Excerpt Dating is harder for Christian men. You might think it's because of sexual purity issues, but it's not just that. The whole courtship process is more complicated. Questions about morality, theology, worship, intimacy, and God's will get involved. Relationships are hard enough for men that don't care about this kind of stuff. Dating is twice as complicated for Christians. Also, non-Christian guys don't care as much about a woman's relationship with God. Seeking a Christian girlfriend shrinks the field of available women. Most of the women you meet won't share your faith. Finding a perfect match is tough enough, but the odds are even worse when you expect her to have a relationship with Christ. This results in a sense of urgency when a Christian man meets a woman he'd like to ask out. He meets a woman who defies the odds and panics. He finds the equivalent of a winning lottery ticket but doesn't know how to cash it in. Despite the odds against you, dating can become easier. Notice I said easier, not easy. Yes, there are couples for whom everything comes naturally. They have perfect communication, they're happy all the time, and they knew they were destined to be with each other from the instant they met. These are the couples that make the rest of us nauseous, and they're happy exceptions. Most of the time, dating requires hard work.