Intelligence That Comes from the Heart

Every parent knows the importance of equipping children with the intellectual skills they need to succeed in school and life. But children also need to master their emotions. Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child is a guide to teaching children to understand and regulate their emotional world. And as acclaimed psychologist and researcher John Gottman shows, once they master this important life skill, emotionally intelligent children will enjoy increased self-confidence, greater physical health, better performance in school, and healthier social relationships. Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child will equip parents with a five-step "emotion coaching" process that teaches how to:

* Be aware of a child's emotions
* Recognize emotional expression as an opportunity for intimacy and teaching
* Listen empathetically and validate a child's feelings
* Label emotions in words a child can understand
* Help a child come up with an appropriate way to solve a problem or deal with an upsetting issue or situation

Written for parents of children of all ages, Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child will enrich the bonds between parent and child and contribute immeasurably to the development of a generation of emotionally healthy adults.

Telling stories awakens wonder and creates special occasions with children, whether it is bedtime, around the fire or on rainy days. Encouraging you to spin golden tales, Nancy Mellon shows how you can become a confident storyteller and enrich your family with the power of story.

A practical conversation about creating a fulfilling and contented second half, including twenty practical activities to create a new you.

Midlife uncertainty is uncomfortable. You are trying to find the door leading to a more fulfilling life, but are dragged back to the constant responsibilities of work and relationships. That door is open, but you need to search for it. This book provides insights and exercises to help you make the mental connections, and take you to the important decisions that you must confront with in this phase of your life. It is crucial that you find that door yourself. It is there, it is open. You simply need to see it.

It fills you with a gnawing concern that somehow you are missing out. Everybody else around you is living purposeful, high achievement lives, and you are wallowing in drudgery. We spend the early part of our adult lives building a career, building a family or support structures around us; we become so bound up in the boredom of day-to-day survival that when we get those things sorted during this phase, we feel let down and disappointed.

James Forson studied at the University of Cape Town and was dragged into the world of business with work experience in the mining, steel, pharmaceutical and banking industries. For the past 24 years he has been an independent management consultant working with clients across a broad range of industries and environments. In the course of his consulting practice, he has worked with a number of executives who have expressed dissatisfaction with their lives. This is where his interest in midlife renewal was awakened, as he counselled and supported his clients to live more humanly rewarding lives. He has taken the tools, methods and concepts he used and developed and has created a book to assist folks dealing with the complexity and anxiety of midlife renewal.

It’s no use, he never listens to what I say.

Parents are bombarded by conflicting advice. They are told they must give their children unconditional love, yet when children and young people behave badly, parents are blamed for a lack of discipline. Sometimes, parents are left feeling guilty and powerless to influence their children.

Parent Power shows how it is possible to enjoy a warm and loving relationship with your children whilst teaching them what is right and wrong. Focussing on the interaction between parent and child, John Sharry assists parents in finding alternative and satisfying ways to relate to their children in a positive way. Divided into two parts: parenting children from three to eleven years, and parenting teenagers, each part is packed full of well researched principles of parenting, ideas and tips for moving forward.

By allowing this book to encourage you to pause and reflect about your parenting, you will discover what works for you and your own unique family situation, empowering you as a parent and improving family life.

This highly anticipated third edition of the Handbook of Parenting brings together an array of field-leading experts who have worked in different ways toward understanding the many diverse aspects of parenting. Contributors to the Handbook look to the most recent research and thinking to shed light on topics every parent, professional, and policymaker wonders about. Parenting is a perennially "hot" topic. After all, everyone who has ever lived has been parented, and the vast majority of people become parents themselves. No wonder bookstores house shelves of "how-to" parenting books, and magazine racks in pharmacies and airports overflow with periodicals that feature parenting advice. However, almost none of these is evidence-based. The Handbook of Parenting is. Period. Each chapter has been written to be read and absorbed in a single sitting, and includes historical considerations of the topic, a discussion of central issues and theory, a review of classical and modern research, and forecasts of future directions of theory and research. Together, the five volumes in the Handbook cover Children and Parenting, the Biology and Ecology of Parenting, Being and Becoming a Parent, Social Conditions and Applied Parenting, and the Practice of Parenting. Volume 3, Being and Becoming a Parent, considers a large cast of characters responsible for parenting, each with her or his own customs and agenda, and examines what the psychological characteristics and social interests of those individuals reveal about what parenting is. Chapters in Part I, on The Parent, show just how rich and multifaceted is the constellation of children's caregivers. Considered first are family systems and then successively mothers and fathers, coparenting and gatekeeping between parents, adolescent parenting, grandparenting, and single parenthood, divorced and remarried parenting, lesbian and gay parents and, finally, sibling caregivers and nonparental caregiving. Parenting also draws on transient and enduring physical, personality, and intellectual characteristics of the individual. The chapters in Part II, on Becoming and Being a Parent, consider the intergenerational transmission of parenting, parenting and contemporary reproductive technologies, the transition to parenthood, and stages of parental development, and then chapters turn to parents' well-being, emotions, self-efficacy, cognitions, and attributions as well as socialization, personality in parenting, and psychoanalytic theory. These features of parents serve many functions: they generate and shape parental practices, mediate the effectiveness of parenting, and help to organize parenting.

Over half a million people in Britain are somewhere on the autistic spectrum. It can be devastating to discover that your child has an ASD (autistic spectrum disorder) and even tougher helping them to cope with life. Many books will tell you the latest theories about what causes ASD, but what you really want to know is how to get a decent night's sleep, or stop your child flapping their arms, or find some time for your other children. This second, fully updated edition of this lifeline for parents helps them understand their ASD child and offers practical advice on all the problems that can make day-to-day life so tough.

Empower your child to express themselves, handle big emotions, and make friends—with this fun, neurodiversity-affirming activity book for autistic kids ages 5 to 10.

There are many ways for kids to develop their social-emotional learning—and it doesn’t have to be on the playground or in an unfamiliar place. This activity book for autistic kidsprovides your child with a safe space to learn and practice everything from coping with big emotions to taking turns and learning to compromise. Written by experienced therapist Emily Mori, MS, LCPC, CAS, Social-Emotional Learning for Autistic Kids helps kids develop fulfilling relationships and feel more confident in the world around them. Through 50 engaging activities, tips for adapting the activities, and advice for how parents and caregivers can be supportive, your child will gain the social and emotional skills—and confidence—they need for healthy self-esteem and a rich social life.

Inside Social-Emotional Learning for Autistic Kids, you’ll find:

• 50 fun and creative activities. Research shows that creative expression helps to relieve stress and anxiety and helps kids communicate more openly. Through art, music, storytelling, and role-playing, your child will learn how to better navigate life’s ups and downs.
• Real-life scenarios and skill-building, from practicing cool-down techniques and naming their feelings to learning how to hold and respect boundaries, make and maintain friendships, and speak up for themselves.
• Tips to adapt and extend activities. Tailor activities to your child’s individual needs and abilities, and continue to support your child's social-emotional learning at home.
• A neurodiversity-affirming approach. Written by a certified autism specialist who empowers kids to embrace their unique strengths and needs.

'I wish I'd had this book years ago - to show to bosses who didn't understand, to friends who couldn't grasp why I was permanently tired, and even to myself - to know that I wasn't the only one who wished for an extra eight hours in the day.' Anne Diamond, television presenter, mother. 'Naomi Stadlen writes with understanding, deep insight and humour. This is truly woman-to woman.' Sheila Kitzinger, childbirth educator, mother. ended up feeling that you have 'done nothing all day'? Do you sometimes find it hard to feel pleased with what you are doing, and tell yourself you should achieve more with your time? Maybe it's because you can't see how much you are doing already. In this unique and perceptive look at mothering, Naomi Stadlen draws on many years' work with hundreds of other mothers of a wide variety of ages and backgrounds. She explores mothers' experiences to reveal what they - and you - are doing when it may look, to everyone else, like nothing. If you are a mother, and have ever felt: that nobody understands what you do all day; overwhelmed by your feelings for your baby; tired all the time; that nothing prepared you for motherhood; uncertain what your baby seems to want; short-tempered with your partner; - you will find this the most reassuring book you have ever picked up.

Following her previous New York Times bestsellers, Dr.Laura Schlessinger, the conscience of talk radio, now addresses an issue near and dear to her heart: the stupid things parents do to mess up their children. Never one to shy away from tough truths, Dr. Laura marshals compelling evidence for the widespread neglect of America's children and convincingly condemns the numerous rationalizations to excuse it. These are just a few of her hard-hitting points:

• Don't Have Them If You Won't Raise Them: "The cavalier manner in which our society treats child care, not as a matter of intimacy and love, but as a matter of convenience and economics, is deeply destructive to our children's sense of attachment, identity, and importance."
• Dads Need Not Apply: "Single motherhood may be more acceptable to society, but it is not acceptable to children; nor is it in their best interest."
• Brave New Baby: "In our society, reproductive freedom means anyone can decide to create a life by any means with no, and I mean no, consideration of what is in the best interest of that new human being."
• Spare the Rod: "Children without discipline often become adults with tempertantrums, defiance, rage, depression, anxiety, poor school and work adjustment, drug and alcohol abuse."

This polished, inviting parenting guide illuminates the relationship between mothers and teen daughters.--Publishers Weekly Your daughter is growing up, but you don't have to grow apart. Picking up where her national bestseller, Dial Down the Drama, left off, Colleen O'Grady's Dial Up the Dream supports you in navigating your daughter's last days at home and her transition to adulthood. This emerging-adult stage can be even more stressful on both mother and daughter than the teen years, because the stakes are higher and the changes to the relationship more profound. This essential guidebook will validate what you are feeling and experiencing with your daughter right now as well as give you a road map for what's coming. Dial Up the Dream will prepare moms for the three phases they will go through during the late teens and early twenties. The first goal is to preserve the relationship during senior year and not get preoccupied with the future, i.e. falling into the "college trap". The second phase is when your daughter leaves home, whether it's to live with roommates, travel, enter the workforce, try entrepreneurship, or go to college. As she gains her independence, you're losing a job that's defined you for nearly two decades. While she gets ceremonies and congratulations, there's no accompanying ritual or even acknowledgment for the changes in your life. The third phase is letting go, which can trigger a "mom crisis." O'Grady helps you get unstuck, make sense of your own story, reconnect with yourself and dial up your dream. The paradox is that when you dial up your own dream...you stay close to your daughter. In this book, you'll learn: - Exactly what's going on with your daughter emotionally and physiologically. And how to use this science-based knowledge to set realistic expectations - How to think about and navigate the many complex feelings in this journey for both you and your daughter - The most common emotional traps we moms get caught in during these years and how to avoid them altogether - Why it's imperative to change your parenting role from monitor to trusted consultant--and how to do that- How to use this new phase in your daughter's life to dial up your own dreams--and why doing so is imperative to your daughter's development and to a having a vibrant, meaningful, lifelong mother-daughter relationship.

What can you do when a child just won't listen? How we speak to each other is at the very heart of human relationships. Children are often much better than adults at reading between the lines and deciphering the messages we send through body language and tone of voice. This is an invaluable handbook for parents and teachers on how to communicate better with children. It covers all aspects of talking to and, importantly, listening to children, including communication with children of different ages and understanding the wider situation in which the conversation is taking place. The author translates the theory into practical, everyday solutions. There are useful exercises throughout, to help us communicate more successfully.

In this completely revised and updated edition of Raising Adopted Children, Lois Melina, editor of Adopted Children newsletter and the mother of two children by adoption, draws on the latest research in psychology,sociology, and medicine to guide parents through all stages of their child's development. Melina addresses the pressing adoption issues of today, such as open adoption, international adoption, and transracial adoption, and answers parents' most frequently asked questions, such as:

• How will my child "bond" or form attachments to me?

• When and how should I tell my child that he was adopted?

• What should schools be told about my child?

• Will adoption make adolescent upheavals more complicated?

Up-to-date, sensitive, and clear, Raising Adopted Children is the definitive resource for all adoptive parents and concerned professionals.

"Raising Adopted Children is a comprehensive source of practical, reassuring advice and intelligent support for the adoptive parent. [It is also an] excellent professional resource for social workers, physicians, teachers, therapists, and others working with adopted children and their parents."
--North American Council on Adoptable Children

"Melina, an adoptive parent, writes both sensibly and sensitively on many critical issues faced by parents and their adopted children from infancy through adolescence."
--Booklist

Vaccines are a debate, whether we want them to be or not. With a clear-eyed approach to their science and history, HOW VACCINES WORK demystifies the strange and intricate world of vaccines: it explains what a vaccine is, how they are developed and what happens when they meet our bodies. David Miles has worked in immunology - as a scientist, teacher and communicator - for two decades. Taking his expert understanding of the field and the questions he is asked by ordinary people, HOW VACCINES WORK combines a field guide to the vaccines we currently receive with the historical background to their development, along with thrilling storytelling and comprehensive, reassuring debunking of the most common vaccination myths.

An internationally respected neurologist offers a revolutionary look at the brains of adolescents, providing surprising insights--including why smart kids often do stupid things--and practical advice for adults and teens.

In this groundbreaking, accessible book, Dr. Frances E. Jensen, a mother, teacher, researcher, and internationally known expert in neurology, introduces us to the mystery and magic of the teen brain. One of the first books to focus exclusively on the neurological development of adolescents, The Teenage Brain presents new findings, dispels widespread myths, and provides practical suggestions for negotiating this difficult and dynamic life stage for both adults and adolescents.

Interweaving easy-to-follow scientific data with anecdotes drawn from her experiences as a parent, clinician, and public speaker, Dr. Jensen explores adolescent brain functioning and development, including learning and memory, and investigates the impact of influences such as drugs, multitasking, sleep, and stress. The Teenage Brain reveals how: Adolescents may not be as resilient to the effects of drugs as we previously thought. Occasional use of marijuana has been shown to cause lingering memory problems, and long-term use can affect later adulthood I.Q. Multi-tasking causes divided attention and can reduce learning ability. Emotionally stressful situations in adolescence can have permanent effects on mental health, and may lead to higher risk for certain neuropsychiatric disorders such as depression.

Rigorous yet accessible, warm yet direct, The Teenage Brain sheds new light on young adults, and provides practical suggestions for how parents, schools, and even the legal system can better help them during this crucial period.

Adolescence has been known as the "second crisis" for some families. Successful navigation of this emotionally complex time can be difficult, and for girls with Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASDs) the teenage years can be particularly challenging, as there are issues specific to them that have been very sparsely addressed in current resources, such as menstruation, puberty, safety and the complications of girls' friendships due to fears of loneliness and the lack of group inclusion. This book is the first resource for families to provide the key information they need to know to help their daughters ???????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????? and the whole family ???????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????? through adolescence. It puts topics into the context of typical development and addresses core issues of ASDs such as cognition, communication, behavior, sensory sensitivities and social difficulties, and provides information, practical teaching, intervention strategies and resources regarding topics specific to being a teenage girl with ASD.

From the New York Times best-selling author of Love & Respect comes the definitive book for mothers and sons.

Love is important but it is respect that is the key to your son’s heart. As Emerson Eggerichs transformed millions of marital relationships with a biblical understanding of love and respect, he now turns these principles to one of the most important relationships of all, a mother and her son.

The idea of moms respecting their sons may sound alien to some, but it seems to ignite curiosity across the board. It is easy to relate to the need for all of us to feel a mother’s love, but is that the same thing as respect? Even for young boys, the effect of respect is nothing short of astounding when applied properly. Moms yearn to learn anything that better helps them with their sons. After all, they love their boys, but many find them more difficult to parent than their girls, especially from age four and up.

What makes this all the more urgent is that moms are coaching fathers to love their daughters, but no one has said boo to moms on specific ways to show respect to their sons, at least not in a way that is applicable and fully explained. All realize that little girls need daddy’s love, but who is strongly promoting the truth that little boys (and big ones) need Mom's respect? No wonder mothers feel left in the dark on this topic.

This book is a guide for parents who wish to raise children with more than one language and literacy. Drawing on interdisciplinary research, as well as the experiences of parents of multilingual children, this book walks parents through the multilingual reading and writing process from infancy to adolescence. It identifies essential literacy skills at each developmental stage and proposes effective strategies that facilitate multiliteracy, in particular, heritage-language literacy development in the home environment. This book can also be used as a reference for teachers who teach in community heritage language schools and in school heritage (or foreign) language programmes.

How do men think about fathering? How does this differ across different regions of the world? And what effect does this have on child development? Fathering in Cultural Contexts: Developmental and Clinical Issues answers these questions by considering a broad range of theoretical and conceptual models on fathering and childhood development, including attachment theory, developmental psychopathology, masculinity and parenting typologies. Roopnarine and Yildirim provide a comprehensive view of fatherhood and fathering in diverse cultural communities at various stages of economic development, including fathers' involvement in different family structures, from two-parent heterosexual families to community fathering. This book's interdisciplinary approach highlights the changing nature of fathering, drawing connections with child development and well-being, and evaluates the effectiveness of a range of father interventions. Fathering in Cultural Contexts will appeal to upper level undergraduate and graduate students in human development, psychology, sociology, anthropology, social work, and allied health disciplines, and professionals working with families and children in non-profit and social service agencies across the world.