In this book, you will spend some quality "family time" in each room of a typical home. We enter and work out what turns a house into a home. Then, we visit the parents' bedroom, the nursery, the children's room, the teenager's room, the bathroom, the kitchen, and the living room. In each room, a range of typical situations are analyzed-things most families have to deal with. How do you get young children to help with the cooking? What happens to a fifteen-year-old who has taken drugs? There are hundreds of other challenges that deal with sleep, tantrums, play, food, friends, hygiene, independence, respect, boundaries, and so forth. In a conversational style, Jesper Juul and Monica Oien reflect on why we do things rather than on how we do them. "Family time" is packed with inspiring, practical, and down-to-earth suggestions. Sometimes they are challenging, but they are always focused on how we build trust and develop the best possible relationships with each other and our children.

Readers comments:

A Fabulous, Important Book, Jesper Juul provides parents with such an amazing, simple, and absolutely vital approach to raising children that it rings true on every page. Some of what he suggests we as parents do is difficult - as it is against our "knee-jerk" reactions we may have learned from our parents, but all of it is right on about how we can raise confident, healthy, whole humans, right from the start. I was thrilled to have discovered a book that allowed me to see different possibilities with child raising. Anyone with a child will gain immensely from reading this book, seeing themselves (as I did, over and over again) in his numerous examples, and learning how to move on from there. Without reservation, I am grateful for this book and highly recommend it.

No Parent Should Be Without It,

There are not enough superlatives to describe how helpful this book has been to our family. With tremendous wisdom and a warm, pragmatic eye, Mr. Juul helps us redefine the ways we look at a child's behavior and our relationship to our children and ultimately, each other. This is a book that doesn't offer easy answers or 'tricks' to help in the raising of your child. This is a book that helps you see with a child's eye, hear with a child's ear, and feel with a child's heart in ways that feel so natural and obvious, you will wonder why you haven't thought of them before. But trust me, you haven't. It is a book that offers day-to-day skills along with the thinking that helps generate them, leaving the reader feeling smart and well-satisfied. This groundbreaking book should be on the shelf of all parents everywhere. If you read only one book on raising your child, this is the one.I cannot recommend it highly enough.

If you have children - read this book ,

This is an amazing book that will surely turn upside down any thoughts you ever had about raising children. Even though you may not agree with all the views in this book, there is so much food for thought and new ideas that you will return to this book again and again for interesting and mind blowing advice.

Essential reading for parents and childcare staff,

This book takes a giant step forward in our knowledge of what children really need. It is based on a wealth of practical experience, but provides a profound theoretical basis for our interactions with children. And is easy to read....The book is well-written, and reveals Jesper Juuls deep wisdom, love and understanding for both children and parents, as well as a good sense of humour and perspective.

In this excellent, short and instructive book - maybe one of Jesper Juul's best - he explains how to handle yourself as an adult in conflict with children. The many ideas, concepts and practical suggestions apply whether you are a parent or a professional working in the educational system. The title summarizes the essence of true dialogue and through plenty of everyday examples this book provides adults with alternatives to shouting, criticizing and blaming - while respecting the personal integrity of everyone involved. Jesper Juul shows how to use personal language and thereby develop relationships built on equal dignity. Ultimately, this book helps adults become more authentic so children can be treated as real people.

This might be the most decisive book you can find in terms of defining your relationship with your partner, children, parents, siblings and close friends. Jesper Juul reveals with great insight why it is onlypossible to say "Yes " to yourself when you also feel liberated and freeto say "No " to others. By letting go of the obligation to be nice and the need to serve and please others, it is easier to connect with your true identity. Jesper Juul reveals the secret to developing and maintaining a healthy mind, social competence as well as staying true to yourself. When reading this practical book you will discover why "No " is also called "the most loving answer" and therefore is the ultimate gift to yourself and those you hold near and dear.

This book captures the essence of modern family life. Much has changed since our own childhoods; "the good old days." Today's parents are challenged by the need to invent their own parenting style. This can only happen from within, based on our personal values and boundaries. Jesper Juul puts it very clearly: "The love we feel for our children and our partners does not in itself have any value. It has no value at all until it is converted into loving behavior." Each chapter focuses on the values that form a solid platform on which to build a family: Equal dignity, Integrity, Authenticity and Responsibility. This makes family life more meaningful and parents avoid living frantically from conflict to conflict, desperately searching for quick solutions and trying to adapt to the most popular parenting technique of the day. A book full of everyday examples and practical ideas.

An investigation of independent video games-creative, personal, strange, and experimental-and their claims to handcrafted authenticity in a purely digital medium. Video games are often dismissed as mere entertainment products created by faceless corporations. The last twenty years, however, have seen the rise of independent, or "indie," video games: a wave of small, cheaply developed, experimental, and personal video games that react against mainstream video game development and culture. In Handmade Pixels, Jesper Juul examine the paradoxical claims of developers, players, and festivals that portray independent games as unique and hand-crafted objects in a globally distributed digital medium. Juul explains that independent video games are presented not as mass market products, but as cultural works created by people, and are promoted as authentic alternatives to mainstream games. Writing as a game player, scholar, developer, and educator, Juul tells the story of how independent games-creative, personal, strange, and experimental-became a historical movement that borrowed the term "independent" from film and music while finding its own kind of independence. Juul describes how the visual style of independent games signals their authenticity-often by referring to older video games or analog visual styles. He shows how developers use strategies for creating games with financial, aesthetic, and cultural independence; discusses the aesthetic innovations of "walking simulator" games; and explains the controversies over what is and what isn't a game. Juul offers examples from independent games ranging from Dys4ia to Firewatch; the text is richly illustrated with many color images.

In this book, you will spend some quality "family time" in each room of a typical home. We enter and work out what turns a house into a home. Then, we visit the parents' bedroom, the nursery, the children's room, the teenager's room, the bathroom, the kitchen, and the living room. In each room, a range of typical situations are analyzed-things most families have to deal with. How do you get young children to help with the cooking? What happens to a fifteen-year-old who has taken drugs? There are hundreds of other challenges that deal with sleep, tantrums, play, food, friends, hygiene, independence, respect, boundaries, and so forth. In a conversational style, Jesper Juul and Monica ien reflect on why we do things rather than on how we do them. "Family time" is packed with inspiring, practical, and down-to-earth suggestions. Sometimes they are challenging, but they are always focused on how we build trust and develop the best possible relationships with each other and our children.

This book captures the essence of modern family life. Much has changed since our own childhoods; "the good old days". Today's parents are challenged by the need to invent their own parenting style. This can only happen from within, based on our personal values and boundaries. Jesper Juul puts it very clearly: "The love we feel for our children and our partners does not in itself have any value. It has no value at all until it is converted into loving behavior." Each chapter focuses on the values that form a solid platform on which to build a family: Equal dignity, Integrity, Authenticity and Responsibility. This makes family life more meaningful and parents avoid living frantically from conflict to conflict, desperately searching for quick solutions and trying to adapt to the most popular parenting technique of the day. A book full of everyday examples and practical ideas.

This might be the most decisive book you can find in terms of defining your relationship with your partner, children, parents, siblings and close friends. Jesper Juul reveals with great insight why it is onlypossible to say "Yes!" to yourself when you also feel liberated and freeto say "No!" to others. By letting go of the obligation to be nice and the need to serve and please others, it is easier to connect with your true identity. Jesper Juul reveals the secret to developing and maintaining a healthy mind, social competence as well as staying true to yourself. When reading this practical book you will discover why "No!" is also called "the most loving answer" and therefore is the ultimate gift to yourself and those you hold near and dear.

In this excellent, short and instructive book - maybe one of Jesper Juul's best - he explains how to handle yourself as an adult in conflict with children. The many ideas, concepts and practical suggestions apply whether you are a parent or a professional working in the educational system. The title summarizes the essence of true dialogue and through plenty of everyday examples this book provides adults with alternatives to shouting, criticizing and blaming - while respecting the personal integrity of everyone involved. Jesper Juul shows how to use personal language and thereby develop relationships built on equal dignity. Ultimately, this book helps adults become more authentic so children can be treated as real people.

Readers comments:

A Fabulous, Important Book, Jesper Juul provides parents with such an amazing, simple, and absolutely vital approach to raising children that it rings true on every page. Some of what he suggests we as parents do is difficult - as it is against our "knee-jerk" reactions we may have learned from our parents, but all of it is right on about how we can raise confident, healthy, whole humans, right from the start. I was thrilled to have discovered a book that allowed me to see different possibilities with child raising. Anyone with a child will gain immensely from reading this book, seeing themselves (as I did, over and over again) in his numerous examples, and learning how to move on from there. Without reservation, I am grateful for this book and highly recommend it.

No Parent Should Be Without It,

There are not enough superlatives to describe how helpful this book has been to our family. With tremendous wisdom and a warm, pragmatic eye, Mr. Juul helps us redefine the ways we look at a child's behavior and our relationship to our children and ultimately, each other. This is a book that doesn't offer easy answers or 'tricks' to help in the raising of your child. This is a book that helps you see with a child's eye, hear with a child's ear, and feel with a child's heart in ways that feel so natural and obvious, you will wonder why you haven't thought of them before. But trust me, you haven't. It is a book that offers day-to-day skills along with the thinking that helps generate them, leaving the reader feeling smart and well-satisfied. This groundbreaking book should be on the shelf of all parents everywhere. If you read only one book on raising your child, this is the one.I cannot recommend it highly enough.

If you have children - read this book ,

This is an amazing book that will surely turn upside down any thoughts you ever had about raising children. Even though you may not agree with all the views in this book, there is so much food for thought and new ideas that you will return to this book again and again for interesting and mind blowing advice.

Essential reading for parents and childcare staff,

This book takes a giant step forward in our knowledge of what children really need. It is based on a wealth of practical experience, but provides a profound theoretical basis for our interactions with children. And is easy to read....The book is well-written, and reveals Jesper Juuls deep wisdom, love and understanding for both children and parents, as well as a good sense of humour and perspective.

An exploration of why we play video games despite the fact that we are almost certain to feel unhappy when we fail at them. We may think of video games as being "fun," but in The Art of Failure, Jesper Juul claims that this is almost entirely mistaken. When we play video games, our facial expressions are rarely those of happiness or bliss. Instead, we frown, grimace, and shout in frustration as we lose, or die, or fail to advance to the next level. Humans may have a fundamental desire to succeed and feel competent, but game players choose to engage in an activity in which they are nearly certain to fail and feel incompetent. So why do we play video games even though they make us unhappy? Juul examines this paradox. In video games, as in tragic works of art, literature, theater, and cinema, it seems that we want to experience unpleasantness even if we also dislike it. Reader or audience reaction to tragedy is often explained as catharsis, as a purging of negative emotions. But, Juul points out, this doesn't seem to be the case for video game players. Games do not purge us of unpleasant emotions; they produce them in the first place. What, then, does failure in video game playing do? Juul argues that failure in a game is unique in that when you fail in a game, you (not a character) are in some way inadequate. Yet games also motivate us to play more, in order to escape that inadequacy, and the feeling of escaping failure (often by improving skills) is a central enjoyment of games. Games, writes Juul, are the art of failure: the singular art form that sets us up for failure and allows us to experience it and experiment with it. The Art of Failure is essential reading for anyone interested in video games, whether as entertainment, art, or education.

Frau & Mutter Seit vielen Jahren werde ich gebeten, ein Buch uber Mutter zu schreiben. Das habe ich immer abgelehnt, einfach aufgrund der Tatsache, dass ich weder eine Frau noch eine Mutter bin und mein Wissen daher bestenfalls aus zweiter Hand stammt. Andererseits habe ich jetzt so viele Jahre als Therapeut, Berater und Padagoge mit Frauen und Muttern gearbeitet, und ich habe dadurch ein ziemlich umfassendes Verstandnis und Einfuhlungsvermogen fur Frauen und Mutter entwickelt, so dass ich jetzt beschlossen habe, dass es vielleicht in Ordnung ist, diesen Aufsatz zu schreiben. Wenn Sie eine Frau sind, hoffe ich, dass Sie meine Fursorge und Wertschatzung hinter dem spuren konnen, was Sie vielleicht als harte oder kritische Aussagen wahrnehmen. Wenn Sie ein Mann sind, ermutige ich Sie, einen ernsthaften Blick auf Ihre eigene Rolle zu werfen und den Einfluss zu sehen, den Sie als Sohn, Liebhaber, Partner und Elternteil haben. Jesper Juul"

How casual games like Guitar Hero, Bejeweled, and those for Nintendo Wii are expanding the audience for video games. We used to think that video games were mostly for young men, but with the success of the Nintendo Wii, and the proliferation of games in browsers, cell phone games, and social games video games changed changed fundamentally in the years from 2000 to 2010. These new casual games are now played by men and women, young and old. Players need not possess an intimate knowledge of video game history or devote weeks or months to play. At the same time, many players of casual games show a dedication and skill that is anything but casual. In A Casual Revolution, Jesper Juul describes this as a reinvention of video games, and of our image of video game players, and explores what this tells us about the players, the games, and their interaction. With this reinvention of video games, the game industry reconnects with a general audience. Many of today's casual game players once enjoyed Pac-Man, Tetris, and other early games, only to drop out when video games became more time-consuming and complex. Juul shows that it is only by understanding what a game requires of players, what players bring to a game, how the game industry works, and how video games have developed historically that we can understand what makes video games fun and why we choose to play (or not to play) them. Important Notice: The digital edition of this book is missing some of the images found in the physical edition.

Video games as both a departure from and a development of traditional games; an analysis of the interaction between rules and fiction in video games. A video game is half-real: we play by real rules while imagining a fictional world. We win or lose the game in the real world, but we slay a dragon (for example) only in the world of the game. In this thought-provoking study, Jesper Juul examines the constantly evolving tension between rules and fiction in video games. Discussing games from Pong to The Legend of Zelda, from chess to Grand Theft Auto, he shows how video games are both a departure from and a development of traditional non-electronic games. The book combines perspectives from such fields as literary and film theory, computer science, psychology, economic game theory, and game studies, to outline a theory of what video games are, how they work with the player, how they have developed historically, and why they are fun to play. Locating video games in a history of games that goes back to Ancient Egypt, Juul argues that there is a basic affinity between games and computers. Just as the printing press and the cinema have promoted and enabled new kinds of storytelling, computers work as enablers of games, letting us play old games in new ways and allowing for new kinds of games that would not have been possible before computers. Juul presents a classic game model, which describes the traditional construction of games and points to possible future developments. He examines how rules provide challenges, learning, and enjoyment for players, and how a game cues the player into imagining its fictional world. Juul's lively style and eclectic deployment of sources will make Half-Real of interest to media, literature, and game scholars as well as to game professionals and gamers.