Originally published in 1988, GETTING THE LOVE YOU WANT has helped thousands of couples attain more loving, supportive and deeply satisfying relationships. In this groundbreaking book, Dr Harville Hendrix shares with you what he has learned about the psychology of love during more than thirty years of working as a therapist and helps you transform your relationship into a lasting source of love and companionship. For this edition of his classic book, Dr Hendrix and his wife, Helen LaKelly Hunt, have added a new introduction describing the powerful influence this book has had on so many people over the years. With its step-by-step programme, GETTING THE LOVE YOU WANT will help you create a loving, supportive and revitalized partnership.

Harville Hendrix has illuminated the paths to loving, long-lasting relationships in his "New York Times" bestsellers "Getting the Love You Want" and "Keeping the Love You Find." Now, with coauthor and wife Helen LaKelly Hunt, he brings us to a new understanding about one of the most complicated issues facing couples today:

Receiving Love

Many men and women know how to "give" love, but many more undermine their relationships by never having learned how to accept it. We don't always realize the ways in which we reject appreciation and affection, help and guidance from our romantic partners. And, according to Hendrix and Hunt, until we are able to understand the meaning behind our behavior, our relationships stand to suffer. Ask yourself:

"Are you reluctant to tell your partner what you really want or need?

When you do get what you've asked for, do you still feel dissatisfied?

Is it difficult for you to accept kind gestures, gifts, or compliments from your partner?"

If you answered yes to any of the above, this book is for you. With "Receiving Love," you can learn how to break the shackles of self-rejection -- which likely began in childhood, when our caretakers unintentionally failed to nurture us -- and embrace real intimacy. Drawing on their renowned expertise, the wide clinical experience of Imago therapists, and their own personal experience as a married couple, the authors offer detailed, sensitive advice on how to turn a relationship between two well-meaning yet misunderstood individuals into a true, everlasting partnership.

A companion workbook to the enormously successful "New York Times" bestselling relationship book, "Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples."
In 1988, Harville Hendrix in partnership with his wife, Helen LaKelly Hunt, published a terrifically successful relationship guide, "Getting the Love You Want." The book introduced thousands to their Imago Relationship Therapy, a unique healing process for couples, prospective couples, and parents, and developed into an overnight sensation. For their part, Doctors Hendrix and Hunt managed to aid scores of couples in their plight for more loving, supportive, and deeply satisfying relationships. Now, more than a decade later, this companion book picks up where its predecessor left off, delving further into relationship therapy once again, to help transform relationships into lasting sources of love and companionship.
The "Getting the Love You Want Workbook" is designed for the hundreds of thousands of couples who have attended Imago workshops since "Getting the Love You Want" hit bookstands, as well as new and curious ones seeking a practical route back to intimacy and passionate friendship. The workbook contains a unique twelve-week course (The New Couples' Study Guide) designed to help work through the exercises published in Part III of "Getting the Love You Want." Included are complete step-by-step instructions for transforming relationships into a lasting source of love and companionship.
For those of us struggling to maintain our most precious relationships, the "Getting the Love You Want Workbook" helps us grow aware of our individual, unconscious agenda while steering us towards a more harmonious link with our loved ones that will satisfy our deepest needs.

Your dream of finding a partner is a natural and normal human instinct and your dream is perfectly achievable. Whatever your history, whatever your heartbreak, as a single person you are in an ideal position to learn what you need to know what what you can do to greatly improve your chances for finding, and keeping, love.

With "Keeping the Love You Find, " renowned relationship therapist and bestselling author Harville Hendrix will help you to:

• IDENTIFY your Imago -- the fantasy partner that your unconscious mind, which has a hidden agenda of its own, has chosen for you
• BREAK FREE from those patterns in your parents' marriage that you have unknowingly accepted as your relationship model
• CREATE hope in place of despair, companionship instead of loneliness
• DEVELOP communication skills to turn conflict into contact -- and togetherness
• TRANSFORM every past relationship into a source of positive growth
• DISCOVER the rewards of real love -- and the little things that make it last

...and more. Filled with wisdom and compassion, "Keeping the Love You Find" will help get your next relationship off to the best start and keep your love strong for a lifetime.

Developed by Harville Hendrix and Helen LaKelly Hunt in the 1980s, Imago Relationship Therapy helps couples-and everyone in significant relationships-shift from conflict to connection by transforming the quality of their interactions. Now, for the first time, the essential principles and practices of Imago, as illustrated in the New York Times bestseller Getting the Love You Want, are presented for the benefit of both novice and seasoned clinicians. Using the Imago processes, couples create a Conscious Partnership in which they feel safe, fully alive and joyful, learning to be mutually empathic for each other's childhood challenges and present to each other without judgement. Hendrix and Hunt help couples learn and practise Imago Dialogue, moving from blame and reactivity to mutual acceptance, affirmation and empathy, thus deepening their connection. Joining theory and practice with elegance, and filled with examples, exercises and dialogues, this is a book no couple's therapist can afford to be without.

Imago Relationship Therapy

It's been more than three decades since Harville Hendrix and Helen LaKelly Hunt--the best-selling authors of Getting the Love You Want and Keeping the Love You Find--created Imago Relationship Therapy. Their concept of the "conscious marriage" introduced a new paradigm for understanding the dynamics of couples. Since that time more than two thousand clinicians in twenty-eight countries have adopted and implemented this highly effective form of couples therapy.

This groundbreaking book offers an overview of the highly successful Imago Relationship Therapy (IRT) and the relationship of IRT with preceding schools of thought such as psychoanalytic theory, family systems theories, affect theory, and self-psychology. At the heart of IRT is a three-step process involving mirroring (reflecting) the partner's feelings, validating the partner's point of view, and expressing empathy toward the partner's feelings. Imago Relationship Therapy traces IRT's history and explosive growth and outlines the differences and similarities between Imago theory and other models of couples therapy. The book also presents some of the ideas of prominent Imago thinkers, such as the central role of connectivity and the problem of envy in committed relationships.

"A uniquely important book for the practitioner, which provides clinical wisdom and a rare look into the heart and soul of Imago Relationship Therapy."
--Pat Love, Ed.D., author, The Truth About Love

Harville Hendrix has illuminated the paths to healthy, loving relationships in his New York Times bestsellers Getting the Love You Want and Keeping the Love You Find. Now, with his coauthor and wife, Helen Hunt, he brings us to a new understanding of the most profound love of all -- by helping parents nurture their own development as they encourage emotional wholeness in their children.

This groundbreaking book offers a unique opportunity for personal transformation: by resolving issues that originated in our own childhood, we can achieve a conscious, and thus healthier, relationship with our children, regardless of their age. Harville Hendrix and Helen Hunt help us explore:

• The Imago -- the fantasy partner that our unconscious mind constructs from those we loved as a child, a that has guided our search for a life partner
• Maximizer and Minimizer parents -- the defensive styles that internally shape what we say and how interact with our children
• A Parenting Process that helps to end the "cycle of wounding" -- the handing-down of wounding we received as children -- as we raise our own children
• Safety, Support, and Structure -- how to give children what they really need from us
• Modeling Adulthood -- using our healed sense of self as a model for our children.

With other practical, insightful approaches that can powerfully shape the parent-child bond, Giving the Love that Heals gives us the keys to helping our children to become healthy, responsible, and caring people.

In Getting the Love You Want, Dr. Harville Hendrix and Dr. Helen Hunt offer the relationship skills that have helped millions of couples replace confrontation and criticism with a process of mutual support that facilitates healing and growth at any stage of a relationship. This extraordinary practical guide describes the revolutionary technique that combines a number of disciplines - including the behavioural sciences, depth psychology, social learning theory, Gestalt therapy, and interpersonal neurosciences, among others - to create a program that transforms conflict into creative tension that deepens connection and renews passion. In a new forward and chapter, Hendrix and Hunt offer a new perspective of what a relationship is and where we should focus our attention and energy. Reversing the assumption that prioritises the individual, the authors show how tending to the needs of the relationship first will ensure that the needs of the individual are met. By shifting our conversational methods away from negativity and towards affirmation, a safe and encouraging environment is built that reduces anxiety and allows couples to thrive. The chapter also includes practical exercises - proven invaluable in couple's therapy - to achieve the goal of intimate partnership full of life, joy, and wonder.

Change the relationship you have into the one you want.
Welcome to the Relationship Revolution "Making Marriage Simple "is the accessible, essential road map to building a strong marriage in the modern world. Bestselling authors Harville Hendrix and Helen LaKelly Hunt distill into ten essential truths what they've learned about how to create a successful and satisfying relationship--both from their decades of "R&D" in the marriage lab of their workshops, and from their own relationship journey. In each chapter, Harville and Helen introduce a simple truth--such as "a frustration is a wish in disguise," "incompatibility is grounds for marriage," or "conflict is growth trying to happen"--and then walk couples through easy yet effective exercises to help them apply each truth in real life, every day.
Harville and Helen have spent their careers helping couples transform their marriages through research, workshops, and counseling. But marriage--even for marriage experts--is never easy, and a number of years ago they found themselves on the brink of divorce. Harville and Helen put themselves back through the exercises they'd coached so many other couples through, saving their marriage and helping them achieve a true partnership.
This book is for all couples. It offers the practical tools needed to transform one's relationship into a rewarding and joyous marriage. Written with humor, compassion, and honesty, and illustrated throughout with engaging line drawings, "Making Marriage Simple "is a strategic blueprint for creating a stronger, more satisfying partnership in today's world.

"A companion workbook to the critically acclaimed relationship book"

Receiving Love: Transform Your Relationship by Letting Yourself Be Loved

In 2004, Harville Hendrix and his wife, Helen LaKelly Hunt, co-creators of Imago Relationship Therapy, authored "Receiving Love," a critically acclaimed guide to cultivating a loving, long-lasting relationship that "Publishers Weekly" called "intelligent and insightful . . . wise and sophisticated." Now, in the "Receiving Love Workbook," Hendrix and Hunt have constructed a companion to that groundbreaking book in which they outline a simple, practical plan that will help you to apply the advice and exercises in "Receiving Love" to your own relationship.

"Receiving Love" showed that while many men and women know how to "give" love, many more undermine their relationships by never having learned how to accept it. The "Receiving Love Workbook" will help you and your partner to explore the effect that this type of self-rejection has had in your individual lives and in your relationship as a couple. It contains a unique twelve-week course designed to help you work through the exercises in "Receiving Love," It provides the same step-by-step instructions and examples that couples who participate in a couples' workshop or work with an Imago Relationship Therapist would experience.

For those who are ready to take specific steps to surmount the self-rejection and heal its causes, the "Receiving Love Workbook" will help you to make the changes that will establish an easy, natural pattern of giving and receiving love and that will create the relationship of your dreams.

Harville Hendrix's New York Times bestseller Keeping the Love You Find offered essential relationship strategies to those seeking a mate for life. Now, Harville and his wife, Helen Hunt, bring the life-changing messages of that enormously popular book to The Personal Companion. Combining practical advice, humor, and enlightening wisdom, these daily meditations and exercises provide powerful insights that can help anyone create unlimited possibilities for finding -- and keeping -- love.

Whatever your history, whatever your heartache, your dreams of finding a truly compatible mate are completely achievable, not through luck or extraordinary skill, but by taking daily steps toward inner growth and positive change. With The Personal Companion as your guide, you can move closer to a joyful, healing love, as you:

• Create hope in place of despair, companionship instead of loneliness

• Develop a communication skill that turns conflict into contact and bonding

• Transform every past relationship into a source of positive growth

• Reflect on your inner self -- and what you want out of love

• Identify and change how you prevent yourself from keeping the love you find

• Discover the rewards of real love -- and the little things that make it last.

With wisdom and compassion, Harville Hendrix and Helen Hunt give you the keys to sharing in the deep and lasting love you desire, in The Personal Companion.