A groundbreaking approach to parenting by nationally-respected educator Alfie Kohn that gives parents "powerful alternatives to help children become their most caring, responsible selves" (Adele Faber, New York Times bestselling author) by switching the dynamic from doing things to children to working with them in order to understand their needs and how to meet them. Most parenting guides begin with the question "How can we get kids to do what they're told?" and then proceed to offer various techniques for controlling them. In this truly groundbreaking book, nationally respected educator Alfie Kohn begins instead by asking, "What do kids need-and how can we meet those needs?" What follows from that question are ideas for working with children rather than doing things to them. One basic need all children have, Kohn argues, is to be loved unconditionally, to know that they will be accepted even if they screw up or fall short. Yet conventional approaches to parenting such as punishments (including "time-outs"), rewards (including positive reinforcement), and other forms of control teach children that they are loved only when they please us or impress us. Kohn cites a body of powerful, and largely unknown, research detailing the damage caused by leading children to believe they must earn our approval. That's precisely the message children derive from common discipline techniques, even though it's not the message most parents intend to send. More than just another book about discipline, though, Unconditional Parenting addresses the ways parents think about, feel about, and act with their children. It invites them to question their most basic assumptions about raising kids while offering a wealth of practical strategies for shifting from "doing to" to "working with" parenting-including how to replace praise with the unconditional support that children need to grow into healthy, caring, responsible people. This is an eye-opening, paradigm-shattering book that will reconnect readers to their own best instincts and inspire them to become better parents.

Dr. Norman T. Berlinger initially missed the signs of his own son's depression. But by drawing on his love for his son, as well as his skills and training as a doctor, he developed a set of techniques to help lead his son out of depression. In this book, he offers 10 Parental Partnering Strategies based on his own experiences and on interviews with parents of depressed teens and mental health professionals. Dr. Berlinger's tips will help concerned parents differentiate true depression from moodiness, be alert to suicide risks, monitor medication effectiveness, and spot signs of relapse.

One in eight teens is depressed, but Rescuing Your Teenager from Depression shows that there are ways parents can help.

Don't let your child become another statistic -- read this book.

The leading experts on parent-child communication show parents and teachers how to motivate kids to learn and succeed in school.

Using the unique communication strategies, down-to-earth dialogues, and delightful cartoons that are the hallmark of their multimillion-copy bestseller How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk, Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish show parents and teachers how to help children handle the everyday problems that interfere with learning.

This breakthrough book demonstrates how parents and teachers can join forces to inspire kids to be self-directed, self-disciplined, and responsive to the wonders of learning.

You're a smart guy. You read The Perfect Storm and now you find yourself living it. Your daughter, who yesterday was happy to hang out with you at Home Depot, now cries for no known reason. Last week you were her soccer coach and 'the best dad there ever was, really,' and today on the way home from practice she turned away and stared sadly out the window and wouldn't say a word to you. She's hovering around adolescence and all of a sudden you're flopping on the daddy-deck in a panic. What the heck is about to happen and how are you going to get through this? How can you help her get through these difficult years when honestly, you don't totally understand it yourself? If you're a single dad, it can get all the more complicated. You might not know who or where to go to for the real deal, the inside scoop. When did her body start to change? Where the heck do you buy a training bra, and when? Do you have to take her or can you pay someone else to do it? What about dating? Or the girl clique thing you've heard about. Can't you just ignore it and raise her just like you would a son, just like you were raised? This book is for any man raising a tween or teen daughter, but particularly the single man who does or doesn't have full-time custody. This is the definitive guide to helping dad and daughter get past 'survive' and onto 'thrive.' Written for any man raising daughters, the authors geared this book for the single dad who may not have a woman in his life with whom to confer about issues their daughters may be facing like sex, friendships, boyfriends, alcohol and drugs, and personal hygiene. This book covers it all, from what to keep stocked in the bathroom to how to talk about sex without being blown off. The authors help dads gain a better sense of what their daughters are going through, how their bodies are changing, how their relationships are changing, and how best to handle the ups and downs of these challenging years.

This vital volume advances understanding of how parenting from childhood to adolescence changes or remains the same in a variety of sociodemographic, psychological, and cultural contexts, providing a truly global understanding of parenting across cultures. Through the Parenting Across Cultures project, the editors unveil findings from this hugely important comparative longitudinal study of parents and children in China, Colombia, Italy, Jordan, Kenya, the Philippines, Sweden, Thailand, and the United States. The volume offers insight into trajectories of parenting, exploring parents' warmth, control, rules setting, and knowledge of children's activities and whereabouts. Each chapter is authored by a contributor native to the country examined, guaranteeing an authentic emic perspective, and together the chapters provide a broader sample that is more generalizable to a wider range of the world's population than is typical in most parenting research. Parenting Across Cultures From Childhood to Adolescence is essential reading for researchers and students of parenting, psychology, human development, family studies, sociology, and cultural anthropology, as well as professionals working with families.

This book teaches parents how to conduct play therapy with their own young children. Teaching parents to be play therapists enhances the efforts of the mental health professional, who now becomes a consultant to the parent-therapist.

Your own behaviour is the only behaviour over which you have absolute control. To change your children's behaviour, you first need to change your own. Here, Britain's leading behaviour expert reveals how we get children's behaviour wrong - and how to get it right. Drawing on a method tried and tested in over 100,000 classrooms, he shows that the only way to change what your child does is by first changing what you do. He explains why punishing your way to a life without tantrum-prone toddlers/sulking teenagers is a fool's errand - and how to instead grow new behaviours with love. And he reveals why a positive, relational, consistent approach to parenting is 1,000 times more powerful than any Xbox, Disneyland trip or cold, hard cash bribe that money can buy. Filled with practical tools and relatable case studies, Paul Dix's method will turn your home into a behavioural nirvana. It is not just a list of punishments and rewards. It is so much more useful than that.

Whether dealing with the tantrums of a demanding two-year-old, or the hostile, rejecting rage of a distraught teenager seeking greater independence, dealing with a child's anger is one of the most frustrating and challenging tasks faced by a parent. While some children learn constructive strategies to manage anger, many learn ineffective ways that may lead to more severe emotional and behavioural difficulties, such as underachievement, depression, interpersonal conflict, and, in extreme cases, even violence. In Healthy Anger, psychologists and anger expert Dr Bernard Golden helps us understand how children experience and express anger and how parents can help them to manage this complex and charged emotion. Rather than just examining the child's disruptive behaviour, Golden focuses on parent-child interaction, teaching parents constructive ways to respond to the whole child. Anger, Golden explains, is a natural emotion that is distinct from behaviour that is aggressive. He emphasizes that anger does not occur in isolation, but rather in the context of individual needs, attitudes, perceptions and emotions. Golden helps parents work with their children to identify the causes of their anger, and then to implement strategies for coping in a healthy way. He gives parents constructive guidance for helping to understand "child logic", talking about anger and forgiveness, responding to escalating anger, rewarding good behaviours, and recognizing those children and teens who need professional help. Throughout the book, Golden includes clear, step-by-step instructions for exercises and tasks that will build coping strategies and build problem-solving skills for managing and channeling anger in healthy ways. Healthy Anger is an accessible and comprehensive guide for parents, teachers, and clinicians who work with children and teens.

A 'Biddulph-like' witty and spaciously-designed survival guide which is both practical and celebratory. Written by two generations of one family with illuminating case studies, tips and practical ideas - as well as a sensitive look at emotional issues - this lightly humorous book has a user-friendly, lively design and hilarious cartoons. There are also practical line illustrations to accompany step-by-step essential procedures from happy changing and preparing baby milks. The guide is a good introduction to grandparents who want to be up-to-date with the modern style of parenting and new technological innovations. Covers everything from nappies to car seats, methods of discipline, sleep, feeding. It also offers advice on how to offer the best kind of support and advice without the parents of a new baby feeling crowded or criticised. Includes full coverage of the grandfather's experience as well.

Strategies for Protecting Your Child's Immune System is the first book to focus on prevention of environmental damage to the immune system of embryos, babies and older children. It provides expecting and existing parents, their families and physicians with science-based information to protect and proactively manage their child's immune system. Environmental exposures (pollutants, allergens, drugs, diet, physical factors) in the home, school and community can damage the developing immune system and increase the risk of lifelong chronic diseases such as allergies, asthma, type 1 diabetes, celiac disease and neurological problems. This book imparts specific tools to parents and their physicians to help keep the early-life immune system out of harm's way and minimize environmental health risk.

We all know Thomas Edison was a genius of seemingly limitless imagination. Yet few know that he was a failure in elementary school. Teel shows us how Edison's mother, Nancy, guided the boy who was deemed a dunce by officials-even assumed mentally retarded by his father-to become one of the greatest inventors of all time. Edison's progressive and imaginative teaching methods hold lessons for all children who learn differently from conventional methods and for the parents and teachers who care about them. Teel also explains how parents can negotiate the educational maze created by the Individuals with Disabilities Education Act (IDEA) and the No Child Left Behind Act (NCLB). An Individualized Education Program is explained in detail, and options such as enlisting the assistance of a professional advocate are also discussed. The latest research about current medication therapies and the origins/potential benefits of ADHD are reviewed. A leading professional advocate explains what every parent needs to know about the public school system. Other topics addressed include the effectiveness of homeschooling and parental and student rights. Teel also offers an extensive list of local and national resources.

Intelligence That Comes from the Heart

Every parent knows the importance of equipping children with the intellectual skills they need to succeed in school and life. But children also need to master their emotions. Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child is a guide to teaching children to understand and regulate their emotional world. And as acclaimed psychologist and researcher John Gottman shows, once they master this important life skill, emotionally intelligent children will enjoy increased self-confidence, greater physical health, better performance in school, and healthier social relationships. Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child will equip parents with a five-step "emotion coaching" process that teaches how to:

* Be aware of a child's emotions
* Recognize emotional expression as an opportunity for intimacy and teaching
* Listen empathetically and validate a child's feelings
* Label emotions in words a child can understand
* Help a child come up with an appropriate way to solve a problem or deal with an upsetting issue or situation

Written for parents of children of all ages, Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child will enrich the bonds between parent and child and contribute immeasurably to the development of a generation of emotionally healthy adults.

More and more children are expressing spiritual qualities, and parents, caregivers, pediatricians, teachers, and therapists are increasingly taking notice of children's spiritual lives. Mollie Painton, Psy.D., a well-known child therapist, helps parents understand this phenomenon in the framework of "spiritual intelligence." By understanding this concept, we can honor our children's gifts and develop our own spiritual intelligence along the way.

Any parent whose child has had an imaginary friend, talked with a deceased relative, or been receptive to the pain and emotion of others will find guidance and inspiration in "Encouraging your Child's Spiritual Intelligence." Dr. Painton's thoughtful quizzes and advice provide added support and insight throughout the book. Adults, who have had their own spiritual experiences in childhood dismissed, will rediscover their original spiritual connection and become valuable spiritual partners with their children.

The ultimate guide to ensuring school success for kids with attention deficits.

School Success for Kids With ADHD offers parents and teachers the support they need to ensure children with attention deficits build on their strengths, circumvent their weaknesses, and achieve to their fullest potential. With the growing number of children diagnosed with attention problems, parents and teachers need practical advice for helping these children succeed in school.

Topics include recognizing the causes and types of attention deficits and how they appear in the school context, requesting school evaluations and diagnoses, understanding the laws regarding students with special needs, advocating for these students in the school environment, and coaching students with attention deficits to success.

The authors also include a brief overview of research and medical perspectives on attention deficits, strategies used by teachers of children with ADHD, and helpful tools for parents and teachers to employ, such as homework checklists and self-advocacy charts.

What's the Harm? is an interdisciplinary collection of perspectives on the question of harm--whether legalizing same-sex marriage will cause harm to society, and whether the denial of same-sex marriage causes harm to society. This clarifying and illuminating book explores the societal, familial, individual, and jurisprudential harms of the legalization or prohibition of same-sex marriage. The contributors wrestle with the 'what's the harm' question from a variety of academic and professional perspectives, emphasizing the significance and impact of legalizing same-sex marriage for law, government, family relations, and child welfare. What's the Harm? is a valuable resource of diverse insights, arguments, and information that contributes to a deeper understanding of what may be the defining issue of the first decade of the twenty-first century.

Renowned child psychologist and New York Times bestselling author of Lost at School and The Explosive Child explains how to cultivate a better parent-child relationship while also nurturing empathy, honesty, resilience, and independence. Parents have an important task: figure out who their child is-his or her skills, preferences, beliefs, values, personality traits, goals, and direction-get comfortable with it, and then help them pursue and live a life according to it. Yet parents also want their kids to be independent, but not if they are going to make bad choices. They want to avoid being too overbearing, but not if an apathetic kid is what they have to show for it. They want to have a good relationship with their kids, but not if that means being a pushover. They don't want to scream, but they do want to be heard. Good parenting is about striking the balance between a child's characteristics and a parent's desire to have influence. Dr. Ross Greene "makes a powerful case for rethinking typical approaches to parenting and disciplining children" (The Atlantic). Through his well-known model of solving problems collaboratively, parents can forgo timeout and sticker charts; stop badgering, berating, threatening, and punishing; allow their kids to feel heard and validated; and have influence. From homework to hygiene, curfews, to screen time, Dr. Greene "arms parents with guidelines that are clear, doable, and sure to empower both parents and their children" (Adele Faber, coauthor of How to Talk So Kids Will Listen). Raising Human Beings is "inspirational...a game-changer for parents, teachers, and other caregivers. Its advice is reasonable and empathetic, and readers will feel ready to start creating a better relationship with the children in their lives" (Publishers Weekly, starred review).

A follow-up to the Good Wife and Good Husband Guides from CMP, the Good Mother's Guide takes a tongue-in-cheek look at how the values of mothers in the 1950s seem oh, so strange to moms now.
This fun, retro volume shows moms how to maintain peace and prosperity for their familis-well, maybe not. Things like sending the little ones off to bed before hubby gets home so he won't have to be disturbed by them, making balanced meals every night and making sure everyone is at the table for dinner, and keeping herself looking good for him are portrayed in the kitchy light of their reality at the time. Warning: This is a gift between sisters and girlfriends who are moms or moms-to be.... It's a humorous gifts for moms-to-be, or currents moms, for Mother's Day or any day.

Do you ever find yourself asking . . .
- How can you get your children to do their homework without meltdowns, threats or bribes?
- How can you have a drama-free morning where the kids actually get out the door in time for school?
- How can you better manage your kids' screen time without making them want to hide what they're doing from you?
Family therapist Susan Stiffelman is here to help. While most parenting programs are designed to coerce kids to change, "Parenting Without Power Struggles" does something innovative, showing you how to come alongside your children to awaken their natural instincts to cooperate, rather than at them with threats or bribes, which inevitably fuels their resistance. By staying calm and being the confident "Captain of the ship" your child needs, you will learn how to parent from a place of strong, durable connection, and you'll be better able to help your kids navigate the challenging moments of growing up.
Drawing upon her successful practice and packed with real-life stories, "Parenting Without Power Struggles" is an extraordinary guidebook for transforming the day-to-day lives of busy parents--and the children they love.

Teenagers are perplexing, intriguing, and spirited creatures. In an attempt to discover the secrets to their thoughts and actions, parents have tried talking, cajoling, and begging them for answers. The result has usually been just more confusion. But new and exciting light is being shed on these mysterious young adults. What was once thought to be hormones run amuck can now be explained with modern medical technology. MRI and PET scans view the human brain while it is alive and functioning. To no one's surprise, the teenage brain is under heavy construction These discoveries are helping parents understand the (until now) unexplainable teenager. Neuroscience can help parents adjust to the highs and lows of teenage behavior. Typically, this transformation is a prickly proposition for both teens and their families, but the trials and tribulations of adolescence give teenagers a second chance to develop and create the brain they will take into adulthood.

"You can imagine what my child′s room looked like: clothes on the floor, dresser draws open with clothes half hanging out of them, and toys spread all over the floor."

"Jill is given an assignment on Monday that is due on Friday. The problem is that despite repeated nagging, she won′t start it until Thursday night."

Organizing Ther Disorganized Child finally answers the parents′ question, "How can I help my child get organized without waging a battle?" This essential toolkit for parents and educators factors organizational styles into the equation, and offers effective strategies that deliver amazing long-term results.

Renowned ADHD expert Dr. Martin Kutscher and coach Marcella Moran explain the roots of our children′s organizational problems, and the parents′ role in fixing them. They outline different organizational styles used by different students. (Not all kids organize the same way ) Kutscher and Moran outline exactly what school materials to buy, and how to set up the study area. They provide a step-by-step plan for an organizational system including:

o Refining morning and nighttime routines

o Getting the correct work home

o Planning the work, and getting it back to where it belongs

o Tips for reading and note taking

o Study and test taking skills

o Learning how to ask the right questions

Organizing the Disorganized Child is an essential toolkit that belongs on every parent′s shelf.

Early Praise for Organizing the Disorganized Child

"A superb book Blessedly brief, pointedly practical, and clear as glass, this book will help any child, parent, or teacher who reads it. Step by step, the authors, who truly know their subject, lead the reader through a method that can′t help but succeed. This book meets an urgent need. I will be referring my patients to it."

- Edward Hallowell, M.D., co-author of Driven to Distraction and Superparenting for ADD

"Organizing the Disorganized Child is a long overdue manual that strives to make life easier on families with children with ADHD. Unlike other books that offer a menu of one-size-fits-all strategies, this book digs deeper and helps parents to understand the root causes of their particular child′s disorganization...This book is a MUST HAVE for all parents of children with or without ADHD "

- Nancy A. Ratey, author of The Disorganized Mind

"Organizing the Disorganized Child is a breath of fresh air. Straightforward, practical, and most important, providing strategies and ideas that any parent - even the disorganized - can easily implement. Rather than wait till some children struggle I suggest that Organizing the Disorganized Child be essential reading for parents of all entering first graders."

- Sam Goldstein, Ph.D., Co-author of Raising a Self-disciplined Child