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Volume 2 addresses a kaleidoscope of stories that primarily, but
not exclusively, occurred in the United States. It describes in
principle the trials, and tribulations of a recent immigrant to the
United States, and its derived lessons. The genesis of 'Letters to
Grant' was the birth of Grant on the last day of 2009, and the
realization of a 70-year-old grandfather, that he has an extremely
limited time window for transferring his life lessons to his
grandson. Facing this dilemma, this book is the grandfathers
attempt to circumvent the time problem by means of specific actual
short stories and derived general lessons. 'Letters to Grant'
starts with stories that occurred during the prosecution of World
War II in Germany and the living conditions during that time, and
its impact on the then very young grandfather. The content of
Volume 1 deals primarily with family stories, initially the ones
that took place in the grandfathers' birth country, Germany, and
later, the ones that happened in his adopted country, The United
States of America. The structure of the book lends itself as a
template for other grandparents to write their own unique family
stories and general lessons for their grandchildren to learn. The
following is a sample of the first 25 lessons derived from the
various stories: Lessons for Pre-Teenage Years 1)Let your mother
know your feelings about her. It is essential that you tell her
frequently how you feel about her and how indispensable she is to
you. 2)Your mother will always be your biggest ally. Let her know
that you appreciate her efforts. 3)Family is vital; never forget
that. 4)Never forget that time together is short and always
remember that we have no control over time. Therefore, use all the
available time together wisely. 5)Parents try to better the lives
of their children, even though the recipients might not appreciate
it all the time. 6)Choose your friends wisely. They will have a
tremendous impact on your life. 7)It is not the number of close
friends you have, but the quality of friends that are relevant.
8)Friends help you in your maturing process. Good friends tell you
openly and honestly when you stray from your values. 9)Good friends
help each other without attaching any conditions. 10)Dogs are
devoted companions for little kids. While a little kid might try to
wander away from his buddy, a dog will never do the same. Lose a
kid with a dog, find the dog and you find the kid. 11)Even dogs
know their limit. Do not underestimate the value of a smart,
dependable dog. 12)Help a dog and gain a friend. Life has a way to
reward praiseworthy deeds in entirely unexpected ways. Hundi turned
out to be a true protector of our kids. 13)Not all dogs are
friendly to all people. 14)Respect the territory of a mean dog.
15)If a dog can flatten, tires imagine what it can do to your legs
16)Desire beats talent every day 17)If you want to learn, occupy
the first row to be as close as possible to the teacher. 18)If you
want to be a troublemaker, also occupy the first row to be as close
as possible to the teacher. 19)It is fascinating that the front row
offers the greatest latitude for both desires. It is a hiding spot
as well as a spot for greatest learning exposure. 20)Teachers
always assume that their best students are up front, thus pay
little attention to their occupants as a source of disturbance. 21)
Never occupy the back row. You cannot learn and cannot make
trouble. 22)See your teacher as a catalyst for your future
development. Use them as a source of guidance and direction.
23)Transfers from one location to the next can be a terrifically
dramatic experience to kids. 24)Assuring the best possible learning
environment is crucial for a smooth transition. 25)Teachers will be
a hugely significant part during your development years. They can
make you or break you. Find one that tries to help and not to hurt
or otherwise damage you.
John Hunt is a kind and gregarious man. His eyes twinkle and his
face beams. He is a retired businessman and still retains that
drive. I met John the summer of 2000. He came for the graduation
ceremony of the crew of students that Jason had led, and we talked.
Jason had a difficult course which is common for new instructors.
The next summer Jason emerged as a solid leader and had a wonderful
course. Several months later while on a climbing vacation in
British Columbia Jason took a tragic fall. His family's reaction
was to create a foundation in Jason's name that supported his love
of the outdoors. The Jason William Hunt Foundation had had
tremendous impact on many people especially young people in
transition who want to expand their horizons. This happens in an
outdoor setting lead by instructors like Jason. It happens every
summer at the Wilderness School. John's only son, Jason, will
forever be twenty-four years old. My son John is twenty-five. Our
sons like many young men seek adventure. Parents care deeply about
their children and the fear of losing a child dwells in all of us.
How does a parent cope with the tragic loss of their beloved child?
Walking with Jason is a quest to trace Jason's brief life as a
young man. John becomes the youthful adventurer and visits Jason's
world. John seemingly falls through the looking glass and discovers
a mysterious and wonderful world inhabited by troubled adolescents,
craggy Thru-hikers, idealistic outdoor leaders and others who visit
nature's realm. Ultimately John's odyssey is a very personal
journey of self-discovery and gives us a compass bearing on how to
deal with the sudden loss of a child. I will forever be connected
to Jason, Danielle, Amy, Rosemarie and John. Thank you for generous
hearts and concern for youth. Tom Dyer, L.C.S.W. Instructor 1980 -
1983 Director Youth Wilderness School 1983-2009 Founding Director
Wilderness School, East Hartland, CT 1990
There is a battle that has been brewing for centuries. Between good
and evil. Between Heaven and Hell. And Abigail Johns is about to
find herself caught in the middle of it. Eighteen-year-old Abigail
has been bouncing around foster cares her whole life. Never truly
understanding who she is or where she came from. Things are finally
looking up for her when she starts University. However, at night
she has been having dreams of a blue-eyed stranger. Captivated and
intrigued by him, she wonders who this stranger is? And why is she
dreaming of him? Her questions are soon answered, when she comes
face to face with him. Gabriel has been watching Abigail from afar
her whole life, waiting for the right moment so that he can explain
her history and prepare Abigail for what lies ahead. War. Abigail
is now thrust into a world full of angels, demons, shapeshifters
and the supernatural. She must overcome her skepticism and put
aside her growing feelings for Gabriel, to discover the inner
strength and unlock her secret powers. For Abigail is the only one
who can save the world from the rise of Lucifer. Together, with
help from their alliance, they will try and defeat Abaddon, the
general of Hell, and Lucifer himself.
Ever see someone, and when you left their sight, you could not stop
thinking about them? Or have you ever been a part of something so
powerful, that when it was all over, it was still a part of you for
years to come? It helped to define who you were? Did that person
that you saw briefly make an impact on you? Did he/she pleasantly
stain your mind, forcing you to take action, and when you did, only
great things came from it? Life is about the impacts people and
situations make on you and what you make of them. They define who
you are. Sometimes it's hard to let go, but not being able to let
go is when you know, that the person you saw for a split second was
meant to be more than a passerby. That person was meant to help
define and create you. Won't you let them?
I wish I had a pound for every time I had been asked as a therapist
and as a mother: "Linda how did you manage the teenage years" or
"From a psychological point of view what advice would you give to
parents raising teenagers?" There is not a parent that I know that
has swum through the teenager years of their offspring without some
difficulty; it is part of the course. However from my experience if
these years are managed in a healthy way then the terrible teen
years end between nineteen and twenty one. If however, they are
managed in an unhealthy way then the challenging behaviours of our
offspring can go on further into their twenties and sometimes early
thirties. Therefore if your hard work is done between twelve and
eighteen, then hopefully you will have lovely, respectful and
healthy functioning adults. My husband and I are survivors of five
teenage children; I say survivors because it does feel like a
survival of the fittest at times, therefore we decided that we have
enough knowledge and experience between us to write this book. We
have the experience of joint parenting, being single parents and of
being step parents to teenage children. And we have lived to tell
the tale One of the first things that we discussed when thinking
about the structure of this book was; if there was one resource
that a parent would need the most when raising teenagers what would
it be and we both agreed it would be: A SENSE OF HUMOUR This is why
we decided to run humour through our book, with jokes and comical
quotes as it is, we felt an important tool to have in your survival
kit. However we hope that it looks at the serious side to teenage
difficulties too. Although we very much look at the negative
behaviours in this book, we want to acknowledge that they do have
positive qualities and can be very endearing sometimes. This book
focuses on the challenging behaviours of teenagers and it is
specifically for parents that are struggling with these
difficulties. "No child comes with an instruction book" you will
hear many parents and professionals say. Well this is in a sense an
instruction book, although we have to bear in mind that all
children are unique and what works for one child may not work for
another. These are basic guidelines for parents to adopt and adapt
to suit their unique child. If you have got this far in the
parenting process, than you have done a pretty good job. You have
got through the 'terrible two's, ' the 'where, what and why three
and four's, ' the 'messy five to seven's', the 'argumentative eight
to ten' years and the 'stroppy ten to twelve' years.
Congratulations You have survived those stages and are still
smiling. Now you are at your final stage before they go out into
the big wide world and may eventually have kids of their own, with
lessons learned that will help them with their own parenting skills
and you can relax and enjoy the joys of being a Grandparent.
Whether your teen is a slight problem or a nightmare, you can
learn from my experiences raising a teenage sociopath. There is
always hope, with God's help. God can give you peace, even when
your life is in chaos.
In light of recent events, Americans are looking more at the
complex reasons that cause shootings. A significant number place
the blame with parents not paying enough attention to their
children, and of course, mental illness. It has been shown from
previous shootings that usually these young people feel like
outsiders because they don't have a peer group's respect and
support, and they felt unloved at home. Love is one primary
inhibitor to bad behavior. I show in my book that there are three
primary inhibitors that will make a difference with the behavior of
most children.
With our complicated lives, all the distractions and demands on
each of us, we have to make the most of the time we have with our
children. If the influence of the three primary inhibitors is not
being felt by your children, then they may not have moral
restraints to prevent bad choices.
Bullying, gangs, social media, smartphones, reality TV . . . meet
the real-life firewall for keeping teens safe How To Connect With
Your iTeen is the lifeline every Twenty-First century parent or
educator needs. This realistic guide shows adults how to reopen
communication with "silent" teenage boys and cut through the drama
of teenage girls. Written in clear, straightforward language, it
offers successful techniques for navigating everything from
socially complex issues surrounding sexting and bullying to such
everyday challenges around school and homework. This evidence-based
guide equips you with: Effective strategies to nurture and develop
the 6 essential characteristics teens need to become productive and
successful adults-no matter how they define success Dependable ways
to maintain authority and stay emotionally connected to teens in a
world of longer work hours, interrupted conversations, and planned
activities Reliable methods for keeping teens safe and protecting
their privacy
Growing Up Silent in the 1950s likely will become the definitive
social history of the Silent Generation. Whether you were a part of
this generation or have no idea there was such a generation, here
you will find the answer to the central question: Who are the
Silent Generation and why were they not acknowledged? Those of the
Silent Generation have been called deferential, well-mannered, and
book smart conformists. They did what they were expected to do,
putting responsibilities first, always postponing who they wanted
to be. They were reared in a contradictory world, living their
youth in the safest time in history, yet always worried about "the
bomb." Curwensville Joint High School Class of 1955, already
identified by researchers as the year most representative of the
Silent Generation, serves as the archetype of what it really was
like growing up during the 1950s with comments and recollections
from twenty percent of the class members.
Grant Erikssen likes women, but he doesn't claim to understand
them. He can only chronicle his encounters, and their long-lasting
effects, as he seeks to unlock their secrets. In Adrift on the
River of Love, author Erik Granstrom presents a collection of fi
fteen fi ctionalized short stories as a tribute to many of the
girls Grant knew as a boy, the women he met later as a Lieutenant
in the army and, still later, the women he loves as a man.
In this work, covering more than sixty years, each vignette
illustrates women who changed Erikssen's life forever, as they
kindled his emotions and gave him rare insights into life. Combined
with the themes throughout of affection and desire, Adrift muses
about unrequited love-the kind of love that, as the days dwindle
down, we come to cherish most of all.
"Lizzy and the Light Below" gives mothers a beautiful tool for
explaining and celebrating their daughters' first menstruation.
Going beyond the important message that menstruation is a natural
process and a sign of good health and fertility, this story tells
how a girl named Lizzy--who has just had her first
period--accidentally journeys to a friendly otherworld where she
learns that human culture originated from the earliest women's
understanding of their menstruation--from their simple mathematics
of counting the moon's phases to their development of the earliest
religious beliefs and practices, and more. Her otherworld guide,
Luciela, The Keeper of the Light Below, tells her that, now that
she is a Changing Girl, her resepectful attention to her body,
feelings, and thoughts during menstruation can be a way for her to
stay true to her dreams, revitalize her relationships, and renew
the world. The book is written to be read aloud, but could be given
to a girl to read alone. To provide mothers with background for the
book's historical and anthropological claims, the third edition
includes an introduction that condenses a part of the author's
doctoral studies.
Kylie Landry has a big problem. She has been left behind in
elementary school while her best friend and older brother has moved
on up to middle school. She has become invisible to all the people
that matter most to her. She has to face the changes in her life in
order to move on.
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