Trust is the fuel for all of life. We are wired biologically, neurologically, emotionally, spiritually, and psychologically to trust. Trust is the currency that drives every relationship, beginning with the foundational bond between infants and their mothers, extending to the trust networks that undergird every human endeavor – art, science, commerce – and binding together every relationship we have ever had or ever will have. Nothing in our world works without trust.

It is tempting to think that trust is simple, that we should be able to spot a lack of trustworthiness relatively easily. But we all have our stories about misplaced trust. We either missed clear or subtle warning signs or there just were not any warning signs to see. Everything looked good on the surface, and maybe it was. But we got burned anyway.

And sometimes we struggle to earn and keep the trust of those around us when trust bonds fail to form or are broken. When trust breaks down, so does our ability to move forward.

In Trust, Knowing When To Give It, When To Withhold It, How To Earn It And How To Fix It When It Gets Broken, Dr. Cloud explores the five foundational aspects of trust that must be present for any relationship to function successfully and helps us to understand how to implement them. He also guides us through the difficult process of repairing trust when it has been violated and broken, even when restoring trust feels impossible.

Rich with wisdom drawn from decades of experience in clinical practice, business consulting and research, Trust is the ultimate resource for managing this most complex and fundamental of human bonds, allowing us to experience more fruitful and rewarding relationships in every area of our lives.

Boundaries, a New York Times bestseller, will give you the tools you need to learn to say yes and know how to say no.

Drs. Henry Cloud and John Townsend are here to share the lessons they've learned in their years of practicing psychology and studying the patterns and practices that support clear biblical boundaries.

Since it was first published, Boundaries has supported millions of people around the world as they discover the importance of understanding their limitations and upholding their boundaries.

In this updated and expanded edition of Boundaries, Drs. Cloud and Townsend answer the most common questions they've received in more than thirty years that they've studied the science behind establishing boundaries:

• Can I set limits and still be a loving person?
• What are legitimate boundaries?
• How do I effectively manage my digital life so that it doesn't control me?
• What if someone is upset or hurt by my boundaries?
• How do I answer someone who wants my time, love, energy, or money?
• Why do I feel guilty or afraid when I consider setting boundaries?
• How do boundaries relate to mutual submission within marriage?
• Aren't boundaries selfish?

Discover the countless ways that Boundaries can change your life for the better today!

Voel alles in jou lewe buite beheer? Dalk voel dit of jy vir almal in jou lewe moet ja sê. Dalk neem jy verantwoordelikheid vir ander se emosies en probleme. Of dalk fokus jy so baie daarop om liefdevol en onselfsugtig te wees dat jy vergeet het waar jou eie beperkings lê. Of is dit alles dalk waar van jou?

In Grense: Wanneer Om Ja te Sê en Hoe Om Nee Te Sê Om Beheer Te Neem Van Jou Lewe help dr. Henry Cloud en dr. John Townsend jou om te weet wanneer om ja te sê en hoe om nee te sê sodat jy weer in beheer is van jou lewe en gesonde grense kan stel vir jou eggenoot, kinders, vriende, ouers, kollegas – en selfs jouself! Dit sal lesers help om hierdie moeilike vrae te beantwoord:

• Kan ek grense stel en steeds ’n liefdevolle persoon wees?
• Wat is gesonde grense?
• Hoe kan ek my digitale wêreld bestuur sodat dit my nie beheer nie?
• Wat as my grense iemand ontstel of seermaak?
• Hoe antwoord ek iemand wat my tyd, liefde, energie of geld wil hê?
• Hoekom voel ek skuldig of bang wanneer ek daaraan dink om grense te stel?
• Hoe rym grense met wedersydse onderdanigheid in die huwelik?
• Is dit nie selfsugtig om grense te stel nie?

Jou lewe hoef nie buite beheer te raak nie. Ontdek hoe grense jou lewe vandag beter kan maak!

Boundaries with Kids will help parents: Recognize the boundary issues underlying child behavior problems Set boundaries and establish consequences with kids Get out of the nagging trap Stop controlling their kids---and instead help their children develop self-control Apply the ten laws of boundaries to parenting Take six practical steps for implementing boundaries with their kids Want to Paint a Happy Future for Your Children? Start Drawing the Line Today. One of the most loving things parents can do for their children is set firm boundaries with them. Boundaries with Kids will help the parents in your group raise their kids to take responsibility for their own actions, attitudes, and emotions. In eight sessions, Drs. Henry Cloud and John Townsend offer tools and insights for bringing order to problematic circumstances and cultivating healthier parent-child relationships in the home. This leader s guide gives you the clear, step-by-step instructions you need to maximize interaction, support, and insights within your group. Most of the preparation has been done for you---just follow the easy-to-use lesson plan, complete with helpful tips. Because this book includes the full text of the participant s guide, it s the only guidebook you need to track page-for-page with your group. Boundaries with Kids sessions: 1. Building Character in Kids 2. Kids Need Parents with Boundaries 3. The Law of Sowing and Reaping and the Law of Responsibility 4. The Laws of Power and Respect 5. The Laws of Motivation and Evaluation 6. The Laws of Proactivity and Envy 7. The Laws of Activity and Exposure 8. Six Steps to Implementing Boundaries with Your Kids"

Becoming an Adult: Advice on Taking Control and Living a Happy and Meaningful Life focuses on the growth, connecting, separating, and choices that every human being must go through. Dr. Henry Cloud highlights key issues that individuals face as they are tasked with navigating adulting.

Some of the topics discussed are:

• Dependency, authority, and boundaries.
• Reevaluating beliefs, decision making, and discipline.
• Sexuality, fear of disapproval, and guilt.

Dr. Cloud teaches us how to become a healthy, productive, and faithful adult in society. With clear, insightful, and easy-to-follow guidelines, Dr. Cloud is a relatable and trustworthy voice. After reading Becoming an Adult, readers will:

• Learn how to bond with others and strengthen their existing relationships
• Be able to separate from others and identify a better sense of self
• Grow emotionally and spiritually
• Identify how to make their own path that aligns with their interests and beliefs

This New York Times bestselling and award-winning book helps readers set healthy boundaries in order to be the loving people God created, and now offers a whole new chapter. Are you in control of your life? Christians often focus so much on being loving and giving that they forget their own limits and limitations. Have you ever found yourself wondering: Can I set limits and still be a loving person? How do I answer someone who wants my time, love, energy, or money? Why do I feel guilty when I consider setting boundaries?In this Gold Medallion Award-winning book and New York Times bestseller, Drs. Henry Cloud and John Townsend give you biblically based answers to these and other tough questions, and show you how to set healthy boundaries with your parents, spouses, children, friends, coworkers, and even with yourself. This updated and expanded edition specifically addresses boundaries in the digital age, online dating, single parenting, and the workplace.Boundaries are personal property lines that define who you are and who you are not, and influence all areas of your life - physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually.Unpacking ten laws of boundaries, Drs. Cloud and Townsend show you how to bring new health to your relationships. You'll discover firsthand how sound boundaries give you the freedom to walk as the loving, giving, fulfilled individual God created you to be.

In this Christian alternative to the phenomenal bestseller "The Secret," acclaimed author dr. Henry Cloud helps readers discover truths that make life work and show how faith can guide them in achieving their goals--now available in paperback
The Bible claims that God has provided special truths that can change lives and uplift the spirit, but often those truths lie dormant and untapped within the soul. Offering a positive alternative to "The Secret "based on biblical scripture, Dr. Henry Cloud reveals that there is indeed a power of attraction ruling the universe--the attraction between God and his creation--and demonstrates how that power can shape our lives. With step-by-step practical instructions, this book teaches readers from all walks of life how to apply spiritual truths to real life. Even Christians who think they understand biblical truths often don't know how to use them. Chapters on happiness, relationships, purpose, and God, share secrets like, "you attract to yourself relationships that fit you," "whatever you put to use will grow," and "there is no such thing as disconnected and happy." "The Secret Things of God "reveals profoundly simple secrets and gently guides readers toward unlocking the power of these truths in everyday life.

Rules for Romance That Can Help You Find the Love of Your Life Between singleness and marriage lies the journey of dating. Want to make your road as smooth as possible? Set and maintain healthy boundaries that will help you grow in freedom, honesty, and self-control. If many of your dating experiences have been difficult, Boundaries in Dating will revolutionize the way you handle relationships. Even if you re happily dating, the insights you ll gain from this much-needed book will help you fine-tune important areas of your dating life. Designed to accompany Boundaries in Dating, this workbook is your map for traveling the dating road. It s filled with pointed assessments, insights, questions for thought and discussion, and principles for you to put into practice in your relationships with the opposite sex. The Boundaries in Dating Workbook helps you deal with four critical concerns you face as a single person: You and Your Boundaries Whom Should I Date? Solving Dating Problems When You re Part of the Problem Solving Dating Problems When Your Date Is the Problem Written by the authors of the best-selling book Boundaries, this workbook can help you enjoy the kind of smart, rewarding dating that can take you from weekends alone to a lifetime with the soul mate you ve longed for."

Dr. Henry Cloud, bestselling author of the Boundaries series, offers a life-changing book that provides ten strategies for overcoming self-defeating life patterns that will help you redirect your mistakes and make way for success--physically, personally, and spiritually. Everyone makes mistakes, big and small. Sometimes our mistakes take us down the wrong path and send us spiraling into destructive life patterns, and sometimes we learn our lesson and never make the same mistake again. But how? How do we recognize destructive patterns, make new choices, and then follow through? In Never Go Back, bestselling author Dr. Henry Cloud shares ten doorways to success--and once we walk through these new pathways, we never go back again. His proven method--based on grace, not guilt--outlines ten common life patterns that sabotage success and lays out clear, concrete steps you can take to overcome them. You'll see your relationships flourish, your personal life enhanced, and your faith strengthened. Dr. Cloud's powerful message reveals doorways to understanding--once you enter them, you will get from where you were to where you want to be. With a winning combination of eternal principles, spiritual wisdom, and modern scientific data, Never Go Back will put your heart in the right place with yourself and with God.

An expert on the psychology of leadership and the bestselling author of Integrity, Necessary Endings, and Boundaries For Leaders identifies the critical ingredient for personal and professional wellbeing. Most leadership coaching focuses on helping leaders build their skills and knowledge and close performance gaps. These are necessary, but not sufficient. Using evidence from neuroscience and his work with leaders, Dr. Henry Cloud shows that the best performers draw on another vital resource: personal and professional relationships that fuel growth and help them surpass current limits. Popular wisdom suggests that we should not allow others to have power over us, but the reality is that they do, for better or for worse. Consider the boss who diminishes you through cutting remarks versus one who challenges you to get better. Or the colleague who always seeks the limelight versus the one who gives you the confidence to finish a difficult project. Or the spouse who is honest and supportive versus the one who resents your success. No matter how talented, intelligent, or experienced, the greatest leaders share one commonality: the power of the others in their lives. Combining engaging case studies, persuasive findings from cutting-edge brain research, and examples from his consulting practice, Dr. Cloud argues that whether you're a Navy SEAL or a corporate executive, outstanding performance depends on having the right kind of connections to fuel personal growth and minimize toxic associations and their effects. Presenting a dynamic model of the impact these different kinds of connections produce, Dr. Cloud shows readers how to get more from themselves by drawing on the strength and expertise of others. You don't have a choice whether or not others have power in your life, but you can choose what kinds of relationships you want.

Many years of counseling have enabled Dr. Henry Cloud to observe people trying to work out the most important issues of life: relationships, career, fulfillment, meaning, pain, hurt, loss, despair, and addictions. If we sincerely want to "get life right" and quit repeating the same mistakes over and over again, 9 Things You Simply Must Do provides the practical guidance we need to live life to its fullest . . . every moment.

What the Award-Winning Boundaries Has Done for Adult Relationships, Boundaries with Kids Will Do for You and Your Children This workbook helps you put the principles detailed in Boundaries with Kids to work in your family. Here at last is the help you need for raising your kids to take responsibility for their actions, attitudes, and emotions. Drs. Henry Cloud and John Townsend take you through the ins and outs of establishing family boundaries and cultivating sound character in your children. The clear, helpful exercises and applications in the Boundaries with Kids Workbook will help you make the leap from understanding to * identifying the boundary issues underlying child behavior problems * setting boundaries and establishing consequences with your kids * getting out of the nagging trap * relinquishing control and helping your child develop self-control instead * applying the ten laws of boundaries to parenting * taking six practical steps for implementing boundaries with your kids Step by step, you will take strides toward bringing control to an out-of-control family life, setting limits while still being a loving parent--and above all, instilling in your children the godly character that is the foundation for healthy, productive adult living."

Aprenda cuando decir que si y cuando decir que no ---a su conyuge y a otras personas--- para lograr lo maximo en su matrimonio. Solo cuando el esposo y la esposa conocen y respetan las necesidades, opciones y libertades del otro, pueden entregarse el uno al otro con libertad y amor. Los limites son los 'linderos' que definen y protegen a los esposos y esposas como individuos. Una vez que esos linderos estan en su lugar, un matrimonio que es bueno puede ser mejor, y el matrimonio que es menos que satisfactorio incluso puede salvarse. Los Drs. Henry Cloud y John Townsend, asesores y autores del galardonado exito de libreria Boundaries Limites], le muestran a las parejas como aplicar las diez leyes de los limites que pueden cambiar por completo sus relaciones personales. Ellos ayudan a los esposos y esposas a comprender los puntos de friccion o las heridas serias y traiciones en su matrimonio y a avanzar mas alla de eso hacia el cuidado, el respeto, la afirmacion y la intimidad mutua que ambos anhelan. Limites para el matrimonio ayuda a las parejas a * Fijar y mantener limites personales y respetar los de su conyuge * Establecer valores que forman una estructura y arquitectura santa para su matrimonio * Proteger su matrimonio de los diferentes tipos de 'intrusos' * Trabajar con un conyuge que entiende y valora los limites o con uno que no los entiende."

Lo que el galardonado Limites ha hecho por las relaciones entre adultos, Limites para nuestros hijos lo hara con ustedes y sus hijos. Aqui esta la ayuda que necesita para criar a unos hijos que tomen responsabilidad por sus actos, actitudes y emociones. Los doctores Henry Cloud y John Townsend les guiaran por la complicada travesia de formar un caracter en sus hijos que los ayude tener una vida adulta balanceada, productiva y llena de satisfaccion. APRENDA A: *Fijar limites manteniendose como un padre amoroso *Traer control a una vida familiar que esta fuera de control *Aplicar la 10 leyes de limites paternales *Definir los limites y las consecuencias adecuadas para sus hijos y mucho mas."

Esta su vida sin control? siente que la gente le utiliza? Le es dificil decir que no? Esta desilusionado con Dios por la falta de respuesta a sus oraciones? Estableces limites claros es esencial para obtener un estilo de vida sano y balanceado. Un limite es una linea de propiedad personal que marca las cosas de las que somos responsables. En otras palabras, es lo que define quienes somos, o quienes no somos, y afecta diferentes aspectos de nuestra vida: *Los limites fisicos nos ayudan a determinar quien nos pude tocar y bajo que circunstancia. *Los limites mentales nos dan la libertad de tener ideas y opiniones propias. *Los limites emocionales nos ayudan a tratar con nuestras propias emociones y a librarnos de las emociones daninas y manipuladoras de otros. *Los limites espirituales nos ayudan a distinguir entre la voluntad de Dios y la nuestra, nos dan temor a Dios."

"Dr. Cloud will show you how to produce the results you are looking for in your work and personal life." -Dr. Phil McGraw, #1 New York Times bestselling author From Dr. Henry Cloud, the million-copy selling author of Boundaries and Integrity, comes The One-Life Solution, an essential handbook that demonstrates how establishing a successful, happy, and rewarding business career can be achieved by setting physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual boundaries. Anyone who finds the chaos of the workday spilling over into their personal and family time-everyone who has ever wanted to have more control over the work and home aspects of their life-will find valuable answers in The One-Life Solution.

This workbook applies the lessons of Safe People to help you break out of unhealthy relationships and build healthy relationships that will help you thrive. Why do we choose the wrong people to get involved with? Is it possible to change? And if so, where does one begin? In manageable yet soul-searching steps that promote progress and inspire confidence, Drs. Henry Cloud and John Townsend walk you through how make safe choices in relationships, from family to friendship, romance, and work. Their expert guidance will help you: Correct things within you that jeopardize your relational security Learn the 20 traits of untrustworthy people Recognize what makes people relationally safe Avoid unhealthy relationships Form positive relationships Become a safe person yourself The Safe People Workbook may be the most important safety manual you'll ever read!

Trust is the fuel for all of life. We are wired biologically, neurologically, emotionally, spiritually, and psychologically to trust. Trust is the currency that drives every relationship, beginning with the foundational bond between infants and their mothers, extending to the trust networks that undergird every human endeavour - art, science, commerce - and binding together every relationship we have ever had or ever will have. Nothing in our world works without trust. It is tempting to think that trust is simple, that we should be able to spot a lack of trustworthiness relatively easily. But we all have our stories about misplaced trust. We either missed clear or subtle warning signs or there just were not any warning signs to see. Everything looked good on the surface, and maybe it was. But we got burned anyway. And sometimes we struggle to earn and keep the trust of those around us when trust bonds fail to form or are broken. When trust breaks down, so does our ability to move forward. Dr. Cloud explores the five foundational aspects of trust that must be present for any relationship to function successfully and helps us to understand how to implement them. He also guides us through the difficult process of repairing trust when it has been violated and broken, even when restoring trust feels impossible. Rich with wisdom drawn from decades of experience in clinical practice, business consulting and research, Trust is the ultimate resource for managing this most complex and fundamental of human bonds, allowing us to experience more fruitful and rewarding relationships in every area of our lives.

CinderGirl is a gripping and inspiring story of one young woman’s determination to overcome hardship in order to help others know they are not alone and they too can find wholeness after tragedy.

Her mother called her “laundry lady,” “stupid,” and “slut” so often that Christina Meredith rarely heard her own name as she grew up. Now Christina devotes her name to protecting abused and neglected children so no one has to have a childhood like hers.

Born into a large working-class family in upstate New York, Christina endured years of psychological and physical abuse before entering the foster care system as a teenager. With nowhere to turn after she graduated high school, Christina lived in her car for almost a year, working three jobs to survive.

As she read her Bible in her car every day, always looking over her shoulder for her birth mother, Christina had no idea that in just a few years she would be crowned Ms. California. She had no idea that her suffering would one day help others find their own healing. She did know God was faithful. And she never gave up hope for a better life.

In CinderGirl, Christina tells her incredible story of leaving behind abuse and homelessness to become Ms. California and the founder of the Christina Meredith Foundation, a nonprofit organization that provides support for foster care girls living in abusive situations.

With stunning vulnerability, Christina invites us into her childhood home and the heart of a child longing to be loved. She asks us to journey with her across the country and deep into a growing faith. She invites us to know more fully a God who provides, even in the most difficult situations. CinderGirl is a gripping and inspiring story of one young woman’s determination to overcome hardship in order to help others know they are not alone and they too can find wholeness after tragedy.

This hands-on workbook companion to Changes That Heal will help you apply Dr. Henry Cloud's revolutionary four steps of healing to your everyday decisions and relationships. Though we cannot change the past or control people in our lives today, we can change who we are and how we relate to others. What changes do you need to make to discover more joy, richer relationships, and freedom from old wounds? In this workbook companion to the groundbreaking bestseller Changes That Heal, Dr. Henry Cloud guides us through the four crucial tasks we need to complete on our way to lasting healing and growth: Connect deeply with others Set healthy boundaries at work, home, and church Distinguish between good and bad in ourselves and others Become mature emotionally, spiritually, and relationally Dr. Cloud helps you move forward with each task, overcome hurdles along the way, and draw closer to God. With chapter-by-chapter reflection questions, application ideas, prayers, and Bible study prompts, Changes That Heal Workbook is a great companion for both groups and individuals. Take your spiritual growth another step in this practical, life-changing guide to your personal healing.

Boundaries in Dating offers illuminating insights for romance that can help you grow in freedom, honesty, and self-control as you pursue healthy dating limits that can lead to a happy marriage. Dating can be fun, but it's not easy. Meeting people is just the first step. Once you've met someone, then what? Should you move on, pursue a simple friendship, or more? How do you set smart limits on your physical relationship? How much do you get involved financially? And how do you know if you've found your future spouse? In Boundaries in Dating, Drs. Henry Cloud and John Townsend, counselors and authors of the New York Times bestseller Boundaries, answer all of these questions and more. Helping you bridge the pitfalls of dating, Drs. Cloud and Townsend share their practical advice for adding healthy boundaries to your dating life. Boundaries in Dating unfolds a wise, biblical path to developing self-control, freedom, and intimacy. Let Drs. Cloud and Townsend help you get to know yourself, solve problems, and enjoy the journey of dating and finding your life partner. Full of insightful, real-life examples, this much-needed book will give you the tools you need to: Recognize and choose quality over perfection in a dating partner Prioritize friendship within your relationship Preserve friendships by separating between platonic relationships and romantic interest Move past denial to handle real relational problems in a realistic and hopeful way Enjoy this season of life Don't forget to check out the Boundaries collection of books and workbooks dedicated to key areas of your life, including dating, marriage, parenting kids, raising teenagers, and leadership.

A leadership expert, clinical psychologist, and New York Times bestselling author asks the big questions and shares his early mental health struggles in this groundbreaking, uplifting book.

World-renowned psychologist and leadership expert Henry Cloud has impacted millions of lives through his groundbreaking books and through his work coaching leaders of the most influential organizations in the world. But few people know the details of his own story and how he became one of the most beloved and respected psychologists and faith influencers in America.
 
In this indelibly personal and vulnerable book, Dr. Cloud leads us through his early struggles with illness and depression and the miracles that healed him and led him to his calling as a healer of others. Through masterful storytelling combined with a deeply nuanced understanding of the human mind, Dr. Cloud invites readers to inhabit the spaces of suffering and elation that make us most human and to walk alongside of him as he ponders the great questions we are so often afraid to ask but which also give life meaning.
 
Written in the vein of such groundbreaking books as An Unquiet Mind, When Breath Becomes Air, and On Being Mortal, Why I Believe is a masterwork in spiritual exploration from one of the great scientific minds and faith voices of our time.

In "Integrity", Dr. Cloud explores the six qualities of character that define integrity. He uses stories from well-known business leaders like Michael Dell and sports figures like Tiger Woods to illustrate each of these qualities. He shows us how people with integrity: are able to connect with others and build trust; are oriented toward reality; finish well; embrace the negative; are oriented toward increase; have an understanding of the transcendent; and, success is not related to only talent or brains. There are a lot of bright, talented people who are never successful. And the most successful are not only the ones with the most talent. The real factor, Cloud demonstrates, is the makeup of the person. All of us can grow in the kinds of real character that bring about fruitful relationships and achievement of purpose, mission, and goals. Integrity is not something that you either have or don't, but instead is an exciting growth path that all of us can engage in and enjoy.

This nine-session small group study, Boundaries Revised, by Dr.’s Henry Cloud and John Townsend uncovers the secrets to cultivating the habit of setting and maintaining healthy boundaries that provide the framework for rich, productive relationships.

Healthy relationship and sound living depend on maintaining effective personal boundaries. But many people don’t know where to start.

Do you have trouble saying no? Can you set limits and still be a loving person? Are you in control of your life? Do people take advantage of you?

Based on the bestselling book by Drs. Henry Cloud and John Townsend, these nine interactive sessions can make a life-changing difference. Drawing on principles from the Bible, Boundaries guides small groups on a journey of discovery and practical application.

As a participant, you’ll learn how to live your life more fully and display truth and love more freely. Each of the nine Boundaries sessions in the Participant Guide corresponds with a video presentation by Drs. Cloud and Townsend (found in the companion DVD, sold separately).

It’s the centerpiece for insights, exercises, and spirited group discussion that can profoundly improve the quality of your relationships in every sphere of life―marriage, family, friendships, church, and the workplace.

Now revised to enhance both your group experience and personal growth, this Participant's Guide features insights, exercises, and all the practical resources for maximizing both group participation and personal growth. Its designed for use with the Revised nine-session Boundaries small group DVD (sold separately).