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Books > Health, Home & Family > Family & health > Family & other relationships > Intergenerational relationships
Imagine growing up in small Indiana towns in the 1940s in a very
strict religious family and then realizing at the age of six that
there was something sexually "wrong" with you. You had no name for
it, and you didn't really understand it, but you knew it all the
same. By the time you were seven and eight years old, you heard
adults talk about sexual perversion and teenagers using the terms
"faggot" or "queer" as if they were describing the plague. But you
knew deep inside it was you they were talking about Then skip
forward a few years when you felt compelled to find someone else
like you. You knew you couldn't be the only one, and you didn't
think you could survive on erotic dreams or daydreaming. And so you
began to sexually experiment with older men who called themselves
queer, but you knew it didn't describe you. Then, at age seventeen,
you found yourself in your first small gay bar, where you finally
discovered you weren't the only one like you on this planet But
when your mother discovered you'd been invited to a gay party, she
told you that you would burn in hell if you didn't become
heterosexual. And that was just the beginning. Following My Path is
the true account of the author discovering who he was and all the
things that happened along the way. Some of the things are serious,
and some are funny, but all are interesting and vital to
understanding what many gay people have had to endure. Reading
Following My Path may: * change your mind about whether being gay
is a choice or not; * make you see gay people differently and with
more understanding, particularly those who are older and in the
closet longer; * teach you to love your children unconditionally,
even if there are parts of them you can't understand or accept; *
teach you not to lay guilt trips on your children; and * teach gay
LGBT people not to leave God out of their lives, as we, too, are
made in his image, and he wants us to lead happy and fulfilling
lives. Following My Path is the author's confirmation in his belief
in God and his comfort with being an "outed," gay Christian.
This is a true story of a family's attempt at working together to
care for aging parents. It involves four adult siblings, two
parents, some anger, resentment, love and joy. There are tears,
astonishment, sleepless nights, laughter and a whole lot of
conflict, quiet and otherwise. Mary L. Currier shares her insight,
beliefs and professional experiences to normalize conflict between
adult siblings. She explains that families are often no strangers
to conflict. Rather, they may be strangers to managing that
conflict. Or perhaps it's more of an unwillingness to slip into the
deeper crevices of those sticky issues that form the patterns of
communication, therefore creating conflict. Either way, there is
often a deeply imbedded cycle of poor communication that courses
through family veins. You'd think that blood relatives would have a
comparatively easy time sorting out issues of conflict. You'd think
that four siblings would share similarities in problem solving
techniques. That is not the case in this family. What first
appeared as a moderate challenge evolved into a lifelong lesson
requiring patience, self-understanding, unconditional love and an
unending supply of forgiveness. As anxiety, Alzheimer's,
depression, and cancer, come out from behind the shadows, each
family member acts, or reacts, as only they can - with the skills
they have cultivated. Does that work for them? Not always. This is
a wonderful tool for adult siblings thinking about how they will
sustain their relationships with one another as they venture into
the care giving process. Mary even offers troubleshooting guidance
in an effort to improve skills in communications and conflict
resolution in hopes of sustaining adult sibling relationships.
Come along with Von Hahnke as he journeys to uncover the facts and
truth surrounding his family history and the monument from the
kaiser. He also answers in part the reasons Germany wasn't involved
in a war for almost forty years prior to World War I. "One of the
best-known and most popular soldiers in Germany." -Newport RI Sun
Newspaper "One of the most decorated generals in Europe." -Trenton
Evening News
"Oh, no-" the anguished cry rang out. For a sister and her
brothers, it was terrible news-of a death in the family-the death
that left them dumbfounded. Broken hearted, here they were, a grand
family suddenly bereft of a great part. It made no sense. ..".Sorry
to inform you," the awful words struck like a thunderbolt. Mom and
dad had crashed on their vacation trip. -So unfair, so unreal, so
jarring...so final. All the siblings could think of was how much
love was lost to them. Their parents were the linchpins; they were
the finest; they were the most revered. At a loss due to a loss. So
much love and affection was denied them in an unpredictable moment.
What was to become of them? Mom with her daily wisdom. Dad with his
usual counsel. Mom with her laugh. Dad with his wry humor. Mom with
her catering and caring. Dad with his hugs and counsel. What will
they do without them? The sister and her husband, the brothers and
their wives, succumbed to the pain, weakening them. Where would the
strength come from that was required to survive such a tragedy?
When ravaged by happenstance, What holds the family together when
hope and promise lose some of their dash? In the moments of crisis,
inevitably, people are hanging on by hanging tough. That courage
comes from their heritage, which is the real force, the saving
grace. It's not just what they have inherited in family lore, but
the bond that ties endowment and legacy together in a triumvirate
that can spark the spirit. Haunting Memories says something about
how desire can influence perception; by allowing-or causing-us to
see what we want to see. We wonder when they're gone, Did we do
enough for them? Did we express our love and affection often
enough? Were we good to them? We aren't going to be able to answer
yes to all such questions without some reservation. -Because we're
never going to think we've done all that we could have or should
have done for our loved ones. We can't get our minds off them. We
can't let them go. We want them back. But we can't have them back.
They are where they are. -And we can't get there from here.
This book covers age 35-65 with the same theme of aging and is part
of a trilogy. The growing family should enjoy life and live lusty,
hence the name of the book. A person's best years will come in the
period of age 35-65. So live "Lusty," you may never have it this
good again, even with a long life.
Named a Best Book of 2008 by "Library Journal"
In a series of moving vignettes, the author begins by describing
a particular representation of Water-Moon Kuan Yin, a Buddhist
teacher and goddess associated with compassion, who often sits on a
precarious overhang or floats on a flimsy petal. Then Kuan Yin
steps out of the frame to join the author in the mundane challenges
of caring for her father-transferring his health insurance,
struggling with a wheelchair van, managing adult diapers, or
playing in the fictions of dementia. From perplexed to poignant to
funny, the vignettes record the working-class English of a fading
but still wise dad, and they find other human versions of Kuan Yin
in a doctor who will still make house calls or kind strangers in
the street.
The book includes ten illustrations: both classical
representations of Kuan Yin and also the author's own drawings,
which adapt Kuan Yin in an act of practical spirituality, reading
art through life and life through art. Each vignette invites the
harried caregiver to take a deep breath and meditate on the trials
and joys of caring for an aging parent.
Maria Kelmis was adopted from Greece at the age of fifteen months.
She always knew she was adopted and considers it one of the best
things that happened in her life. Golden Strangers is a story about
a journey to find her biological mother specifically to thank her
and tell her that she had a wonderful life. You will experience the
great moments in Maria's life that may not have happened if she was
not adopted from Greece. Journey with Maria to San Diego,
California, as a young lady out on her own for the first time,
share her multiple visits to Greece including the months she spent
on the island of Santorini painting, travel with her to Uganda,
Africa, as she embarks on the experience of a lifetime, and share
the excitement of participating in the 1984 Olympics in Los
Angeles. All these events combined with her biological mother's
sacrifice have made Maria thankful for all of the blessings in her
life and have given her the desire to give back in so many ways;
from working and volunteering with the Greek Orthodox Church, to
helping the homeless, volunteering with autistic children, and
becoming a certified life coach, thereby helping people with their
life goals. This book is not only for people who share her story of
adoption, it is for anyone who loves to hear a great story and
believes in a power greater than all of us that makes things happen
in our lives. If you have adopted a child or know of someone who
has, you are encouraged to buy her children's book, Rainbow Bridge,
which is a book for parents to read to their children of any age to
let them know that they were adopted and that they are special and
loved, also published by AuthorHouse.
This book outlines events and situations that we all live in
reality and not smile about at the end of the day but instead wake
up the very next day trying to find a solution to yesterday which
allows more weight to carry over on our shoulders from the results
of today. You will read all walks of life pertaining to:
inspiration, love, commitment, prayers, life's realities, divided
families, child molestation, teen parenting, step parenting and
more. What if we can change lives with someone else for one day
maybe longer depending on the SITUATION in which you are put in?
What if a father can exchange places with a mother, a man can
change places with a woman, a single person can change places with
a married person, a child can change places with their parent, a
suspect can change places with a victim, the system can change
places with those in need, etc. To walk in someone else shoes and
seek why they suffer from emotional distress will better help you
understand why they are the way they are. A FAMILY THAT PRAYS
TOGETHER, STAYS TOGETHER THOSE WHO FAIL TO PRAY, FAIL TO SUCCEED
-Your daughter, maxed out on credit cards, asks you to co-sign a
lease.
-Your son can't afford rent and needs to move back home.
-Your ex-daughter-in-law is laid off, losing your grandchildren's
health insurance.
-Your nephew agrees to enter an expensive addiction treatment
program.
-Your older son, recently diagnosed with Adult Attention Deficit
Disorder, is months behind on his mortgage payments.
Millions of parents face these dilemmas, years after they
thought their children would be independent. As you extend
financial assistance, how can you help a young adult become prudent
and accountable?
In "Trust Me," family psychologist Kenneth Kaye and his son,
Nick, use the experience of Nick's struggle with what he calls
"Attention Money Disorder" to combine a no-nonsense strategy,
practical advice, business wisdom, and dozens of examples. They
show you step by step how to negotiate a "Deal" with your young
adult, rebuilding mutual trust and nurturing the skills and habits
of a self-supporting grown-up.
"I love this wonderfully practical, down-to-earth, funny,
thoughtful, warm, subversive book. Subversive because those who
follow the two Kayes' advice will be better mentors, but also more
financially responsible themselves. Every parent or relative who's
worried about subsidizing an adult child needs this book."
-Joline Godfrey, Author, "Raising Financially Fit Kids"
My first book "Finding the Me in Me" focused on my thoughts as a
parent after then death of Becca. Now I write the story of the
legal process that her death required. Not only dela;ing with her
death, but dealig with the legal component of murder. I suppose the
hardnest part is being a mother you think you always have a say so
in your children's lives - whether they like it or not. Legally you
find out you don't.
This is a journey I would hope no parent ever needs, but will
provide some insight into the legal process as you learn to cope
with the death of a loved one.
From the author of A Wedding in the Family, Annette Byford
continues her examination of how mothers experience life changes in
family contexts and how it impacts their sense of who they are. The
book picks up the theme of family transitions and moves it to the
wider focus of what happens to a family when children grow up and
leave home, and the particular challenges this phase brings.
Becoming a mother is not just a question of learning how to bring
up a child - it brings a profound change of identity. The same
happens years later, when children leave home and the job is,
supposedly, 'done.' The author draws on her own experiences, both
personal and professional, to discuss how mothers negotiate this
change. She includes material from interviews with mothers and
looks at these experiences against the background of analytic
psychotherapy and family therapy. Also included is an exploration
of images and depictions of mothers-in-law, grandmothers etc in
literature and media, along with several, illustrative short
stories on the theme of mothers and their adult children.
Throughout the book there are discussions about what constitutes a
successful or unsuccessful transition. This title will appeal to
readers, mainly mothers, who are over fifty and interested in
psychological processes in families, who may well have read books
on childcare when their children were young, but who find
themselves unprepared for this stage of motherhood.
This book is writen from classical collections of my struggles in
life and my decissions through critical moments some of them was
dirty, some of them was stupid and most of them was specifical
about of love. However it's a concise short words which I presented
to you based on my ideaology that mordern society is occupied and
busy so therefore should be given happy time easy times and moments
of relaxation. This book is small but its interpretaion could be
deep because it contains inscriptions of different insights of
various situations so this book is written to act like a seed
planted in a soil how you interpreted depends on the type of fruit
it will bear but I hope it inspire you to be a better person. I do
believe that this is work is sutiable for youth, family people and
modern philosopher refelecting about Love, Life and Time. Finally
please give me feed back about what you think or feel because this
is my first book and it took me more than 2 years.
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