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I love you, no matter what.' An uplifting true story of an ordinary
couple who build an extraordinary family, No Matter What describes
how Sally and Rob Donovan embark upon a journey to adopt following
a diagnosis of infertility. Sally Donovan brings to life with
characteristic wit and honesty the difficulties of living with
infertility, their decision to adopt and the bewildering process
involved. Finally matched with young siblings Jaymey and Harlee,
Sally and Rob's joy turns to shock as they discover disturbing
details of their children's past and realise that they must do
everything it takes to heal their children. By turns tragic,
inspiring and hilarious, Sally and Rob's story offers a rare
insight into the world of adoptive parents and just what it takes
to bring love to the lives of traumatised children.
Toddler Adoption looks at the unique joys and challenges of
adopting and parenting a toddler. When a child aged is adopted
between the ages of 12 to 36 months, they often show signs of
cognitive and emotional immaturity, which can cause behavioral and
relational issues. This book offers support and practical tools to
help parents prepare for and support the toddler's transition
between the familiar environment of their biological parent's home
or foster home to a new and unfamiliar one, and considers the
issues that arise at different developmental stages. It highlights
the challenges that parents are likely to encounter, but also gives
positive guidance on how to overcome them. Written by a specialist
in children's development who is also an adoptive parent herself,
this fully revised and updated edition of the go-to-source on
adopting toddlers is essential reading for both parents and
professionals working with adoptive families.
All children need love, but for troubled children, a loving home is
not always enough. Children who have experienced trauma need to be
parented in a special way that helps them feel safe and secure,
builds attachments and allows them to heal. Playfulness,
acceptance, curiosity and empathy (PACE) are four valuable elements
of parenting that, combined with love, can help children to feel
confident and secure. This book shows why these elements are so
important to a child's development, and demonstrates to parents and
carers how they can incorporate them into their day-to-day
parenting. Real life examples and typical dialogues between parents
and children illustrate how this can be done in everyday life, and
simple stories highlight the ideas behind each element of PACE.
This positive book will help parents and carers understand how
parenting with love and PACE is invaluable to a child's
development, and will guide them through using this parenting
attitude to help their child feel happy, confident and secure.
Jackson is aggressive, confrontational and often volatile. His
mother, Kayla, is crippled with grief after tragically losing her
husband and eldest son. Struggling to cope, she puts Jackson into
foster care. Cathy, his carer, encourages Jackson to talk about
what has happened to his family, but he just won't engage. His
actions continue to test and worry everyone. Then, in a dramatic
turn of events, the true reason for Jackson's behaviour comes to
light ...
With knowledge and compassion, Caring for Your Adopted Child offers
the wisdom that adoptive parents need to provide the best possible
care for their children. Whether a child joins a family through
domestic adoption, international adoption, or foster care, he or
she may have needs that require additional consideration. The
coauthors, both adoptive parents, weave professional and personal
experiences with essential information on: ; Partnering with a
pediatrician before adoption ; Helping a child transition into a
family ; Understanding health issues and conditions that are more
prevalent in children who are adopted ; Supporting a child's
emotional health and attachment ; And promoting positive adoption
conversation as a child matures This comprehensive resource offers
trusted parenting advice from a leading adoption medicine expert
and the American Academy of Pediatrics, focusing on the physical
and emotional well-being of adopted children.
Not Exactly As Planned is a captivating, deeply moving account of
adoption and the unexpected challenges of raising a child with
fetal alcohol syndrome. Linda Rosenbaum's life takes a major turn
when her son, adopted at birth, is diagnosed with irreversible
brain damage. With love, hope and all the medical knowledge she can
accumulate, she sets out to change his prognosis and live with as
much joy as she can while struggling to accept her new reality. Not
Exactly As Planned is more than a story of motherlove. It's about
birdwatching, bar mitzvahs, the collision of '60's ideals with the
real world, family secrets and woodcarving.
The secrets, lies, and layers of deception about Diane Dewey's
origins were meant for her protection--but eventually, they
imploded. Living with her family in suburban Philadelphia, Diane
had grown up knowing she was born in Stuttgart and adopted at age
one from an orphanage. She'd been told her biological parents were
dead. Then, in 2002, when she was forty-seven years old, Diane got
a letter from Switzerland: her biological father, Otto, wanted to
bring her into his life. With that, her world shifted on its axis.
In the months that ensued, everybody had a different story to tell
about Diane's origins, including Otto when they met in New York
City. She struggled to understand what was at stake with the lies.
Like a private eye, she sifted through competing versions of the
truth only to find that, having traveled throughout Europe and
back, identity is a state of mind. As more information surfaced,
the myths gave way to a certain elusive peace; Diane discovered a
tribe in her mother's family, found a Swiss husband, gained a
voice, and, for the first time, began to trust in the intuition
that had nudged her all along. One-part forensic investigation,
one-part self-discovery, Fixing the Fates is a story about seeing
behind artifice and living one's truth.
Help your little one unlock their inner courage! Riley the Brave is
the story of a little bear with big feelings! Join this super-cool,
cape-wearing cub as he embarks on a journey to face his fears.
Riley is joined by all of his animal friends who care for him as he
faces his difficult feelings. Along the way, Riley learns how
sometimes, being tough or loud isn't the bravest thing to be -
sometimes it's asking for help, or being brave enough to let
someone into your heart. Written for any child who is looking to
unlock their inner courage, and particularly those healing from
difficult life experiences or trauma, this book creates a safe
space for conversations about complex thoughts and feelings. It
also features an educational afterword for grown-ups which explains
how the book helps children, and how to get the most out of it.
As an adoptee, do you have mixed feelings about your adoption? If
you do, you are not alone - adoptees often experience complex
feelings of grief, anger, and questions about their identity.
Sherrie Eldridge is an adoptee and adoption expert, and in this
book she draws on her personal experiences and feelings relating to
adoption as well as interviews with over 70 adoptees. Sherrie
reveals how you can discover your own unique life purpose and
worth, and sets out 20 life-transforming choices which you have the
power to make. The choices will help you discover answers about
issues such as: Why do I feel guilty when I think about my birth
parents? Why can't I talk about the painful aspects of adoption?
Where can I gain an unshakable sense of self-esteem? Sherrie also
addresses the problem of depression among adoptees and common
dilemmas such as if, when and how to contact a birth mother or
father. This fully updated second edition includes new material on
finding support online, contacting family through social media, and
features three new chapters, including Sherrie's story of reuniting
with her birth brother, Jon, in adulthood.
Now Available in Paperback, Adoption Beyond Borders endorses
international adoption as a viable path to child welfare by
exploring key topics including: * Effects of institutionalization
on children's developing brains, cognitive abilities, and
socioemotional functioning * Challenges of navigating issues of
identity when adopting across national, cultural, and racial lines
* Strong emotional bonds that form even without genetic relatedness
* How adoptive families can address the special needs of children
who experienced early neglect and deprivation, thereby providing a
supportive environment in which to flourish * Features the author's
first-hand accounts of her own adoption journey as she visited a
Kazakhstani orphanage daily for nearly a year, and illustrates the
complexities and implications of the research evidence
Michaela Foster Marsh and her brother Frankie grew up as "twins" in
Glasgow, Scotland in the sixties. Born only weeks apart, Michaela
was white and Frankie was black, and they were an unusual sight in
their dual pram. Despite the doting of his parents and the
unceasing love of his sister, Frankie's life was rarely easy, and
it ended far too soon when a fire took him when he was only
twenty-six. But for a devastated Michaela, Frankie's effect on her
life was only beginning. She embarks on a search to learn what she
can about Frankie's birth family, a journey that takes her to
Uganda, to a culture and a family she never knew, through twists
and turns and remarkable coincidences - and to a mission and to a
connection with her African brethren she never could have imagined.
STARCHILD is a remarkably candid memoir that plays out on both a
personal and global scale. It is the story of the intimacies of
siblinghood and the complexities of multi-racial adoption. It is
the story of the unique connection of extended family and the
unique commitment to an adopted homeland. It is the story of
long-held secrets revealed and long-maintained barriers broken. And
it is ultimately the story of a sibling relationship that
transcends borders, time, and life itself.
'Touching, tender . . . filled with wonderful humour' Sarah Haywood
'A very special book' Katie Fforde The Sunday Times bestselling
novel, perfect for fans of Eleanor Oliphant is Completely Fine and
The Rosie Project. My name is Hope Nicely. Why am I writing this
book? That's easy. This book is going to change my life. My boss,
Karen, says a friend is a stranger you haven't met yet. I think
that's right. Veronica Ptitsky and Danny Flynn are strangers,
except I have met them now because they're in my writing class.
Karen says friends always have your back. They don't mean your real
back, of course. It's called an analogy. But I don't want any
friends, actually (only dog ones). I have my mum, Jenny Nicely, who
says adopting me was the best thing she ever did, even if my
thoughts bounce a bit differently to other people's thoughts. She
is proud of me for writing my book which will be a Big Achievement.
I tell her that writing my story is going to change my life. Except
when my life does change it isn't because of my writing but because
something happens to my mum, Jenny Nicely, and she isn't here
anymore. And, flip a pancake, this is not what I wanted. I'm not
very good at being on my own and I wish she were here to tell me
everything will be right as rain again soon. Maybe I do need some
human friends after all . . . 'A gorgeous, funny, heartwarming
read. Leaves you smiling' Ericka Walker, author of Dog Days
While the topic of gay marriage and families continues to be
popular in the media, few scholarly works focus on gay men with
children. Based on ten years of fieldwork among gay families living
in the rural, suburban, and urban area of the eastern United
States, Gay Fathers, Their Children, and the Making of Kinship
presents a beautifully written and meticulously argued ethnography
of gay men and the families they have formed. In a culture that
places a premium on biology as the founding event of paternity,
Aaron Goodfellow poses the question: Can the signing of legal
contracts and the public performances of care replace biological
birth as the singular event marking the creation of fathers?
Beginning with a comprehensive review of the relevant literature in
this field, four chapters-each presenting a particular picture of
paternity-explore a range of issues, such as interracial adoption,
surrogacy, the importance of physical resemblance in familial
relationships, single parenthood, delinquency, and the ways in
which the state may come to define the norms of health. The author
deftly illustrates how fatherhood for gay men draws on established
biological, theological, and legal images of the family often
thought oppressive to the emergence of queer forms of social life.
Chosen with care and described with great sensitivity, each
carefully researched case examines gay fatherhood through life
narratives. Painstakingly theorized, Gay Fathers, Their Children,
and the Making of Kinship contends that gay families are one of the
most important areas to which social scientists might turn in order
to understand how law, popular culture, and biology are
simultaneously made manifest and interrogated in everyday life. By
focusing specifically on gay fathers, Goodfellow produces an
anthropological account of how paternity, sexuality, and
masculinity are leveraged in relations of care between gay fathers
and their children.
This is the go-to guide for practitioners, parents and carers who
want to expand their understanding and skills for therapeutic
parenting - a deeply nurturing parenting style particularly
effective for children who have experienced trauma or adversity. It
provides an easy to understand explanation of the latest theory and
research in trauma and neuroscience, and explains how these relate
to everyday parenting strategies. It provides clarity on complex
areas, such as early developmental trauma in children, and insights
into key challenges, including managing transitions, sibling
relationships, challenging behaviour, the teenage years, and how to
find time and space for self-care. With experience, professional
expertise, and text features to aid learning throughout, this book
is the one-stop shop for everyone wanting to truly understand every
aspect of therapeutic parenting and trauma.
Through words, pictures, photographs, certificates and other
'little treasures', a Life Story Book provides a detailed account
of the child's early history and a chronology of their life. Fully
updated, this clear and concise book shows a unique family-friendly
way to compile a Life Story Book which promotes a sense of
permanency for the child, and encourages attachments within new
families. Joy Rees' influential model works chronologically
backwards rather than forwards, aiming to reinforce the child's
sense of belonging and security before addressing the child's past
and early trauma. The book contains simple explanations of complex
concepts, practical examples, helpful suggestions and includes some
simple checklists. This new edition has been expanded to include
fostered children and those living in kinship care or with a
special guardian. Perfect for social workers, adoption agencies,
adoptive parents, foster carers and kinship carers, Life Story
Books for Adopted and Fostered Children is a refreshing, innovative
and common-sense guide.
Therapeutic parenting is not your usual parenting style. It's a
special, specific way to raise kids who have experienced trauma in
their past, and requires a lot of commitment and determination -
this is about far more than love and care. But where do you start?
This book is the ideal first step for anyone who wants to
understand how therapeutic parenting works. It offers simple
summaries of the key ideas behind it, fully illustrated throughout
with informative cartoons and graphics. Over 40 different issues
are covered, from dysregulation and fear, to setting boundaries and
parenting in the midst of trauma. The perfect introduction for new
therapeutic parents, family members, teachers or other adults who
need to help support you and your child, this Quick Guide will also
be a source of inspiration for more experienced parents.
Born from Professor George C. Klein's adoption of two Romanian
babies in 1990, this work is a personal and analytical
autobiography. Compiling data from the 1989 Romanian revolution,
the oppression that led to the overthrow of Communism, and his
personal experiences in Romania, The Adventure is primarily a
description of the torturous process he and his wife endured in
order to adopt two babies from a Romanian orphanage. It is also an
examination of Romanian society from an institutional, national,
and global perspective. The author analyzes individual issues such
as forced pregnancies, neglect in orphanages, and economic
deprivation. Professor Klein examines how the Romanian Communist
Party held power in that era and explores the collapse of Communism
in Eastern Europe. His adept study discusses the various
socio-economic and political factors that led to the collapse of
Communism, and, ultimately, to the successful adoption of his
Romanian children.
This is not just another book about adoptive parenting. This is the
real stuff: dynamic, messy, baffling adoptive parenting, rooted in
domestic life. Award-winning columnist and adoptive parent Sally
Donovan offers savvy, compassionate advice on how to be 'good
enough' in the face of both day-to-day and more bewildering
challenges - how to respond to 'red mist' meltdowns, crippling
anxieties about new routines and, most importantly, how to meet the
intimidating challenge of being strong enough to protect and
nurture your child. Full of affecting and hilarious stories drawn
from life in the Donovan household, The Unofficial Guide to
Adoptive Parenting offers parents a refreshing counterblast to
stuffy parenting manuals -- read it, weep, laugh and learn.
Meet Chelsea - a young girl who was adopted. Chelsea invites you to
learn about adoption from her perspective and introduces us to two
friends of hers who were also transracially adopted. Chelsea and
her friends help children understand what it means to be adopted,
the experiences and challenges that follow the adoption process,
and how they can help. Accessible and informative, this illustrated
book is an ideal introduction to adoption for children aged 7-11
and is a great tool for encouraging discussions for families,
teachers and professionals working with adopted children.
Explores the role played by missionaries in the twentieth-century
transnational adoption movement Between 1953 and 2018,
approximately 170,000 Korean children were adopted by families in
dozens of different countries, with Americans providing homes to
more than two-thirds of them. In an iconic photo taken in 1955,
Harry and Bertha Holt can be seen descending from a Pan American
World Airways airplane with twelve Asian babies-eight for their
family and four for other families. As adoptive parents and
evangelical Christians who identified themselves as missionaries,
the Holts unwittingly became both the metaphorical and literal
parental figures in the growing movement to adopt transnationally.
Missionaries pioneered the transnational adoption movement in
America. Though their role is known, there has not yet been a full
historical look at their theological motivations-which varied
depending on whether they were evangelically or ecumenically
focused-and what the effects were for American society, relations
with Asia, and thinking about race more broadly. Adopting for God
shows that, somewhat surprisingly, both evangelical and ecumenical
Christians challenged Americans to redefine traditional familial
values and rethink race matters. By questioning the perspective
that equates missionary humanitarianism with unmitigated cultural
imperialism, this book offers a more nuanced picture of the rise of
an important twentieth-century movement: the evangelization of
adoption and the awakening of a new type of Christian mission.
If you are considering adoption, or are already headed down that
path, this book of stories, scriptures, and prayers will inspire
and encourage you along the way. Author Hillary Froning opens her
heart and shares the story of how she and her husband, Rich
Froning, adopted three precious children. Like talking to a close
friend, Blessed by Adoption features short essays, Bible verses,
and prayers that will move you and comfort you on your path to
adoption. The book also features reflections to help you process
your thoughts and feelings, as well as writing space for journaling
about your adoption journey. Blessed by Adoption includes: 30
essays by Hillary Froning about her adoption process, including
finding a birth mom, completing home studies, hospital stays,
telling friends and family, and all the blessings and challenges
along the way Bible verses and prayers to comfort you at every
stage of adoption Writing prompts and lined journaling pages to
help you reflect on your adoption journey
A raw and heart-wrenching literary memoir about a queer couple's
attempt to adopt a child. But would you take a ginger child? a
social worker asks Patrick Flanery as he and his husband embark on
their four-year odyssey of trying to adopt. This curious question
comes to haunt the journey, which Flanery recounts with startling
candour as he explores what it means to make a family as a queer
couple, to be an outsider in a foreign country, to grapple with the
inheritance of intergenerational loss, and to discover that the
emotions we feel are sometimes as mysterious to ourselves as to
others. This uniquely powerful book moves deftly between
heartbreaking memoir and illuminating meditation on parenting,
adoption and queerness in contemporary culture, stopping along the
way to consider recent science fiction film, camp horror
television, fiction and visual art. At the end, which could also be
the beginning of a new journey, Flanery asks whether we might all
imagine ourselves as ginger children-fragile, sensitive, more
easily hurt than we think possible, but with the hope that we are
also survivors, with greater powers of resilience than we know.
Adoption is the right option for many more types of parents and
children than we imagined a few decades ago. However, it is not the
right choice for everyone. Is Adoption for You? is a guide to
thinking through the issues.--from the Foreword by Jerri Ann
Jenista, M.D.
Would adopting a child be a good choice for you? Would you want to
adopt an infant or an older child? What about a child from another
country? A child of another race? Would you be willing to adopt a
child with medical problems? Could you agree to involvement and
openness with the birthmother? Would you be better off working with
an agency or an attorney? Do you have to be married? How much does
it really cost?
Before you decide, make sure you have all the facts. In this warm,
straightforward new book, adoption expert--and adoptive
parent--Christine Adamec gives you the information you need to make
this important decision. From financial considerations to the
myriad emotional issues involved, there are numerous questions to
explore. Adamec's expert guidance, drawn from personal stories,
clinical studies, and academic research, helps you find the answers
that are right for you.
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