A Book "for" Fathers "about" Fathers "by" Fathers
What does a dad do when he's caught in a showdown with the "teen
trinity" the sigh, the eye roll and the mutter? When he feels like
a ghost at the dinner table or like a big lump in a pressure cooker
of mashed potatoes? He has lunch with another dad and compares
notes.
When Bill Black and Tom Tozer met over greek salads at high noon
on several occasions, they discovered they both were caught in the
crossfire of the dreaded "trinity" and neither one had a clue. All
they knew was that living with teenagers was frustrating,
exasperating, even maddening.
They pooled their ignorance and met with other fathers of
teenagers. They held focus groups to find out how other dads
handled those younger members of the family who occasionally
stopped by the house for money and a meal. Collectively these kings
of their castles uncovered three significant facts about
fatherhood: (1) Dads don't readily share their feelings of
confusion when it comes to parenting; (2) Dads don't have the
resources or connections with other dads to provide them with
opportunities to even consider sharing their feelings; and (3) Dads
who are looking for ways to be better fathers value the thoughts
and experiences of other dads who are just like them.
Bill and Tom decided to pitch a weekly column to their local
newspaper. It caught on quickly and today "Dads2Dads" appears in
over 30 print and online publications across the country. Their new
book, "Dads2Dads: Tools for Raising Teenagers-We Survived and You
Can Too (plus a few tirades)" is an anthology of some of their most
popular essays. As the authors are quick to say, the issues they
address reflect the typical minefields of raising teenagers. Bill
and Tom are not therapists or family-relations gurus. They are
ordinary dads who worked hard and were lucky enough to produce
extraordinary sons and daughters-much with the help of wonderful
spouses and a lot of trial and error.
In their book they admit to sometimes having felt unappreciated,
ignored, even invisible in their own homes. They wanted their kids
to be grateful for the food on their plates that they never
finished, their bedroom sanctuaries they never cleaned and their
pets whose poop they never scooped. They acknowledged that
conversations would flow unabated if they had a set of cue cards
with just the right responses written by their children. They often
wondered if they were going deaf or if their precious offspring had
their tongues pierced-the words from their mouths were so garbled.
Over time they learned that no one talks on a battlefield-there's
just a lot of combat. In the book, they prescribe calling a family
summit.
Bill and Tom also stress the importance of saying "I love you."
Not "Luv ya" mind you, but "I love you." There is a difference.
They write about self-esteem, peer pressure, the teen brain,
sharing family stories, social media, role modeling, being a flop
and surviving, living through your kids, playing second fiddle,
being a single dad, reaching beyond your grasp, and your personal
pr program (you do have one, you know). Bill and Tom also talk
about the relationship with their own fathers.
"Dads2Dads" offers all confused, conflicted and confounded
fathers hope and reassurance that much of what they will teach and
try to instill in their children will actually stick. It may not
manifest itself for a few years, but dads who have worked hard and
tried their best at being rock-solid fathers will one day see, hear
and enjoy the fruits of their labors. Until then, there's
"Dads2Dads."
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