This highly anticipated second edition of Splitting is fully revised and updated, and includes new chapters on abuse, alienation, and false allegations; as well as information about the four types of domestic violence, protective orders, and child custody disputes. Are you divorcing someone who's making the process as difficult as possible? Are they sending you nasty emails, falsifying the truth, putting your children in the middle, abusing you, or abusing the system? Are they "persuasive blamers," manipulating and fooling court personnel to get them on their side? If so, you need this book. For more than ten years, Splitting has served as the ultimate guide for people divorcing a high conflict person, one who often has borderline or narcissistic (or even antisocial) personality disorder. Among other things, it has saved readers thousands of dollars, helped them keep custody of their children, and effectively guided them through a difficult legal and emotional process. Written by a family law attorney and therapist, and the author of Stop Walking on Eggshells, Splitting is an essential legal and psychological guide for anyone divorcing a persuasive blamer: someone who suffers from borderline personality disorder (BPD), narcissistic personality disorder (NPD), and/or antisocial personality disorder (ASPD). This second edition includes new information about antisocial personalities; expanded information about domestic violence, child abuse, alienation, and false allegations; how to approach protective orders and deal with child custody disputes; and a new chapter on how to successfully present your case to decision makers. Turn to this guide to help you: *Predict what your spouse may do or say in court *Take control of your case with assertiveness and strategic thinking *Choose a lawyer who understands your case *Learn how e-mails and social networking can be used against you If you need help navigating a high-conflict divorce from a manipulative spouse, this book includes all of the critical information you need to work through the process of divorce in an emotionally balanced, productive way.

Adult children are often overlooked and forgotten when their parents divorce later in life, but in these pages they will find comfort and understanding for the many feelings, frustrations, and challenges they face. For more than two decades, a silent revolution has been occurring and creating a seismic shift in the American family and families in other countries. It has been unfolding without much comment, and its effects are being felt across three to four generations: more couples are divorcing later in life. Called the "gray divorce revolution," the cultural phenomenon describes couples who divorce after the age of 50. Overlooked in the issues that affect couples divorcing later in in life are the adult children of divorcing parents. Their voices open this book, and they are the voices of men and women, 18 to 50 years old. Some of them are single; some are married. Some have children of their own. All of them are in different stages of shock, fear, and sudden, dramatic change. In Home Will Never Be the Same: A Guide for Adult Children of Gray Divorce, Carol Hughes and Bruce Fredenburg share their deep understanding gained during the innumerable hours they have spent with these women and men in their clinical practices. The result is a valuable resource for these too often forgotten adult children, many of whom find that, whenever they express their feelings and experiences, the most important people in their lives frequently ignore and dismiss them. As the divorce rate for older adults soars, so too does the number of adult children who are experiencing parental divorce. Yet, these adult children frequently say that they are the only ones who are aware of what they are going through, no one understands what they are experiencing, and they feel painfully alone.

He has taught Negotiation and Mediation at the University of San Diego School of Law for six years and he is on the part-time faculty of the Straus Institute for Dispute Resolution at the Pepperdine University School of Law and the National Judicial College. He is a frequent lecturer at Monash University in Australia. This book has been used in all of these courses and has been used in other academic settings by other instructors.

We live in an age of rapid change and instant communication. We also live in a Culture of Blame and Disrespect, creating a need to manage our responses to high-conflict people. A BIFF Response can be applied in any communication anywhere -- online, social media, in a letter or even in person. It can be used at work, earning you respect and success. It can help you get along with difficult family members, friends, neighbors and others anywhere in your life. BIFF was designed to protect you and your reputation by responding quickly and civilly to people who treat you rudely, while being reasonable in return. BIFF stands for Brief, Informative, Friendly, and Firm. A BIFF response is easy to remember, but hard to do. It takes practice! This little book gives over 20 examples of BIFF responses for all areas of life--plus additional tips to help you deal with high-conflict people anywhere. This Second Edition includes a new chapter on Coaching for BIFF Responses. Anyone can use this method to help someone else with a BIFF response -- by asking 10 simple questions to make it even more effective. Another helpful tool to shift high-conflict people from blaming to problem-solving is So, What's Your Proposal: Shifting High-Conflict People from Blaming to Problem-Solving, also by Bill Eddy. Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq., is a lawyer, therapist, mediator, author, and president of High Conflict Institute. He developed the "high conflict personality" theory and has become an international expert on managing disputes involving high-conflict personalities and personality disorders.

The award-winning book that gives readers a method for handling the increasingly-outrageous behavior of narcissists and high-conflict people at work. Increasingly, high-conflict people--especially narcissists and bullies--are showing up in the workplace. It's All Your Fault at Work! addresses ways of managing the behavior of high-conflict people (HCP). Based on Bill Eddy's high-conflict personality theory, the book explains how to recognize predictable patterns of behavior and illustrates with over a dozen examples the simple four-step C.A.R.S. method to calm the HCP, analyze options, respond to hostility, and set limits on extreme behavior. "This book belongs in every leader's library. Although I believe there's a pearl of good in everyone, some people's pearl is hard to find. You may not be able to change a high conflict personality, but by using Bill Eddy's and Georgi DiStefano's techniques, you'll be able to keep the focus on solutions rather than arguments." --Ken Blanchard, coauthor of The One Minute Manager(R) and Leading at a Higher Level

Divorce is hard enough even in the best of circumstances. But what if your spouse is trying to turn the kids against you? What if your ex is hauling you into court over every little thing? What if you're being falsely accused of child abuse or domestic violence? Worst of all, what if you've been cut off from your children entirely? High-conflict divorce is just about the most devastating, soul-wrecking experience imaginable. The unrelenting chaos and pain can leave you exhausted and despairing. Legal fees can become a huge strain. And most importantly, there's the impact on your children, who may be grappling with anxiety, struggling at school, acting out, or turning to substances to cope. How can you keep it all together? In The High-Conflict Co-parenting Wellness Planner, high-conflict divorce experts Megan Hunter and Andrea LaRochelle offer hope and a wealth of advice. The healthier you are as a parent, the better you'll be able to help your children. Week by week, the authors guide you in taking care of yourself while navigating conflict. You'll learn practical strategies for handling the most common co-parenting scenarios. And you'll discover new ways to manage your own anger, worry, fear, stress, and grief. As hard as it may be to believe right now, it is possible to move beyond the conflict. You can overcome the frustration, regain your balance, and ultimately find freedom - from the overwhelming feelings, from the drama, and from your ex's hold on your life. This book shows you how.

An exciting new method for handling the growing problem of high-conflict families in court and out-of-court, including traditional, Collaborative Divorce and Parenting Coordination cases. It is designed to save courts time, save parents money, and protect children as families re-organize in new ways after divorce. This Guidebook is for mental health professionals to learn to use this method with families.

Plants are so much part of our environment that we often take them for granted, yet beautiful, fascinating and useful plants are everywhere, from isolated moss colonies on stone walls to vast complex communities within tropical rainforests. How did this array of form and habitat come about, and how do we humans interact with the plant kingdom? This unique new textbook provides a refreshing and stimulating consideration of these questions and throws light in a new way on the complexity, ecology, evolution and development of plants and our relationship with them. Illustrated throughout with numerous line diagrams and beautiful colour photographs, the book provides a comprehensive introduction to the fascinating lives that plants lead and the way in which our lives are inextricably linked to theirs. It will be particularly useful to students seeking a more ecological and process-oriented approach than is available in other plant science textbooks.

High-conflict employees are increasing in the workplace. Bullying, harassment, incivility, and threats of violence are a danger to employees and an organization's reputation, productivity, and ability to avoid court. This manual is designed for use with New Ways for Work: Workbook, for coaching workers in need of remedial interpersonal skills because of job discipline.This New Ways for Work: Coaching Manual is a guide for Employee Assistance Professionals, therapists who provide workplace coaching, human resource professionals, and others who coach employees. It is designed to be used with the New Ways for Work: Workbook as a remedial method for workers who have the potential to improve workplace behavior through improved conflict resolution skills. It is also useful for those who want to advance in their careers with new and expanded conflict resolution skills.The New Ways for Work (TM) method is a simple approach to learning key interpersonal skills for the workplace. New "ways" simply mean new skills, which keeps the focus on the positive and learning skills for the future.The Coaching Manual provides sample answers; offers three self-contained coaching sessions, additional coaching sessions for more specific skills; and includes numerous exercises for employees and managers

Trump Bubbles: The Dramatic Rise and Fall of High-Conflict Politicians is the first book to really explain the rise and fall of Donald Trump, candidate for President of the United States of America. What's a trump bubble? It's when emotions trump thinking in politics. When fear trumps facts. When leader love trumps logic. Donald Trump is the most recent trump bubble, but trump bubbles have occurred before and will again. Remember the dot.com bust of 2000? The housing and stock market bubbles that burst in 2008? They were held up by "irrational exuberance." Now there's the Donald Trump Bubble. People love him or hate him or are totally confused. However, he is quite predictable, if you understand high-conflict personalities. Trump Bubbles explains the rise-and-fall pattern of high-conflict politicians, focusing on the case of Donald Trump and the questions people ask: * Why do people compare him to Adolf Hitler in the 1920's? * Why do people defend him despite his outrageous statements and beliefs? * Will he become reasonable if he ever becomes President? * Does he have narcissistic personality disorder? * Will he settle on a set of policies, or will he keep changing impulsively? * Could he be a good thing for American politics? * Would he start World War III? * How do you stop trump bubbles once they start? * What happens when a trump bubble bursts? To answer these questions, award-winning author, Bill Eddy, relies on social science, psychology and history, as well as his years of training professionals in dealing with high-conflict personalities and situations. It's a beautiful thing!

Why do so many of us commit to the wrong person? Most believe that attraction and compatibility are the keys to relationship success when, in reality, these are red flags in 15-20% of the population. When it comes to love, the brain is irrational and shortsighted. We make decisions based on incomplete information, biased understanding, and strong emotion. Love truly is blind. That's why you need dating radar, it gives you a way to detect hazards you might otherwise miss by recognizing: 1. Warning signs of certain personalities that can spell love relationship danger 2. Ways that they can jam your radar (deceive you) 3. Where your own blind spots might be Attorney, mediator, and social worker Bill Eddy and relationship expert Megan Hunter use their expertise in high-conflict personalities, complicated relationships and divorce to equip readers to see through the blinding spark of new love and spot potential toxic relationships before it is too late! If hindsight is 20/20, dating radar is x-ray vision. Bill Eddy is an award-winning author and president of High Conflict Institute. Megan Hunter is a publisher, author, speaker and the founder of Unhooked Media.

Every day dozens, if not hundreds, of people confront us at work, at the store, in our communities and online. This helpful and inspiring book provides a technique for readers to peacefully communicate with the growing number of high-conflict people within society.Billy Eddy has successfully written 5 other books about communicating with high-conflict people, including: BIFF; It's All Your Fault! and High Conflict People in Legal Disputes. Billy Eddy co-authored SPLITTING with Randi Kreger, author of Stop Walking on Eggshells that has sold approximately 500,000 copies. Billy Eddy is an international expert on managing disputes among high-conflict personalities. He has trained management, small business and human resource professionals in 5 countries, including:Employee Assistance Professionals AssociationIntel Corporation Human Resource DepartmentInternational Ombudsman AssociationU.S. Ombudsman AssociationMt. Royal University Human Resource DepartmentInfluential Women Executives' Group, Orange County, CAAssociation for Conflict Resolution, Workplace Section TeleseminarsRailcorp National Railroad, Human Resource Professionals Training, Sydney, AustraliaFederal Executive Board, Los Angeles, CAWorker's Compensation Board, Alberta, CanadaUnited States Navy Medical Center San DiegoMesa Vista Psychiatric Hospital Kaiser Permanente Southern California Medical GroupAmerican Bar Association Health Law Section ConferenceMedical College of Wisconsin

Something nasty is happening in American politics. You'd have to be in hibernation to be unaware of the bullying, incivility, and disrespect going on. Splitting America is a warning to voters and politicians that current poliarizations risks long-term harm to our nation. This book compares the same five traits of high-conflict divorces to today's politics. It generally includes: * Personal Attacks (calling the other person crazy, stupid, immoral or evil) * Crisis Emotions (which trigger fear and hatred of each other) * All-or-Nothing Solutions (which call for the elimination or exclusion of the "other") * Narcissistic Behavior (acting superior and not caring about anyone else) * Negative Advocates (constantly recruiting others to join in this hostility) We are well-acquainted with this pattern in high-conflict divorces, and it's not good. This behavior is called "high-conflict" because it increases the conflict, rather than reducing or resolving it. Worst of all, it's contagious--it spreads when people are exposed to it, like a virus. We are now concerned that this behavior is spreading into politics at all levels. Political leaders appear to be adopting and escalating high-conflict behavior, and perhaps, even leading it. Millionaires and billionaires are funding expensive ads as key elements in high-conflict election campaigns. And, the news promotes high-conflict behavior in every broadcast -- to children as well as to adults -- by relentlessly showing, and thereby teaching, the most dramatic bad behavior of the day. Even worse, politicians, donors to Super PACs and the news media don't seem to realize how destructive and self-destructive this escalation of high-conflict behavior can be. Splitting America warns them and the rest of the nation about the dead-end nature of this unrestrained behavior that knows no limits. We have seen splitting destroy too many families, and we don't want to see it destroy the American family. We want to avoid a high-conflict political divorce. In approaching these problems, it's not about pointing fingers and deciding who is more at fault. It's about everyone taking responsibility for his or her own behavior, and managing collaborative relationships, even when we disagree. Analyze your favorite leaders before you vote with the High-Conflict Politician Score Card included in the book and decide for yourself if they would be a good leader or not.