A Book "for" Fathers "about" Fathers "by" Fathers

What does a dad do when he's caught in a showdown with the "teen trinity" the sigh, the eye roll and the mutter? When he feels like a ghost at the dinner table or like a big lump in a pressure cooker of mashed potatoes? He has lunch with another dad and compares notes.

When Bill Black and Tom Tozer met over greek salads at high noon on several occasions, they discovered they both were caught in the crossfire of the dreaded "trinity" and neither one had a clue. All they knew was that living with teenagers was frustrating, exasperating, even maddening.

They pooled their ignorance and met with other fathers of teenagers. They held focus groups to find out how other dads handled those younger members of the family who occasionally stopped by the house for money and a meal. Collectively these kings of their castles uncovered three significant facts about fatherhood: (1) Dads don't readily share their feelings of confusion when it comes to parenting; (2) Dads don't have the resources or connections with other dads to provide them with opportunities to even consider sharing their feelings; and (3) Dads who are looking for ways to be better fathers value the thoughts and experiences of other dads who are just like them.

Bill and Tom decided to pitch a weekly column to their local newspaper. It caught on quickly and today "Dads2Dads" appears in over 30 print and online publications across the country. Their new book, "Dads2Dads: Tools for Raising Teenagers-We Survived and You Can Too (plus a few tirades)" is an anthology of some of their most popular essays. As the authors are quick to say, the issues they address reflect the typical minefields of raising teenagers. Bill and Tom are not therapists or family-relations gurus. They are ordinary dads who worked hard and were lucky enough to produce extraordinary sons and daughters-much with the help of wonderful spouses and a lot of trial and error.

In their book they admit to sometimes having felt unappreciated, ignored, even invisible in their own homes. They wanted their kids to be grateful for the food on their plates that they never finished, their bedroom sanctuaries they never cleaned and their pets whose poop they never scooped. They acknowledged that conversations would flow unabated if they had a set of cue cards with just the right responses written by their children. They often wondered if they were going deaf or if their precious offspring had their tongues pierced-the words from their mouths were so garbled. Over time they learned that no one talks on a battlefield-there's just a lot of combat. In the book, they prescribe calling a family summit.

Bill and Tom also stress the importance of saying "I love you." Not "Luv ya" mind you, but "I love you." There is a difference. They write about self-esteem, peer pressure, the teen brain, sharing family stories, social media, role modeling, being a flop and surviving, living through your kids, playing second fiddle, being a single dad, reaching beyond your grasp, and your personal pr program (you do have one, you know). Bill and Tom also talk about the relationship with their own fathers.

"Dads2Dads" offers all confused, conflicted and confounded fathers hope and reassurance that much of what they will teach and try to instill in their children will actually stick. It may not manifest itself for a few years, but dads who have worked hard and tried their best at being rock-solid fathers will one day see, hear and enjoy the fruits of their labors. Until then, there's "Dads2Dads."

Percival Phillips was born in 1877. He began writing for newspapers at the age of sixteen with articles about coal miners rioting in Southwestern Pennsylvania. At the age of nineteen he began pursuing a dream of being a war correspondent with coverage of the Greco-Turkish war and later the war in Cuba. He next moved to London, England and worked for the Daily Express covering wars in Japan and Russia, Tripoli and the Balkans. Although an American the British government selected him to be one of five correspondents to cover the British portion of the Western Front during the World War I, as well as to cover the troubles in Ireland. After the war he was knighted by King George for these services. He next moved to the Daily Mail where he continued covering conflicts in Russia, China, and India, as well as problems in Iraq, the rise of Mussolini in Italy and Gandhi's activities in India. In 1935 he joined the Daily Telegraph and later covered a revolution in Greece and the Italian invasion of Ethiopia. His final war was the Spanish Civil War during which he died in 1937.

Percival Phillips was born in 1877. He began writing for newspapers at the age of sixteen with articles about coal miners rioting in Southwestern Pennsylvania. At the age of nineteen he began pursuing a dream of being a war correspondent with coverage of the Greco-Turkish war and later the war in Cuba. He next moved to London, England and worked for the Daily Express covering wars in Japan and Russia, Tripoli and the Balkans. Although an American the British government selected him to be one of five correspondents to cover the British portion of the Western Front during the World War I, as well as to cover the troubles in Ireland. After the war he was knighted by King George for these services. He next moved to the Daily Mail where he continued covering conflicts in Russia, China, and India, as well as problems in Iraq, the rise of Mussolini in Italy and Gandhi's activities in India. In 1935 he joined the Daily Telegraph and later covered a revolution in Greece and the Italian invasion of Ethiopia. His final war was the Spanish Civil War during which he died in 1937.

As it currently operates, the commercial real estate construction industry is a disaster full of built-in waste. Seventy-percent of all projects end over budget and late. The buildingSMART Alliance estimates that up to fifty-percent of the process is consumed in waste. Almost every project includes massive hidden taxes in the form of delays, cost overruns, poor quality, and work that has to be redone. Building new structures is a fragmented, adversarial process that commonly results in dissatisfied customers and frequently ends in disappointment, bitterness, and even litigation.

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