-Your daughter, maxed out on credit cards, asks you to co-sign a lease.
-Your son can't afford rent and needs to move back home.
-Your ex-daughter-in-law is laid off, losing your grandchildren's health insurance.
-Your nephew agrees to enter an expensive addiction treatment program.
-Your older son, recently diagnosed with Adult Attention Deficit Disorder, is months behind on his mortgage payments.

Millions of parents face these dilemmas, years after they thought their children would be independent. As you extend financial assistance, how can you help a young adult become prudent and accountable?

In "Trust Me," family psychologist Kenneth Kaye and his son, Nick, use the experience of Nick's struggle with what he calls "Attention Money Disorder" to combine a no-nonsense strategy, practical advice, business wisdom, and dozens of examples. They show you step by step how to negotiate a "Deal" with your young adult, rebuilding mutual trust and nurturing the skills and habits of a self-supporting grown-up.

"I love this wonderfully practical, down-to-earth, funny, thoughtful, warm, subversive book. Subversive because those who follow the two Kayes' advice will be better mentors, but also more financially responsible themselves. Every parent or relative who's worried about subsidizing an adult child needs this book."

-Joline Godfrey, Author, "Raising Financially Fit Kids"

please refer to the original paragraphs found on the inside front and outside back covers of previous paperback edition, which I included with the manuscript (as first and last pages).

-Your daughter, maxed out on credit cards, asks you to co-sign a lease.
-Your son can't afford rent and needs to move back home.
-Your ex-daughter-in-law is laid off, losing your grandchildren's health insurance.
-Your nephew agrees to enter an expensive addiction treatment program.
-Your older son, recently diagnosed with Adult Attention Deficit Disorder, is months behind on his mortgage payments.

Millions of parents face these dilemmas, years after they thought their children would be independent. As you extend financial assistance, how can you help a young adult become prudent and accountable?

In "Trust Me," family psychologist Kenneth Kaye and his son, Nick, use the experience of Nick's struggle with what he calls "Attention Money Disorder" to combine a no-nonsense strategy, practical advice, business wisdom, and dozens of examples. They show you step by step how to negotiate a "Deal" with your young adult, rebuilding mutual trust and nurturing the skills and habits of a self-supporting grown-up.

"I love this wonderfully practical, down-to-earth, funny, thoughtful, warm, subversive book. Subversive because those who follow the two Kayes' advice will be better mentors, but also more financially responsible themselves. Every parent or relative who's worried about subsidizing an adult child needs this book."

-Joline Godfrey, Author, "Raising Financially Fit Kids"

"What good fortune to have all of Kaye's thoughtful, insightful and provocative articles in one volume No one describes the conflictual patterns in family enterprise better and no one better addresses how family advisors can intervene to build trust."
--Fredda Herz Brown, Managing Partner, The Metropolitan Group "A manual that demystifies family business relationships and a survival guide for business consultants working with them. A must read "
--Phillip Colon, Optimal Resolutions, Inc. "Ken Kaye has been one of the best thinkers and writers in the field. I often return to his articles for sound theory and practical suggestions. Finally, they're all in one book "
--Jane Hilburt-Davis, President, Family Firm Institute "If there is one core issue facing family business it is how to overcome conflict and establish the trust that is vital in effective working relationships. Ken Kaye has been the key theorist/practitioner in bringing clear principles into play for working with families."
--Dennis Jaffe, Saybrook Graduate School "For thinking outside the box, insightful understanding and innovative techniques, Kaye's book will be indispensable for those who care about the family enterprise."
--Jerry Kleiman, Optimal Resolutions, Inc. "Ken Kaye's articles are full of great illustrations that apply theory to practice. His engaging, provocative writing makes for a delightful read about solutions to the biggest challenges faced by business families. Keep a copy close to your desk."
--Stephen McClure, Family Business Consulting Group "Ken Kaye's seminal work on the function of conflict in the business family is core knowledge needed by every practitioner."
--Mark Voeller, Dialogue Solutions, Inc.