Like Icarus flying too close to the sun, many once-promising dot.com entrepreneurs have been burned by overweening ambition and come crashing to the ground. Besides the economic wreckage left in the wake of their high-flying dreams there is also a good deal of psychological turmoil. Psychologists Mel Krantzler and his wife Pat, both counselors who have helped hundreds of managers and CEOs of high-tech companies cope with dreams turned to nightmares, expose the shadowy side of Silicon Valley in this revealing book about the personal costs of "success." In addition to being a psychologist, Dr. Krantzler is also a trained economist. His economic expertise, combined with his psychology practice, enables him to uniquely illuminate Silicon Valley's culture from both perspectives. This is the first book to explode the romanticized myth of Silicon Valley, which is still so prevalent in advertising and the media.
What you never hear about this Mecca of high-tech culture is that it has one of the highest divorce rates in the world, more children who are psychologically disturbed than in less-affluent areas, almost no affordable decent housing even for those earning $50,000 a year, and widespread alcohol and drug use. What the Krantzlers make clear is that aside from the simple geographical designation, Silicon Valley is the name for a psychological obsession found any place where people believe that instant fame and fortune can be gained through silicon chips and Web sites. This dream nourishes itself on an illusion of power and instant gratification. And like heroin and cocaine, it is highly addictive, promising total happiness, but often ending in disarray and despair.
Based on interviews with many Silicon Valley executives who have decided to change their lives to achieve true well-being for themselves and their families, this book concludes with a formula for real success - a well-rounded, balanced, and fully human life.

'An excellent book: candid, accessible, constructive, full of energy and advice on the whole range of experience implied by the title. Everything is organized into Steps, Stages, Transitions, Patterns, Pitfalls, and the interconnecting dynamics-and there's hardly a page in which some little truth doesn't hit home.

This is the one-step guide for all the problems you must confront. Whether you are just realizing your marriage must come to an end, or are embarking on your new life as a single person, or are at any stage in between, "Divorcing "reassuringly and clearly answers all the vexing questions-emotional, legal, financial-you are facing.
Mel Krantzler, Ph.D., America's foremost divorce psychologist, offers uplifting advice to bring you through the emotional turmoil of divorce and let you use it as an opportunity for personal growth. His techniques for dealing with stress, coping with estrangement from spouse and children, and forming new relationships have brought Dr. Krantzler's many clients to new levels of confidence and self-esteem.
Melvin M. Belli, Sr., the renowned trial attorney, gives you the same counsel his famous clients pay thousands of dollars for: How to choose the right lawyer, protect your finances, obtain the best conditions for custody and visitation, and keep your new relationships from adversely affecting child custody and support.
Thoroughly up-to-date, "Divorcing "is one source that will keep you together, even if your marriage is breaking up.

From Mel Krantzler, a licensed marriage and family counselor, the nationally acclaimed, bestselling author of Creative Divorce, and director of the Creative Divorce/Learning to Love Again Counseling Centers, comes another insightful, helpful, and energizing book that brings hope to those emotionally devastated by the loss of a love. What happens next? Just when you thought it would never happen again, love comes back into your life. You can survive the explosive realities that losing love brings, but how do you know when, and if, you are ready for love again? Are you having trouble finding the “right� man or woman? Are you afraid of making another “mistake�? Do you keep getting involved in short-term relationships? Are you beginning to think that finding love is a matter of luck? Mel Krantzler has led ongoing seminars on the subject of finding love, and Learning to Love Again provides clear guidelines and challenging steps that lead from loneliness to love: The Remembered-Pain Stage—absorbing a blow from the past The Questing-Experimental Stage—surveying the possibilities The Selective-Distancing Stage—a cautious step forward The Creative-Commitment Stage—where enduring love begins Mel Krantzler draws on the real stories of real people who are learning to love again, to live together, to marry, to be step-parents, and to build satisfying new lives. He shares his experiences in applying the principles of creative commitment to his own remarriage. Learning to Love Again is the best guide for married, single, or divorced men and women. Here is how you can create a new beginning by learning to love again today!

Divorce therapist Mel Krantzler approaches the subject of divorce from a unique perspective and offers an optimistic outlook and hopeful opportunities for personal growth to those struggling to recognize and renew their individuality. Creative Divorce draws parallels between the relationship and the life cycle, in order to help men and women cope during their period of mourning and find a new life after the death of their old one. Krantzler addresses the myriad emotions that the divorce crisis stirs up in both men and women such as guilt, rejection, loneliness, and anger, and teaches how to allow divorce to be the catalyst for positive transformations in your life. There is a website with material related to the book at newcreativedivorce.com, where Mel Krantzler can be contacted for further consultation.