Many men in mid-life are concerned with health issues--appearance, exercise, weight, muscle tone--and they also want to actively monitor their sexual health. This guide contains questionnaires to help determine problem areas in maintaining or regaining sexual vitality and how to do a natural "tune-up" on your body's systems to defeat declining sexual fitness.

Great sex is more than a physical act, and this book shows you how much more it can be. John Selby, one of the foremost experts in the field, helps make your sexual encounters come alive with renewed spontaneity, spirituality, and true joy-for a better relationship with your lover and a better life for yourself.

Sex is one of the purest forms of human endeavor--the ultimate arena of sharing between people. It is the nourishing confluence of so many special elements: touch, physicality, communication, play, arousal, and intimacy. So why so often does the entire focus of sex for women become: Will I have an orgasm or won't I? Wouldn't it be wonderful--for both men and women--if female orgasm were no longer an uncertainty, but rather, a given?

Dr. Barbara Keesling allows this fantasy of sexual fulfillment to be any woman's reality--following her unique exercises designed to strengthen and gain control over a little-known, rarely exercised internal area of the female body, it is possible for all women to control and guarantee orgasm! Once loving partners are no longer worried about climax, the pressure often associated with lovemaking gives way--and sex can reach its full potential.

To this end, Dr. Keesling paves the way for wonderful sensual payoffs by including racy and romantic exercises to help couples rediscover that sex is much more than striving for a big finish--it's the sensual stops along the way that make it worthwhile.

Dr. Ana Nogales Latino her expertise and insight to the millions of men and women who find themselves caught between two worlds -- the traditions of their Latin upbringing the demands of modern society.

Welcome to the hot new wave of writing about sex: Savage Love. Columnist Dan Savage has hand-picked over 300 letters from six years worth of "Savage Love," a no-holds-barred syndicated sex-advice column which runs in 16 papers in the United States and Canada, including The Village Voice and the San Francisco Weekly. An original and funny thinker, thrashing around in the playground of human sexuality, Savage advises on a wide range of titillating topics: * What is the best seduction music? * How do I come out to my fundamentalist parents? * What is so wonderful about intercourse, anyway? Forget Anka Radakovich and Isadora Altman. Tune in to Dan Savage as he answers these questions and much more in his own uniquely irreverent and sexually spunky style.

Male Sexual Awareness counsels both single men and men as part of a couple. It explains why men feel and behave as they do. It explores the problems that prevent them from living a full, healthy sexual existence. It offers them and their partners practical, proven advice so that they can achieve happy, rewarding sexual lives. Debunking the myths of rigid male roles and unrealistic performance demands, Male Sexual Awareness teaches pleasure-oriented approaches to intimacy. It will guide both men and women toward emotional cooperation and satisfaction and away from the misunderstandings and conflicts that arise in sexual relationships.

The fun way to get from fat to fit! ShaggingWorld's revolutionary approach to fitness enables you to get in shape without ever having to go hungry, or horny, again - the perfect relief for anyone following a strict diet plan. With 60 positions and instructional diagrams showing the number of calories burned, sins earned, and sex points gained, getting fit has never been more fun.

Cyberspace. The new frontier. Its pioneers bear names such as LoveSearch, Tomato, Hot Chick, and Satan. They explore an endless variety of virtual spaces like "The Den of Love," "The Ladies Orgy Room," "The Romance Chamber," and "The Dungeon." Their dialogue ranges from the sexually direct ("What are you wearing?", "Would you like to make love to another female?") to the self-reflective ("You don't seem interested in me," and "Will I ever have sex again with a real person?")These are the voices of a new sexual revolution, waged on the virtual frontier of the Internet, where personal anonymity and global access provide unlimited opportunities for sexual exploration. Who exactly are these explorers? What are they looking for? And what do they find? Cleo Odzer, an anthropologist and Internet pioneer, has spent years studying human sexuality, and has now applied her expertise and experience to unraveling the complex evolution of human relationships on the web. Dr. Odzer's engaging account of sex in cyberspace takes us from the on-line equivalent of playing footsie to private Internet rooms that only the most hardened sexual adventurer would dare enter. Through her own observation and participation on the net, Dr. Odzer shows us how personal history and fantasy interact and alter relationships on-line. By explicitly chronicling her own life and adventures on the web, she reveals our own deepest wishes, our darkest desires, and our universal need to connect. She tackles such controversial issues as net sex and pornography, ethics in cyberspace, digital obsessions and love affairs. In the end, she discovers a virtual community as rich and diverse as any real-life counterpart--a brave new world of e-mail, chat rooms, and video-conferencing that, despite its modern trappings, provides a direct line to the most basic of human desires: the need for intimacy, passion, a sense of belonging, and love.A brave and exiting voyage into the sexual cybersphere, Virtual Spaces offers not only a glimpse of our technological future but a timeless exploration of the human heart.

In the tradition of Frank Browning's The Culture of Desire comes Guy Kettelhack's provocative, honest, unapologetic look at the sex lives of gay men. Dancing Around the Volcano is essential reading for the American gay community.
Gay men have long been told that regardless of their individual characters and desires, they should aspire to a monogamous model in their romantic and sexual relationships. Now, Guy Kettelhack wants to "tell the truth about the sex gay men are really having," offering a path to sexual liberation that embraces the conflicts and paradoxes of sex.
Using the voices of different men who tell of their experiences, Kettelhack questions the assumptions about the "pathology" of promiscuity, sexual compulsion, prostitution, sadomasochism, fetishes, and celibacy. These personal stories are often sexy, sometimes funny, almost always poignant in their honesty, and startling in their insights. We hear about everything from hustling to monogamous gay relationships, from the baths to the private bedroom, from fisting to French-kissing. What emerges is a sex-positive take on the whole gamut of gay male sexual behavior.
Celebrating the ingenuity with which gay men manage their sexual and aggressive drives and fantasies, Dancing Around the Volcano is a passionately pro-sex book with potentially healing--even revolutionary--implications for everyone: gay or straight, male or female.

In 1997 it will be thirty years since the Sexual Offences Act of 1967 made sex between two men aged over 21 in private no longer a crime. It also marks the seventieth birthday of Antony Grey, who was one of the leading campaigners for homosexual law reform in the 1960s. The articles and talks reprinted in this book (together with others published here for the first time) cover the whole span of Grey's campaigning life, ranging from his first, anonymous, letter to the press about homosexuality written in 1954 to his thoughts on present-day sexual politics in the 1990s. Topics covered include law reform, religious and social attitudes to homosexuality, sex education, young people and sex, and the gay movement. The book concludes with a newly-written essay reviewing the progress achieved since the middle of this century and assessing what remains to be done as we enter the coming one. Never afraid of controversy, Antony Grey provides a unique summary of a pioneering campaigner's forty years of gay activism. For over 40 years, Antony Grey has been a leading campaigner, not only for gay rights, but also for better laws about, and more sensible attitudes towards, sex generally. As Secretary of the Homosexual Law Reform Society during the 1960s, Director of the Albany Trust in the 1970s, and later as a freelance writer and counsellor, he has worked publicly and consistently for individual sexual emancipation and collective common sense. Discussion includes law and morality, pornogaphy and free speech, the Church and homosexuality, young people and definitions of consent, sex education, gay politics from the homophile movement to queer, and outing.

This long-awaited work reconstructs the ways in which the meanings and uses of sex changed during that important moment of political and social configuration viewed as the birth of modernity. Isabel V. Hull analyzes the shift in the "sexual system" which occurred in German-speaking Central Europe when the absolutist state relinquished its monopoly on public life and presided over the formation of an independent civil society. Hull defines a society's sexual system as the patterned way in which sexual behavior is shaped and given meaning through institutions. She shows that as the absolutist state encouraged an independent sphere of public activity, it gave up its theoretically unlimited right to regulate sexual behavior and invested this right in the active citizens of the new civil society. Among the questions posed by this political and social transformation are, When does sexual behavior merit society's regulation? What kinds of behaviors and groups prompt intervention? What interpretive framework does the public apply to sexual behavior? Hull persuades us that a culture's sexual system can be understood only in relation to the particularities of state, law, and society, and that when state and society are examined through the sexual lens, much conventional wisdom is cast in doubt.

Exploring the taboo status that sex so often holds in society and the contradictions, lies, and feelings of guilt that have come to be associated with it, this study contends that sexuality is an essential manifestation of the human experience. With this simple belief as its foundation, the book argues that only by embracing and understanding sexuality is it possible to reconnect with the inner self, achieve totality, and fully accept those with differing lifestyles and sexualities. "Explorando la posicion tabu que ocupa el sexo tan a menudo en la sociedad y de las contradicciones, mentiras y los sentimientos de culpa que han llegado a relacionarse con este, este estudio alega que la sexualidad es una manifestacion esencial de la experiencia humana. Partiendo de esta base sencilla, el libro arguye que, solo a traves de abrazar y entender la sexualidad es posible reconectar con el ser mas profundo, conseguir la totalidad y aceptar sin reservaciones aquellos con estilos de vida y sexualidades diferentes."

For nearly 10 years, FBI agent Ira Levitt has been tracking David Vandemark, a wily killer with a tragic past and a twisted ability to read criminal minds. His victims are drug dealers, child molesters, and serial killers. Levitt knows Vandemark cannot resist going after the Latino Killer, a cruel psychopath currently stalking Hispanic families. Yet the closer Levitt gets, the more he realizes Vandemark is not the man he seeks--an evil far greater and more sinister lies beneath.

Written by an interdisciplinary team of scholars, this substantial volume offers a wide-ranging examination, from a Christian perspective, of the many complexities surrounding gender relations, showing how they have changed and how they still need to change if we are to be the men and women God meant us to be. No other book treats the systemic embedding of gender issues in all areas of life.

How do parents respond to the knowledge that their child is gay or lesbian? David Switzer, in a complete revision of his best-selling Parents of the Homosexual, helps parents understand their feelings and reactions to that knowledge and clarifies what it means to be homosexual. He explores recent scientific, social, and biblical information about homosexuality, emphasizes the need for reconciliation, and deals with common parental responses to a child's disclosure. He also provides a listing of additional resources for further assistance. This book is for parents of gay or lesbian children as well as for pastoral counselors and clergy engaged in family outreach. Children, too, can benefit as well, from understanding their parents' struggles with this issue.

What are the most important biblical texts for modern Christians to read in order to arrive at responsible decisions regarding the ethics of human sexual behavior? How should the Bible be used in this enterprise? How should those texts be translated for today's reader? The contributors to this book, all noted biblical scholars, confront these questions as they deal with issues surrounding the ethics of sexual behavior, in general, and the divisive issue of gay/lesbian ordination, in particular. They provide for the reader a deeper understanding of the Bible, its intentions, and its variety. This book offers a challenge to the church to give heed to the multiplicity of voices that are engaged in biblically responsible and constructive debates about the volatile issues regarding sexual behavior.

It has often been said that "if white America has a case of the sniffles, Black America catches walking pneumonia." When this credo is applied to relationships, common problems such as inadequate communication, commitment fears, financial struggles and infidelity carry an even greater weight. Yet, with hundreds of relationship books on the market, virtually none has explored the specific circumstances impacting relationships between African-American men and women.

In The Best Kind of Loving: A Black Woman's Guide to Finding Intimacy, renowned psychologist Dr. Gwendolyn Goldsby Grant addresses head-on the complex challenges in African-American relationships. "In addition to the social dynamics affecting male-female communications in general, as African-Americans, we carry the added burdens of myths and stereotypes that grow out of our real history of slavery, second-class citizenship and economic disenfranchisement," Grant explains.

In writing The Best Kind of Loving, Grant has provided an invaluable resource for Black women searching to understand the choices they make, the men they love and how to make the most of their strength, intelligence and wit. Compulsively readable, The Best Kind of Loving is unique in its scope and vision; women of all races and backgrounds will laugh, sympathize and nod their heads in recognition as they read about others not unlike themselves. Giving both pragmatic and realistic advice, Grant serves both as an advisor and confidant; she knows which situations may not work out, but also gives women ways to make the best of less-than-ideal circumstances.

We live in a world in which almost every public image--every interaction--carries an element of sexual desire.  And yet it is nearly impossible for us to talk openly and honestly about sex.  Talk Dirty to Me is author Sallie Tisdale's frank, funny, and provocative invitation to the conversation we've been waiting for--but have been too afraid to start.

Sallie Tisdale shuns the dry style of academics and takes us on a journey through gender and desire, romance and pornography, prostitution and morality, fantasies and orgasm.  She guides us through her field research of peep shows, XXX stores, and even the pornography collection of the British Library. Interweaving her own personal feelings, experiences, and revelations, she presents a brilliant, fascinating, and wholly original portrait of sex and sexuality in America, while encouraging us to explore and create our own "intimate philosophies."

For the first time ever, Sex in America reveals the myth-shattering results of the only comprehensive and methodologically sound survey of America's sexual practices and beliefs. In 1992, highly regarded social scientists Robert T. Michael, John H. Gagnon, and Edward O. Laumann embarked on an unprecedented study of America's sex life. Working through the National Opinion Research Center at the University of Chicago, their staff of 220 interviewers spent seven months interviewing 3,432 scientifically selected respondents about all aspects of their sex lives, histories, and beliefs. More important, unlike the famous but inherently flawed reports of Alfred Kinsey, Redbook and Playboy magazines, Shere Hite, Samuel and Cynthia Janus, and others, this survey relied on a random sample of Americans rather than on an unrepresentative group of volunteers. The resulting data reveal not just what we do sexually but how society shapes even our most private sexual experiences. They show not just why we are the way we are, but what it might take to change this behavior. Sure to arouse considerable controversy, the survey directly contradicts many of the conclusions of previous reports and defies widely held conventional wisdom about America's sexual practices and beliefs, with startling revelations about how often people have sex, how many partners they have, and where they meet them; the likelihood that the AIDS epidemic will spread into the heterosexual population; what people like to do in bed; how many Americans are homosexual; the incidence of forced sex; and why some people are more satisfied with their sex lives than others. After years of misleading statistics and unsubstantiated claims, Sexin America presents a comprehensive, reliable look at America's collective sex life, the definitive word on American sexuality today.

A great . . . very interesting book. -Johnny Depp Burg puts historians to shame by raising extremely interesting questions that no one before had asked. -Christopher Hill in New York Review of Books Pirates are among the most heavily romanticized and fabled characters in history. From Bluebeard to Captain Hook, they have been the subject of countless movies, books, children's tales, even a world-famous amusement park ride. In Sodomy and the Pirate Tradition, historian B. R. Burg investigates the social and sexual world of these sea rovers, a tightly bound brotherhood of men engaged in almost constant warfare. What, he asks, did these men, often on the high seas for years at a time, do for sexual fulfillment? Buccaneer sexuality differed widely from that of other all- male institutions such as prisons, for it existed not within a regimented structure of rule, regulations, and oppressive supervision, but instead operated in a society in which widespread toleration of homosexuality was the norm and conditions encouraged its practice. In his new introduction, Burg discusses the initial response to the book when it was published in 1983 and how our perspectives on all-male societies have since changed. B. R. Burg is professor of history at Arizona State University, Tempe.

This excellent book offers help to pastors and other caring Christians who must act as "triage officers" on the front lines of congregational and community life and who believe in and want to explore the importance of sexual issues in ministry. William Arnold believes that our sexuality is a defining element for understanding who we are and who God is. For a pastor to work with people in a helpful and redemptive manner, this powerful force must be faced with courage and care. However, the pastor must be aware that attempts to care can be damaging if there is not an openness to learning more about the multiple forces at work in our sexuality. The pastor's awareness must be physiological, psychological, and theological. William Arnold stresses self-awareness as the key to dealing with sexual issues and advises the pastor not to rely strictly on intellectual information.

Integrating the psychology of love and creativity, this pioneering book explores both how a couple's involvement as lovers influences their creative collaboration and how working together affects their relationship. Representing a variety of genres--painting, sculpture, photography, and installation art--the celebrated couples profiled here include, among others, Christo and Jeanne-Claude, Elizabeth Diller and Ricardo Scofidio, and Kristin Jones and Andrew Ginzel. Intrigued by this process of "intimate creativity," psychologists Irving and Suzanne Sarnoff (themselves partners in love and work) decided to conduct in-depth interviews with partners in visual art because they defy the supremely individualistic tradition of their field. Whatever their age or sexual orientation, these artist-couples combine their talents to form a collective identity as a professional team. Passionately intense about their shared commitment, they communicate endlessly to resolve conflicts and reach consensus. Providing mutual validation and support, they increase their productivity and the quality of their work; they minimize their fear and frustration and enhance their pleasure in being together. The authors also draw on historical and contemporary literature about similar couples, ranging from Jean Arp and Sophie Taeuber to Gilbert and George to Claes Oldenburg and Coosje van Bruggen. Stimulating and engaging, this book highlights the features of a unique collaborative process, considers the connection between creativity and sexuality, and suggests possibilities for any couple to expand their intimacy.

Chris Glaser describes his personal journey of coming out to his family, friends, church - and to himself. He tells the story of how the church reacted to his disclosure and his subsequent "uncommon" calling that led him to devote his professional life to reconciliation between the lesbian, gay, and bisexual community and the church. By openly and honestly telling his story, Glaser furthers his calling - demonstrating that lesbians, gay men, and bisexuals are not abstractions, but real people struggling to remain faithful. Gay Christians will recognize elements of their own stories in Glaser's narrative. And the whole church may discover its own uncommon calling to fully welcome all Christians into the family of faith.

Mars and Venus in the Bedroom offers practical, heartfelt and wise advice to help you to transform your love life and enjoy a sexually and emotionally fulfilling relationship. This edition of John Gray's bestselling book explains how to keep passion alive in a long-term relationship and reveals what men and women really want from each other. He understands that there may be differences between you, but explains why instead of causing friction, these differences can make life much more fun and fulfilling.