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From an award-winning playwright "who splits the difference between
David Rakoff and Larry David" (New York magazine)--a "compulsively
readable debut" (Time Out New York) of big-hearted,
laugh-until-you-can't-breathe essays, stories, and riffs on finding
love and intimacy in New York City. Since moving to New York a
decade ago, award-winning writer and performer Isaac Oliver has
pined for countless strangers on the subway, slept with half the
people in his Washington Heights neighborhood, and observed the
best and worst of humanity from behind the glass of a Times Square
theater box office. Whether he's hooking up with a man who dresses
as a dolphin, suffering on airplanes and buses next to people with
Food From Home, or hovering around an impenetrable circle of
attractive people at a cocktail party, Oliver captures the messy,
moving, and absurd moments of urban life as we live it today. In
this uproariously funny debut collection, he serves up a comedic
cornucopia of sketches, vignettes, lists, and diaries from his life
as a young, fanciful, and extremely single gay man in New York
City. "Oliver has mastered the art of self-deprecation...he can
find humor and heart in the unlikeliest of places," raves
Entertainment Weekly. Culled from years of heartbreak, hook-ups,
and more awkwardness than a virgin at prom and a whore in church
(and he should know because he's been both), Intimacy Idiot
chronicles Oliver's encounters with love, infatuation, resilience,
and self-acceptance that echo our universal desire for intimacy of
all kinds.
When Iris Yvonne Bialosky died in an assisted care facility on March 29, 2020, it unleashed a torrent of emotions in her daughter, Jill Bialosky. Grief, of course, but also guilt, confusion, and doubt, all of which were compounded by the arrival of the COVID-19 pandemic which made it impossible for Jill to be with her mother as she was dying and to attend her mother’s funeral.
Now, with a poet’s eye for detail and a novelist’s flair for storytelling, Jill presents a profoundly moving elegy unlike any other. Starting with her mother’s end and the physical/cognitive decline that led her to a care home, The End Is the Beginning explores Iris’s battle with depression, the tragedy of a daughter’s suicide, a failed second marriage, the death of her beloved first husband only five years into their young marriage, her joyful teenage years, and the trauma of losing her own mother at just eight years old. Compounding her challenges of raising four daughters without a livelihood or partner, Iris’s life coincided with an age of unstoppable social change and reinvention, when the roles of wife and mother she was raised to inhabit ceased to be the guarantors of stability and happiness.
As we see Iris become younger and younger, we learn how we are all the sum of our experiences. Iris becomes a multi-dimensional, fascinating woman. We come to understand her difficulties and shortcomings, her neediness and her generosity, her pride and her despair. The End Is the Beginning is not just a family memoir, it is a brave and compassionate celebration of a woman’s life and death and a window into a daughter’s inextricable bond to her mother.
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