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Books > Social sciences > Sociology, social studies > Social issues > Illness & addiction: social aspects > General
"So here I am, at a psychiatric hospital, looking for myself in a building I’ve never been in before. A few nights ago, I was ready to rid myself of myself. I still am, only, in a different way. This time, I want to do away with what I hope will soon be my former self. I don’t know what is wrong with me, I never have. All I know is that my head is clouded with loud voices screaming in different frequencies; none of them making sense. With only a stony face to hide it all behind, and a pained smile to offer my friends and colleagues."
Patient 12A is Lesedi Molefi’s absorbing memoir, reflecting on his time spent in a psychiatric clinic in 2016. With vulnerability and candour, Lesedi reflects on the moments, large and small, that led him here. It is at once a personal history, an observation of how childhood experiences can have a profound effect on the adults we become, and a commentary on how mental illness remains a difficult conversation in black families.
But more than anything, Patient 12A is Lesedi’s attempt to filter out the noise in his head to find the truth, however uncomfortable that may be.
The book we need NOW to avoid a social recession, Murthy’s prescient message is about the importance of human connection, the hidden impact of loneliness on our health, and the social power of community.
Humans are social creatures: In this simple and obvious fact lies both the problem and the solution to the current crisis of loneliness. In his groundbreaking book, the 19th surgeon general of the United States Dr. Vivek Murthy makes a case for loneliness as a public health concern: a root cause and contributor to many of the epidemics sweeping the world today from alcohol and drug addiction to violence to depression and anxiety. Loneliness, he argues, is affecting not only our health, but also how our children experience school, how we perform in the workplace, and the sense of division and polarization in our society.
But, at the center of our loneliness is our innate desire to connect. We have evolved to participate in community, to forge lasting bonds with others, to help one another, and to share life experiences. We are, simply, better together.
The lessons in Together have immediate relevance and application. These four key strategies will help us not only to weather this crisis, but also to heal our social world far into the future.
- Spend time each day with those you love. Devote at least 15 minutes each day to connecting with those you most care about.
- Focus on each other. Forget about multitasking and give the other person the gift of your full attention, making eye contact, if possible, and genuinely listening.
- Embrace solitude. The first step toward building stronger connections with others is to build a stronger connection with oneself. Meditation, prayer, art, music, and time spent outdoors can all be sources of solitary comfort and joy.
- Help and be helped. Service is a form of human connection that reminds us of our value and purpose in life. Checking on a neighbor, seeking advice, even just offering a smile to a stranger six feet away, all can make us stronger.
During Murthy’s research for Together, he found that there were few issues that elicited as much enthusiastic interest from both very conservative and very liberal members of Congress, from young and old people, or from urban and rural residents alike. Loneliness was something so many people have known themselves or have seen in the people around them. In the book, Murthy also shares his own deeply personal experiences with the subject—from struggling with loneliness in school, to the devastating loss of his uncle who succumbed to his own loneliness, as well as the important example of community and connection that his parents modeled. Simply, it’s a universal condition that affects all of us directly or through the people we love—now more than ever.
A TIME magazine Must-Read Book of the Year Ever wonder what your
therapist is thinking? Now you can find out, as therapist and New
York Times bestselling author Lori Gottlieb takes us behind the
scenes of her practice - where her patients are looking for answers
(and so is she). When a personal crisis causes her world to come
crashing down, Lori Gottlieb - an experienced therapist with a
thriving practice in Los Angeles - is suddenly adrift. Enter
Wendell, himself a veteran therapist with an unconventional style,
whose sessions with Gottlieb will prove transformative for her. As
Gottlieb explores the inner chambers of her own patients' lives - a
self-absorbed Hollywood producer, a young newlywed diagnosed with a
terminal illness, a senior citizen who feels she has nothing to
live for, and a self-destructive twenty-something who can't stop
hooking up with the wrong guys - she finds that the questions they
are struggling with are the very questions she is bringing to
Wendell. Taking place over one year, and beginning with the
devastating event that lands her in Wendell's office, Maybe You
Should Talk to Someone offers a rare and candid insight into a
profession that is conventionally bound with rules and secrecy.
Told with charm and compassion, vulnerability and humour, it's also
the story of an incredible relationship between two therapists, and
a disarmingly funny and illuminating account of our own mysterious
inner lives, as well as our power to transform them.
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