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Gay men reveal their preferenceand the reasons behind it! Gay Men
and Anal Eroticism: Tops, Bottoms, and Versatiles is a
no-holds-barred examination of one of society's most persistent
taboos. In a remarkably candid collection of frank and forthright
interviews, 21 gay men talk about the role anal sex plays in their
lives and relationships and their choices to act as insertive (top)
or receptive (bottom) partnersor both (versatile). Ranging in age
from 21 to 65, the men discuss the reasons behind (and consequences
of) their choices; how they define their sexual roles (and how
those roles are defined by gay society); issues of power, trust,
and vulnerability; and the concept (in both straight and gay
society) that tops and bottoms are socially and morally unequal.
These unique interviews, conducted by the author in the Boston and
Provincetown areas, celebrate choice in gay men's sexuality while
debating whether preference is genetically based or socially
formeda debate largely ignored in social science studies. The men
interviewedincluding gay porn icon Cole Tuckerdiscuss perceptions
muddied by stereotypes, preconceived notions, and exaggerated
scenarios, and the meanings gay men assign to anal sex, including
dominance and submission roles related to masculine/feminine,
aggressive/passive implications. The interviews also cover each
subject's personal history as a gay man, safe sex in the AIDS era,
childhood traumas, first-time sexual encounters, loves, desires,
and obsessions. The interviews for Gay Men and Anal Eroticism
provide insights that are equal parts thoughtful and outrageous,
humorous and heartbreaking: Aaron, age 24: I sort of fell into this
image of myself as being a very aggressive bottom, a guy who knew
what he wanted and who didn't want any wimps applying. Danny, 21:
There's a mindset about being a top it's kinda like maintaining the
ship. Sam, 36: I hate to say it, but I'm a bottom I don't like to
be identified like that because I feel it turns me into something
all the way from my feet up to my head. Eddie, 42: I guess I enjoy
more being a top than a bottom because I haven't found a good top.
and Cole Tucker: A physical act doesn't really make you a top or a
bottom. It's a function, an organic function of what you do. It's
the dynamics of where you come from. The revealing disclosures of
Gay Men and Anal Eroticism show equality in man-to-man sex to be as
varied as the number of individuals who pursue it. Addressing
traditional misunderstandings and misconceptions of gay men as
either limp-wrested fairies or masculine trade, the book uncovers
that there is much more to this complex issue than personal
preference.
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