A clinical psychologist's exploration of the modern dilemmas women face in the wake of new motherhood When Molly Millwood became a mother, she was fully prepared for what she would gain: an adorable baby boy; hard-won mothering skills; and a messy, chaotic, beautiful life. But what she did not expect was what she would lose: aspects of her identity, a baseline level of happiness, a general sense of wellbeing. And though she had the benefit of a supportive husband during this transition, she also at times resented the fact that the disruption to his life seemed to pale in comparison to hers. As a clinical psychologist, Molly knew her experience was a normal response to a life-changing event. But without the advantage of such a perspective, many of the patients she treated in her private practice grappled with self-doubt, guilt, and fear, and suffered the dual pain of not only the struggle to adjust but also the overwhelming shame for struggling at all. In To Have and to Hold, Molly explores the complex terrain of new motherhood, illuminating the ways it affects women psychologically, emotionally, physically, and professionally-as well as how it impacts their partnership. Along with the arrival of a bundle of joy come thorny issues such as self-worth, control, autonomy, and dependency. And for most new mothers, these issues are experienced within the context of an intimate relationship, adding another layer of tension, conflict, and confusion to an already challenging time. As Molly examines the inextricable link between women's well-being as new mothers and the well-being of their relationships, she offers guidance to help readers reclaim their identities, overcome their guilt and shame, and repair their relationships. A blend of personal narrative, scientific research, and stories from Molly's clinical practice, To Have and to Hold provides a much-needed lifeline to new mothers everywhere.

Originally published in 1891, this hilarious (and informative) collection is a treasure trove of essential advice any man or woman, or couple, would be foolish to ignore. From advice about how to find the perfect partner... * Don't marry a villain. * Don't marry a duke, or anyone who travels on his title. * If money is your object, the older and uglier he is, the better. * Avoid slovenly dressed girls or heedless men. ...to advice about how to wed... * Don't propose on a wash-day, in the rain, at breakfast or in a tunnel. * Marry at home or at church, in good form, without display. ...as well as general words of wisdom... * Don't expect too much from your marriage. * Don't cross your husband. ...Hildreth's Advice for Marriage is a delightful collection that is as relevant today as it was 100 years ago.

To love and be loved is arguably one of the most powerful and fundamental driving forces sustaining self-esteem and self-identity throughout the life course. Need for reciprocal loving does not change as we grow older, despite failures of health, loss of a partner, late divorce, and alterations of personality due to the aging process. However, most studies of human sexuality have ignored the problems and developing patterns of older adults entering into new partnerships. To fill this gap, "Intimacy in Later Life" brings together a wide range of distinguished international scholars to address this neglected research area. This volume explores how older people today think and behave in relation to partner change. Contributors consider the choices and constraints that influence decisions about new romantic relationships after divorce or the death of a spouse, along with how these differ with respect to age, gender, and culture. The authors discuss the considerable social variety to be found between "permissive" and morally conservative societies and cultural milieux, as well as how standards of sexual behavior have changed over time. Contributions include: Kate Davidson and Graham Fennell, "New Intimate Relationships in Later Life," Sofie Ghazanfareeon Karlsson and Klas Borell, "Intimacy and Autonomy, Gender and Ageing: Living Apart Together," Deborah Carr and Rebecca Utz, "Late-Life Widowhood in the United States: New Directions in Research and Theory," Nan Stevens, "Re-Engaging: New Partnerships in Late-Life Widowhood," Kate Davidson, "Gender Differences in New Partnership Choices and Constraints for Older Widows and Widowers," Jenny De Jong Gierveld, "The Dilemma of Repartnering: Considerations of Older Men and Women Entering New Intimate Relationships in Later Life," Deborah K. Van Den Hoonaard, "Attitudes of Older Widows and Widowers in New Brunswick, Canada Towards New Partnerships," Aldine J. Moore and Dorothy C. Stratton, "The 'Current Woman' in an Older Widower's Life," and Kalyani K. Mehta, "Perceptions of Remarriage by Widowed People in Singapore."

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Anarchy in High Heels is not a state of dress; it's a state of mind. A San Francisco porno theater might be the last place you'd expect to plant the seed of a feminist troupe, but truth is stranger than fiction. In 1972, access to birth control and a burn-your-bra ethos were leading young women to repudiate their 1950s conservative upbringing and embrace a new liberation. Denise Larson was a timid twenty-four-year-old actress wannabe when, at an after-hours countercultural event, The People's Nickelodeon, she accidentally created Les Nickelettes. This banding together of like-minded women with an anything-goes spirit unlocked a deeply hidden female humor. For the first time, Denise allowed the suppressed satirical thoughts dancing through her head to come out in the open. Together with Les Nickelettes, which quickly became a brazen women's lib troupe, she presented a series of feminist skits, stunts, and musical comedy plays. In 1980, The Bay Guardian described the group as "nutty, messy, flashy, trashy, and very funny." With sisterhood providing the moxie, Denise took on leadership positions not common for women at the time: playwright, stage director, producer, and administrative/artistic director. But, in the end, the most important thing she learned was the power of female friendship.

Change your child's future starting today: Learn how to use Stephen R. Covey's proven 7 Habits to create a leadership program for kids of all ages so they can be more effective, more goal oriented, and more successful. In today's world, we are inundated with information about who to be, what to do, and how to live. But what if there was a way to learn not just what to think about, but how to think? A program that taught how to manage priorities, focus on goals, and be a positive influence? The Leader in Me is that program. In this bestseller, Stephen R. Covey took the 7 Habits that have already changed the lives of millions of readers and showed how even young children can use them as they develop. These habits-be proactive, begin with the end in mind, put first things first, think win-win, seek to understand and then to be understood, synergize, and sharpen the saw-are being adapted by schools around the country in leadership programs, most famously at the A.B Combs Elementary school in Raleigh. Not only does it work, but it works better than anyone could have imaged. This book is full of examples of how the students blossom under the program: the classroom that decided to form a support group for one of their classmates who had behavioural problems; the fourth grader who found a way to overcome his fear of public speaking and wound up taking his class to see him compete in a national story telling competitive, or the seven-year-old who told her father than they needed to go outside and play because they both needed to 'sharpen the saw'. Perfect for individuals and corporations alike, The Leader in Me shows how easy it is to incorporate these skills into daily life. It is atimely answer to many of the challenges facing today's young people,businesses, parents, and educators-one that is perfectly matched tothe growing demands of our certain future.

Let spirituality enhance the effectiveness of your marriage and family therapy practice! The field of marriage and family therapy is starting to acknowledge that spiritual and religious issues are a valuable part of the lives of both clients and therapists. Spirituality and Family Therapy provides you with important information about this growing trend, including guidelines for therapists who are unsure how to integrate spiritual issues into their practice and detailed case studies that reveal how and why faith is a vital part of many clients' lives. Along with these features, you'll also find two unique conversational-style chapters where various authors explore their own beliefs and discuss the role of religion in their lives and careers. Spirituality and Family Therapy will help you understand your own spirituality, and use it as an important resource in your relationships with clients. In Spirituality and Family Therapy you'll learn about: the links between faith, fathering, and family therapy clinical applications for Christian mediation making altars as a way to help your clients come to terms with loss the ways spirituality helps parents cope with the death of a child ways to integrate the spirituality of the therapist into your work the value of faith in services for Alzheimer's caregivers integration of religion, gender, and spirituality in clinical practice

In the trenches of a typical day, every parent encounters a child afflicted with ingratitude and entitlement. In a world where material abundance abounds, parents want so badly to raise self-disciplined, appreciative, and resourceful children who are not spoiled by the plentitude around them. But how to accomplish this feat? The answer has eluded the best-intentioned mothers and fathers who overprotect, overindulge, and overschedule their children's lives.
Dr. Mogel helps parents learn how to turn their children's worst traits into their greatest attributes. Starting with stories of everyday parenting problems and examining them through the lens of the Torah, the Talmud, and important Jewish teachings, "The Blessing of a Skinned Knee" shows parents how to teach children to honor their parents and to respect others, escape the danger of overvaluing children's need for self-expression so that their kids don't become "little attorneys," accept that their children are both ordinary "and" unique, and treasure the power and holiness of the present moment.
It is Mogel's singular achievement that she makes these teachings relevant for any era and any household of any faith. A unique parenting book, designed for use both in the home and in parenting classes, with an on-line teaching guide to help facilitate its use, "The Blessing of a Skinned Knee" is both inspiring and effective in the day-to-day challenge of raising self-reliant children.

Families & Change: Coping With Stressful Events and Transitions presents current literature detailing families' responses to varied transitions and stressful life events over the life span. Integrating research, theory, and application, this bestselling text implements interdisciplinary content to address a multitude of both predictable and unpredictable problems and stressors as they relate to family sciences. Editors Kevin R. Bush and Christine A. Price bring together cutting-edge research and scholarship to examine issues across the life span and how these factors can be applied across diverse family situations. Included with this title: The password-protected Instructor Resource Site (formally known as SAGE Edge) offers access to all text-specific resources, including a test bank and editable, chapter-specific PowerPoint (R) slides.

Our societies are remarkably confident on the matter: affairs are terrible things and only fools, monsters and knaves would ever be involved in them. Those who are their victims deserve unending sympathy and access to a good lawyer. This stance may be clear, but it is not especially helpful or productive - given that, in reality, 1 in 4 of us are going to end up involved in an affair during our lifetime. This is a book written to increase our understanding of what is really at stake in affairs: it looks at why affairs happen and ventures beyond black and white caricatures. It delves into the question of what unfaithful sex means and why, despite the risks, it happens so often. Most importantly, the book seeks to help us through affairs, offering couples a better understanding of each other's motivations and moods - and, where desirable, a way to save a relationship. We have for too long either openly condemned or secretly lusted after affairs: this, finally, is a chance to understand them.

A generation-defining exploration of the new midlife crisis facing Gen X women and the unique circumstances that have brought them to this point, Why We Can't Sleep is a lively successor to Passages by Gail Sheehy and The Defining Decade by Meg Jay When Ada Calhoun found herself in the throes of a midlife crisis, she thought that she had no right to complain. She was married with children and a good career. So why did she feel miserable? And why did it seem that other Generation X women were miserable, too? Calhoun decided to find some answers. She looked into housing costs, HR trends, credit card debt averages, and divorce data. At every turn, she saw a pattern: sandwiched between the Boomers and the Millennials, Gen X women were facing new problems as they entered middle age, problems that were being largely overlooked. Speaking with women across America about their experiences as the generation raised to "have it all," Calhoun found that most were exhausted, terrified about money, under-employed, and overwhelmed. Instead of being heard, they were told instead to lean in, take "me-time," or make a chore chart to get their lives and homes in order. In Why We Can't Sleep, Calhoun opens up the cultural and political contexts of Gen X's predicament and offers solutions for how to pull oneself out of the abyss--and keep the next generation of women from falling in. The result is reassuring, empowering, and essential reading for all middle-aged women, and anyone who hopes to understand them.

Individuals who transition from one gender to another are often in some degree of a relationship, and over 55% of these relationships endure through the transition process. While more resources are emerging for trans people themselves, there is very little information available for their partners. Through first-hand accounts and vignettes of successful partnerships, this book presents detailed descriptions of everything involved in the transition process, with specific guidance for those supporting a partner in transition. Topics include disclosure, mental health, coming out, loss and grief, sex and sexuality and the legal, medical and social practicalities of transitioning. In this essential guide, people whose partners are across the transgender spectrum speak out on their own experiences with personal advice and support for others.

With a focus on self-empowerment and resilience, this refreshing and witty relationship guide has a reassuring counterintuitive message for unhappy spouses: you only need one partner to initiate far-reaching positive change in a marriage.Conventional wisdom says that "it takes two" to turn a troubled marriage around and that both partners must have a shared commitment to change. So when couples can't agree on how--or whether--to make their marriage better, many give up or settle for a less-than-satisfying marriage (or think the only way out is divorce). Fortunately, there is an alternative. "What distinguishes Reilly's book is that she says a warring couple don't have to agree on the goal of staying together; it takes one person changing, not both, to make a marriage work" (The New York Times). Marriage and family therapist Winifred Reilly has this message for struggling partners: Take the lead. Doing so is effective--and powerful. Through Reilly's own story of reclaiming her now nearly forty-year marriage, along with anecdotes from many clients she's worked with, you'll learn how to: -Focus on your own behaviors and change them in ways that make you feel good about yourself and your marriage -Take a firm stand for what truly matters to you without arguing, cajoling, or resorting to threats -Identify the "big picture" issues at the basis of your repetitive fights--and learn how to unhook from them -Be less reactive, especially in the face of your spouse's provocations -Develop the strength and stamina to be the sole agent of change Combining psychological theory, practical advice, and personal narrative, It Takes One to Tango is a "wise and uplifting" (Dr. Ellyn Bader, Director of The Couples Institute) guide that will empower those who choose to take a bold, proactive approach to creating a loving and lasting marriage.

Self-love expert and creator of the Earn Your Happy podcast shares the methods she used to build her own tribe and grow from an anxiety-ridden, unhealthy, introverted underachiever to a confident woman who takes risks and leaps out of her comfor

Learn how to thrive -- not just survive -- as a modern mum. You love your kids. You're proud of your professional accomplishments. You have hobbies and friends. And you are tired. So tired. Working moms often feel like they're failing on many different fronts. But what if there was a guide to re-envisioning, reprioritising, and restructuring to build a vibrant, intentional life? As a practicing paediatrician and mother of 2 young daughters, Dr Whitney Casares understands balancing family and career. She shares honest insights about her own challenges combined with her professional expertise about children of working mums -- they thrive! -- to create a reassuring guide to navigating modern motherhood. In this practical plan, you will learn to set priorities, cultivate self-care, establish an equal parenting partnership, delegate whenever appropriate, and more. With help from Dr Casares' advice, it's time to make motherhood joyful again.

'This book taught me so much about female desire. A must read!' Cherry Healey Did you know that there is an orgasm gap of around 30% between heterosexual couples when they have sex? In Mind The Gap, Dr Karen Gurney, a clinical psychologist and certified psychosexologist, explores not just this gap, but the gaps in our knowledge of so much of the most important new science around sex and desire. In this book, you will learn that nearly everything that you've been led to believe about female sexuality isn't actually true. And that, despite what you might think, it is possible to simultaneously feel little to no spontaneous desire and have a happy and mutually satisfying sex life long term. Exploring the mismatch between ideas about sex in our society and what the science tells us, Mind The Gap also explains how this disconnect lies at the root of many of our sexual problems. Combining science with case studies, practical exercises and tips, this is a book for anyone who wants to better understand the mechanics of desire and futureproof their sex life, for life.

Are you prepared to deliver effective services to a wide range of families and family situations?Diverse Families, Competent Families provides human service professionals with a portrait of the real lives and practical challenges of our nation's families as they face a new millennium. It examines family adaptation and competence in a variety of contexts and situations such as, day-to-day issues of coping and survival, as well as major milestones such as sending children off to school and becoming a caregiver for a family member. This unique book also spans multiple levels of families'existence, examining home, school, and the larger community to provide you with an understanding of the societal dynamics that can have an influence on families. With Diverse Families, Competent Families, you'll explore: the need to reexamine the ways that single parent families are viewed, and the risks inherent in over-generalizing about this type of family ways that men can make the most of their experience as fathers the relationship between parents'perceptions of teacher behavior and how willing they are to become involved at school the ways in which changes or disruptions in a family's functioning can influence their children's academic skills the results of an innovative intervention for "sandwiched" generation mothers who must simultaneously care for an older family member and attend to the needs of their own children ways to help Mexican immigrant parents feel more effective in their parenting rolesIn Diverse Families, Competent Families, you will discover new, and positive ways to view families, particularly ethnic minority families, low-income families, immigrant families, and families who are coping with specific life stressors such as financial loss, unemployment, divorce, and death.

'Brilliantly empowering and truly life-changing ... a must-read for improving relationships.' Gwyneth Paltrow 'Utterly fantastic. Read immediately' Claudia Winkleman Psychologist and therapist Janet Reibstein reveals the secrets to effective communication and building long-lasting relationships. Being able to engage in relationships productively - from intimate domestic ones to relationships with friends and colleagues - is the key to thriving. It impacts our health, well-being, financial security and happiness. In fact, research suggests the ability to do well socially is more important for success than academic excellence or even a high IQ. The case for good relationships is made and settled. But how do we get there? In the fascinating book, Janet Reibstein takes you through how to 'learn relationships' and explores the skills needed to communicate better, have empathy, and develop more productive and satisfying relationships at all levels. Peppered with case studies, practical tips and advice, Good Relations delves deeper into the new science and theory to discover exactly how we can interact more effectively.

THE SHOOT-FROM-THE-HIP GUIDE TO FINDING, MARRYING AND KEEPING MR RIGHT

The Rules are infamous, controversial, and importantly for you – probably the most successful guide to dating ever written. These astonishingly effective Rules will ensure you're prepared for every move in the dating game.

Brought together in a single volume for the first time, 'The Complete Book of Rules' contains the essential advice from 'The Rules' and 'Rules II' and is a must for women who want nothing but the best in life and love.

• Don't call him – it will make him desire you more
• Always end the date first – it will leave him desperate for more
• How to behave in an office romance
• How to make sure the relationship doesn't tail off – if you don't want it to

'The Complete Book of Rules' will ensure you don't waste time when a man's not worth it and that you do give off the right signals at the right time to keep Mr Right keen.

Many parents today are searching for the "secret" to successful parenting. In Covenantal Parenting: Raising Children in Dependence on God's Promises, Dr. Joel R. Beeke asserts that there is no secret. When it comes to giving children what they need most new hearts that trust in Christ for forgiveness of sins parents are helpless. When children come to faith, it is due to the grace of God.

But while parents are helpless, they are not hopeless, for God has promised in His Word to provide all needful things for His people and to bless them and their families. With faith in these grand promises, parents may raise their children in "the nurture and admonition of the Lord" with confidence that God will work savingly in their lives.

The Instant #1 New York Times Bestseller 'Gorgeous.' Glennon Doyle 'Sharp observations on modern womanhood.' Sunday Times 'Exquisite.' Fi Glover A stunning and honest debut poetry collection about the beauty and hardships of being a woman in the world today, and the many roles we play - mother, partner, and friend. 'When life throws you a bag of sorrow, hold out your hands/Little by little, mountains are climbed.' So ends Kate Baer's remarkable poem 'Things My Girlfriends Teach Me.' In 'Nothing Tastes as Good as Skinny Feels' she challenges her reader to consider their grandmother's cake, the taste of the sea, the cool swill of freedom. In her poem 'Deliverance' about her son's birth she writes 'What is the word for when the light leaves the body?/What is the word for when it/at last, returns?' Through poems that are as unforgettably beautiful as they are accessible, Kate Baer proves herself to truly be an exemplary voice in modern poetry. Her words make women feel seen in their own bodies, in their own marriages, and in their own lives. Her poems are those you share with your mother, your daughter, your sister, and your friends.