists working with children aged
5-11, as well as adoptive parents, this workbook is designed to
help explore friendship, staying safe and social skills. It is one
of a set of five interactive therapeutic workbooks featuring The
Adoption Club written to address the key emotional and
psychological challenges adopted children often experience.
Together, they provide an approachable, interactive and playful way
to help children to learn about themselves and have fun at the same
time.
For children who are adopted families can get complicated, and
that's very true when it comes to brothers and sisters, or
'siblings'. Today The Adoption Club are exploring the confusing
world of siblings. Some children have half-siblings, adopted
siblings, step-siblings. Michael has a birth sibling, his sister
Angela, who he lives with, but many other children who are adopted
are separated from their brother or sisters. The Adoption Club talk
about their feelings about their own siblings. Written for
counsellors and therapists working with children aged 5-11, as well
as adoptive parents, this workbook is designed to help explore
sibling relationships. It is one of a set of five interactive
therapeutic workbooks featuring The Adoption Club written to
address the key emotional and psychological challenges adopted
children often experience. Together, they provide an approachable,
interactive and playful way to help children to learn about
themselves and have fun at the same time.
Adopted children whose early development has been altered by abuse
or neglect may form negative beliefs about themselves and parents,
and may resist connecting with others. This book outlines how
therapeutic stories can help children to heal and develop healthy
attachments. With a thorough theoretical grounding, the book
demonstrates how to create therapeutic stories that improve
relationships, heal past trauma, and change problem behaviour. The
story of a fictional family that develops its own narratives to
help their adopted child heal illustrates the techniques. This
second edition includes updated research on attachment, trauma and
the developmental process; a new chapter on parental attunement and
regulation; and a new chapter with full length samples of a variety
of narrative types. The gentle and non-intrusive techniques in this
book will be highly beneficial for children with attachment
difficulties. This guide will be an invaluable resource for parents
of adopted children and the professionals working with them.
Coming Home to Self is a book about becoming aware. It is written
for all members of the adoption triad: adoptees, birth parents, and
adoptive parents as well as those who are in relationship with
them, including professionals. It explains the influence imprinted
upon the nuerological system and, thus, on future functioning. It
explains how false beliefs create fear and perpetuate being ruled
by the wounded child. It is a book which will help adoptees
discover their authentic selves after living without seeing
themselves reflected back all their lives.
Growing up in 70s Scotland as the adopted mixed raced child of a
Communist couple, young Jackie blossoms into an outspoken, talented
poet. Then she decides to find her birth parents... Based on the
soul-searching memoir by Scots Makar Jackie Kay, Red Dust Road
takes you on a journey from Nairn to Lagos, full of heart, humour
and deep emotions. Discover how we are shaped by the folk songs we
hear as much as by the cells in our bodies.
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