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Books > Health, Home & Family > Family & health > Family & other relationships > Intergenerational relationships
Sue and Lou never had any fears or doubts about raising their three
children. They were not like their parents. They welcomed the
teenage years. They knew their kids might experiment with drugs and
alcohol, just like they had. So they talked with their kids about
their own experiences they had as teenagers. As a family they were
very close. They took their kids camping to Glamis, the desert, the
beach and the Colorado River. They went to Big Bear every winter
and they golfed almost every weekend as a family. By the time their
youngest was in high school, their oldest was already 24 and their
middle child was 19. Their youngest would always tell them not to
worry, that he would never be like his older brother and sister.
Young Adam had witnessed all the trying times his parents had with
his two older siblings; alcohol, drugs, house parties, and
pre-marital sex. Adam's friends always came over to the house and
Sue and Lou knew them all. They were all good kids. But when Adam
told his mom he had smoked marijuana, it was not like when the
older siblings had experimented with it. Sue and Lou would quickly
discover he was using it to escape from the hurt and pain he felt
after his first love broke up with him. But what Sue and Lou didn't
know was that their worst nightmare was growing in their youngest
son. Without having a true understanding of addiction, this family
will go through a hell they could have never imagined. In order to
keep from having a breakdown Sue started writing about how this all
started. It all began with a story Adam wrote in his Freshman
English class titled "The Day I told my Mom I Smoke Pot."
Adpoted at Age four tracks the life of a four year old that had
been shunted around foster homes for the first four years of his
life. In and out of the orphanage everytime returning in poorer
health. He is finally adopted by a childless couple, although poor
by most standards who became loving parents with great values and
standards that set his life in the right direction. From there it
traces his acceptance and rejection by certain members of his newly
acquired extended family and his development through elementary
school, high school and ultimately into the job market with all the
twists and turns along the way. Searching for his original identity
at birth culminates in a brick wall ending... to be resolved much
later in life. He eventually is recruited into the Banking Industry
as a Management Trainee and has many interesting experiences in the
Consumer Loans Department of many local Branches. Because of his
past experience as a Collector he at one time becomes the Bank's
roving collection /repo person and some of the situations he
relives are both entertaining and worth a chuckle.
'There is so much aching love in this book, such pain and beauty.
Behold, and rejoice.' - Tim Winton, author of Cloudstreet Was he
thinking, do I have to be this kind of boy to survive? Is this what
being a boy is? As a boy growing up on the south coast of England,
Howard Cunnell's sense of self was dominated by his father's
absence. Now, years later, he is a father, and his daughter is
becoming his son. Starting with his own childhood in the Sussex
beachlands, Howard tells the story of the years of self-destruction
that defined his young adulthood and the escape he found in reading
and the natural world. Still he felt compelled to destroy the
relationships that mattered to him. Saved by love and
responsibility, Cunnell charts his journey from anger to
compassion, as his daughter Jay realizes he is a boy, and a son.
Most of all, this is a story about love - its necessity and
fragility, and its unequalled capacity to enable us to be who we
are. Deeply thoughtful, searingly honest and exquisitely lyrical,
Fathers and Sons is an exploration of fatherhood, masculinity,
authenticity and family.
Imagine a parent's worst nightmare - losing a child. Not to disease
or accident, but to a kidnapping. Randy Anglen's only son was
abducted to South America by his Chilean mother when he was 20
months old. Anglen fought to get his son for 4 years, fighting a
Chilean court system that ignored international law and protected
the mother. Anglen searched the streets of Santiago for his son,
hatched plans to steal his son out of Chile, paid witnesses and
private investigators and made numerous trips to Chile. He was as
close at 10 feet from his son, but physically unable to get to him.
Chilean courts handed him setback after setback, despite the best
efforts of a team of attorneys and U. S. Department of State
personnel. The story does not have a happy ending. Anglen writes
this book so his son will know what happened -what his daddy did to
try to get his son. This is a story of intense grief, fear,
frustration and injustice. A story of a father's fight to save the
bond between him and his son. A story of a father's love for his
child. A story of a corrupt and inefficient South American
bureaucratic system that destroyed the relationship between a
father and his son. After reading this story, you will give your
children an extra hug.
A Mother who's life that came crashing down around her in a blink
of an eye!!! A Mother's Worst Nightmare....How does a Mother
continue to go on living her everyday life. When her beloved son
Joseph was ripped right out of her heart and life......... My Life
With My SonNothing is Stronger than a Mother's Love I cannot
believe when I look up at you, and see a beautiful man that use to
be my little boy. I am always in awe, when I see the changes in
you, but yet it saddens me because that part of my life is over.
Yet all the memories that I have, will still bring all the
laughter, and this warmness in my heart, and I will always have
tears in my eyes. Since you where a baby up until present time, you
have always given me so much joy, and so many gifts, that I cannot
even count. I don't think you ever realized all the ones you gave
me that where from within. We made so many memories together, but
the love you gave me, was something so special it will last a
lifetime.
In her galvanizing new book, A.C.E.S. - Adult-Child Entitlement
Syndrome, Barbara Jaurequi provides a thorough and enlightening
description of A.C.E.S., a widespread family dilemma in the United
States today. Ms. Jaurequi developed her theory of A.C.E.S. through
her successful work with hundreds of married couples and their
Living-At-Home adult-children. Her book delivers an
easy-to-understand, explicit step-by-step guide on how to
compassionately compel adult-children to move out of their
childhood homes and into the world of personal responsibility once
and for all Through the application of a thoughtfully crafted
program that will empower their adult-children to discover and
achieve personal independence, couples will ultimately learn how to
re-focus their attention away from their adult-children and onto
other neglected areas of married life, thereby enabling them to
enjoy their marital relationships as never before. This is a
provocative, compelling, and particularly timely work that is sure
to intrigue readers as they recognize the presence of the syndrome
in their own families. A.C.E.S. - Adult-Child Entitlement Syndrome
is surely one of the most important contributions to Family Systems
Theory to come along in decades.
The teacher in this story was a short stocky lady, who, though
mentally challenged had an uncanny ability to teach. She could not,
or rather would not carry a conversation, but she did have the
tenacity to cause those around her to learn whatever she was
teaching: What she wished to eat; where she wanted to go; who would
be her companion. Her name was Cheryl. Cheryl's mother, Beverly,
was 39 when she took a tumble down a flights of steps while exiting
a building where she had been the evenings keynote speaker. That
fall did not show the full penalty immediately. It would be three
more years before Beverly would be diagnosed as having Multiple
Sclerosis. That disease would take everything from her.
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