Why Can't I Figure Out What I Want in My Life? Are you struggling with a vague notion that things are wrong in your life, but you can't figure out what? Are you unhappy, but you can't figure out why? Are you flailing around trying to figure out what steps to take, where to start, what questions to ask, whom to talk to? This handy little workbook will give you a fresh way of looking at your life, ultimately leading you to a life you will love In a series of fun, stimulating questions, a psychologist helps you identify the hidden obstacles preventing YOUR true happiness, allowing you to discover the REAL YOU and identify what YOU truly want in life. You can easily adapt this book for couples and group therapy. How much do you know about your partner? How much can you share with your partner. Learn how to share what is important in your life. Adaptations of the Workbook This book can easily be adapted for any number of uses. Here are two examples to consider. I encourage you to be creative Instructions for Couples On any one question, share the following. * Share your responses with each other. * Describe and explain the level of comfort in sharing your response. * What have you learned about your partner from his/her sharing? * How does your response change as you hear your partner's response? What motivates this change? * How much does the change reflect your inner being? Instructions for Groups Pick one question for discussion and share the following. * Share your response to the group. * Describe and explain the level of comfort in sharing your response. * What have you learned about your group member from his/her sharing? * How does your response change as you hear his/her response? What motivates this change? * How much does the change reflect your inner being?

How do you know if you have a cybersex problem? What do you do about it if you do? Maybe someone you care about is struggling with cybersex. This workbook builds on our experience in sexual compulsivity to focus on the nuances of Internet sexual compulsivity. We break down the complex elements of treating cybersex problems into the basic elements for the individual to address. We also highlight issues unique to cybersex including topics such as: psychology of the Internet, cybersex user categories, and understanding, assessing, and managing your Internet use. The three of us represent over 50 years of clinical and research work. One way to help determine if a behavior is problematic is to take a self administered screening test. The Internet Sex Screening Test (included in the workbook) has been taken by thousands of individuals and can be used to help gauge how problematic your online sexual behavior may be. People who exhibit problematic sexual behavior on the Internet tend to fall into one of the three groups: Discovery Group: those who have no previous problem with online sex or any history of problematic sexual behavior. Predisposed Group: those who have had their first out-of-control sexual behavior on the Internet while obsessing over unacted-on sexual fantasies and urges. Lifelong Sexually Compulsive Group: those whose out-of-control sexual behavior on the Internet is part of an ongoing and severe sexual behavior problem. Through this book, you will have opportunities to examine your online sexual behaviors and assess the level of compulsiveness, address related treatment issues to your cybersex behaviors, and develop plans to find sexual health in an electronic world. We hope you find this workbook useful as you strive to find sexual health in an electronic world. One of the major goals of this workbook is to assist you in clarifying healthy sexual behavior, both offline and online. We believe that in order to be healthy online, sexually or otherwise, you must develop healthy sexuality offline as well.