Living in a love-hate relationship-with your spouse, kids, parents, friends, co-workers, and even God-can leave you feeling confused and furious. But the practical strategies presented in this book will help you overcome your most agonizing relational predicaments. Drawing on a wealth of experience as therapists and as best-selling authors, David Stoop and Stephen Arterburn provide you with:

Insightful analysis of the "problem behind the problem behind the problem" in love-hate relationships

Hands-on questionnaires and exercises to help you sort out your mixed-up feelings

Real-life case studies that show how you can protect yourself from abuse without cutting yourself off from people you care about

Professional advice to help you work through your bitterness and disappointment and manage the healing act of forgiveness

From the creators of the #1-bestselling Life Recovery series, Take Your Life Back is a groundbreaking look at how to overcome unhealthy relationships and love others well. Counselors Stephen Arterburn and David Stoop offer personal examples, clinical insight, and scriptural truth to help you navigate your toughest relationships.

Do you have a relationship that leaves you feeling drained? Maintaining and improving this kind of relationship--whether it's a spouse, a friend, or a child--can feel exhausting, fruitless, and toxic to your own health. It's complicated: You love the person, but sometimes you feel as if you're pouring all your energy into holding your loved one, and your relationship, together. And if he or she failed or stumbled--would that make you a failure, too? What would happen if you walked away?

Arterburn and Stoop have helped millions walk the path of health through their New Life Ministries and counseling center--and now, in Take Your Life Back, they reach out to those who walk the path alongside them. We are called to love one another deeply, but it is possible to support your loved one in a way that honors the relationship, God, and yourself. Take Your Life Back is the key to fostering healthy, God-honoring attachments that benefit you and the one you love.

Dr. David Stoop clearly shows readers the way to lasting change through the renewing of their minds; allowing them to move from fear to love; from resentment to gratitude; from lust to purity; from loneliness to connection; from idolatry to contentment; and from mistrust to trust.

Did you know most of our patterns of behavior are set by the time we are six years old? No wonder it's so hard to change! Dr. David Stoop shows readers that the true way to lasting change is in the renewing of our minds; which we accomplish when we faithfully read God's Word and meditate on it daily. He clearly shows how to move from fear to love; from resentment to gratitude; from lust to purity; from loneliness to connection; from idolatry to contentment; and from mistrust to trust. Anyone eager to find change that lasts will welcome this practical and encouraging message. Dr. David Stoop is the founder and director of the Center for Family Therapy in Newport Beach; California. He is the author of many books; including Forgiving What You'll Never Forget and You Are What You Think; as well as SMART Love with his wife; Jan. He leads worldwide seminars and retreats on topics such as marital relationships; parenting; men's issues; fathering; and forgiveness. David and Jan have three sons and six grandchildren. Learn more at www.DrStoop.com.

Licensed clinical psychologists and therapists introduce SMART-love, a groundbreaking concept that applies the principles of Emotional Intelligence to marriage, enabling couples to build a stronger and deeper relationship.

The principles of emotional intelligence have long been applied to the business world with remarkable results. But what would happen if they were applied to that most important of relationships--marriage?

SMART Love is a system for understanding emotions--both your own and your spouse's--managing those emotions, and walking hand in hand through those situations when emotions run high. Drs. David and Jan Stoop break the book into five sections:

· Self-awareness of your emotions

· Managing your emotions

· Accountability to yourself, your spouse, and others

· Reading the other person's emotions

· Together in the land of emotions

A SMART Love inventory helps readers see where they are strong and where they need improvement, and each section includes action steps couples can take to implement what they've learned. Perfect for couples' counseling, small groups, and anyone who wants to connect with their spouse more deeply.

Attitude is everything. Attitude is what makes the difference between those who succeed and those who fail. And it's easy to see-in other people. But it's not always easy to recognize when our own attitude needs adjustment, or to know how to change it. In You Are What You Think, David Stoop shows you how to use self-talk to make positive changes in your attitudes and beliefs. Self-talk can be private speech, thoughts, or external speech, all of which shapes emotions and behavior for good or bad. This popular, revolutionary book will help you: *choose healthy, positive thoughts *respond rather than react to circumstances *overcome guilt, anger, anxiety, and stress *release the power of faith *and more You can use self-talk to gain control of the way you feel and act. You can turn out-of-control into self-control and make your emotions work for you rather than against you. You Are What You Think tells you how.

Growing older is inevitable and, as we often say, it beats the alternative. But just because we age does not mean we must give in to a slow deterioration of our bodies, minds, social circles, and interests. It doesn't mean we need to give up on our dreams, goals, or aspirations. In fact, as people live longer and healthier into old age, we need to decide what we want to do with all the extra years we've been given! In Living Strong, Finishing Well, Dr. David Stoop draws upon his more than 80 years on the planet and his decades of counseling, speaking, and writing to show you how to live every moment to its fullest until you're finally called home. He shows you how to be yourself, continue the search for meaning, stay humble, build on your friendships, develop resilience, stay teachable, and more as you learn to accept the gifts that come with growing older and wiser in a world that needs what you have to give.

Did you know most of our patterns of behavior are set by the time we are six years old? No wonder it's so hard to change Even when we're committed to making a change in life, it's always an uphill battle. But there is a secret to lasting change that God gave us long before modern neuroscience and self-help gurus were the norm.
"Rethink How You Think "is for anyone who has been frustrated by an inability to change habits, overcome fears, or keep up new healthy patterns of living and thinking. Dr. David Stoop shows readers that the true way to lasting change is in the renewing of our minds, which we accomplish when we faithfully read God's Word and meditate on it daily. He clearly shows how to move from fear to love, from resentment to gratitude, from lust to purity, from loneliness to connection, from idolatry to contentment, and from mistrust to trust. Anyone eager to find change that lasts will welcome this practical and encouraging message.