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Books > Health, Home & Family > Family & health > Family & other relationships > Intergenerational relationships
Marriage is a major step in a relationship, and each member of that
newly joined pair brings with them their own existing family and
the corresponding complexity and richness of in-law relationships.
These are multi-generational, multi-layered, and, like a
kaleidoscope, a shifting amalgam of emotional colors. Exceptionally
important, in-law relationships can be joyous and comforting. They
can also be complicated, contentious, and disappointing. These ties
serve as a model for how to stay connected across generations for
the well-being of grandparents, parents, and grandchildren, and as
a bellwether for what to avoid. Drawing on interviews and survey
data with more than 1,500 mothers-in-law, fathers-in-law,
daughters-in-law, and sons-in-law, the book describes how these
complicated and highly significant relationships develop over time.
Geoffrey L. Greif and Michael E. Woolley focus on the relationships
between mothers-in-law and daughters-in-law as well as
fathers-in-law with sons-in-law. They describe the struggles as
well as the triumphs that people encounter with these relationships
from the perspectives of both generations and suggest ways to
improve the relationships. To improve in-law relationships, Greif
and Woolley present action-oriented family therapy theories based
on the insight, communication, boundary building, and narratives
that family members wish to create. They also explore how these
relationships change with the normal transitions of marrying into
the family, having children/grandchildren, and aging. In-law
Relationships describes highly successful and nurturing connections
as well as those that are troubled and distant. The resulting book
offers a variety of clinical lenses to help readers of all
backgrounds focus on and, if needed, repair in-law relationships.
"Think about it. In order to be grandmothers we once had to be
mothers. After giving birth, we, as the mothers, were responsible
for our baby's/child's well being. As grandmothers, on the other
hand, we have choices. Our roles are open for interpretation and
conscious choices. When I became a grandmother, and even when my
daughters-in-law were pregnant, I made a conscious decision to be
an involved grandmother, one of the caretakers or a Granny-Nanny.
I was sure that helping out and taking care of a baby would be
easy like getting back on a bicycle after a twenty-year lapse. Oh,
how wrong I was. There are new rules, new products, new findings
and plenty of taboos. How did my three children ever survive their
hazardous childhoods?"
Parenting rules have gone through some serious revisions since
author Lois Young-Tulin raised her kids. In her helpful guide, "The
Granny Nanny," Young-Tulin offers a unique opportunity for today's
grandmas to hone their skills and learn the twenty principles for
successful grandmothering in a modern world.
Best-selling author Tim O'Brien shares wisdom from a life in
letters, lessons learned in wartime, and the challenges, humor, and
rewards of raising two sons. "We are all writing our maybe books
full of maybe tomorrows, and each maybe tomorrow brings another
maybe tomorrow, and then another, until the last line of the last
page receives its period." In 2003, already an older father,
National Book Award-winning novelist Tim O'Brien resolved to give
his young sons what he wished his own father had given to him--a
few scraps of paper signed "Love, Dad." Maybe a word of advice.
Maybe a sentence or two about some long-ago Christmas Eve. Maybe
some scattered glimpses of their rapidly aging father, a man they
might never really know. For the next fifteen years, the author
talked to his sons on paper, as if they were adults, imagining what
they might want to hear from a father who was no longer among the
living. O'Brien traverses the great variety of human experience and
emotion, moving from soccer games to warfare to risque lullabies,
from alcoholism to magic shows to history lessons to bittersweet
bedtime stories, but always returning to a father's soul-saving
love for his sons. The result is Dad's Maybe Book, a funny, tender,
wise, and enduring literary achievement that will squeeze the
reader's heart with joy and recognition. Tim O'Brien and the
writing of Dad's Maybe Book are now the subject of the documentary
film The War and Peace of Tim O'Brien available to watch at
timobrienfilm.com
"Love, Pray, Listen offers empathy and grounded biblical wisdom to
help parents thrive, no matter what path their adult kids
take."--PASTOR STEVE STROOPE Wisdom and Hope for Parents of
Grown-Ups As a parent, your role changes drastically after your
kids grow up. You fear heartache and strained relationships when
your children choose difficult--even seemingly wrong--paths. Love,
Pray, Listen is the gracious, practical resource you need for
navigating the rocky terrain of parenting grown-ups. In this book,
mom and author Mary DeMuth answers questions like: * What do I do
when my kids make choices that don't align with my values? * How do
I keep communication lines open with my grown children? * When do I
speak, and when do I listen? * Is it possible to hold on to my joy
when parenting is so hard? * How do I avoid the temptation of
meddling in my kids' lives? Love, Pray, Listen offers a robust
theology for long-term parenting gleaned from the discipleship
model Jesus exemplified, one that carefully and thoughtfully
applies his way of expressing love. This is your invitation for
spiritual growth and a path toward fulfilling relationships with
your adult children.
Like a photo shoot, pictures flashed in Anthony's head as he
reflected on the first time he heard the horrifying clank of the
barred door that was now staring at his back, he vividly recalled,
his face smashed against the dusty police car, bright red and blue
Lights blindly flashing in his eyes. Everything was a blur! His
heart beating so fast and pounding so hard he could hardly hear the
cop as he repeated his words... "Do you understand your rights!" A
preacher's son on the way to a place deemed worse than hell! Just a
teenaged boy when he was facing those bars, now a man 7 years later
who has made a promise to himself to rectify his wrongs. Read this
captivating story about a young man's journey into manhood down a
twisted road through tragedy and triumph.
Do you long for a closer bond with your son? Do you want the kind of relationship that will honor God and be a blessing to both of you for the rest of your lives?
In Fathers and Sons Angus Buchan explains how fathers can foster a rewarding and God-honoring relationship with their sons.
Through topics like humility, love, appreciation, grace and respect Angus inspires men to be the godly fathers God has ordained them to be and reminds them that it is never too early or too late to nurture the special and blessed relationship between a father and his son.
'The best piece of nature writing since H is for Hawk, and the most
powerful work of biography I have read in years' Neil Gaiman
'Wonderful - I can't recommend it too highly' Helen Macdonald 'One
of those rare, enchanted books' Isabella Tree 'Beautiful - it made
me cry' Simon Amstell 'I was entranced' Cathy Rentzenbrink This is
a story about birds and fathers. About the young magpie that fell
from its nest in a Bermondsey junkyard into Charlie Gilmour's life
- and swiftly changed it. Demanding worms around the clock,
riffling through his wallet, sharing his baths and roosting in his
hair... About the jackdaw kept at a Cornish stately home by
Heathcote Williams, anarchist, poet, magician, stealer of
Christmas, and Charlie's biological father who vanished from his
life in the dead of night. It is a story about repetition across
generations and birds that run in the blood; about a terror of
repeating the sins of the father and a desire to build a nest of
one's own. It is a story about change - from wild to tame; from
sanity to madness; from life to death to birth; from freedom to
captivity and back again, via an insane asylum, a prison and a
magpie's nest. And ultimately, it is the story of a love affair
between a man and a magpie.
In 1905, the young and handsome Yalek left Baranovka, Russia,
for the United States seeking a new way of life. He would work hard
and save enough money to bring his family and his new bride, Riva,
to America.
In "Obsessive Memories," author Clara R. Maslow tells the
history of two close-knit families, raised in the same culture of
intellectual Jews in Russia, who immigrated to the United States in
the early 1900s. It is a story of a time of new political thinking
and the flight of young families in Eastern Europe seeking to live
in a democracy, away from the old czarist regimes, monarchies, and
other forms of repressive governments.
With photos included, this memoir shares what it was like
growing up as part of a Russian family in Trenton, New Jersey. It
focuses on Maslow's father, Yalek, an intelligent man with
exceptional talents in creative arts, architectural drawing, and
construction. "Obsessive Memories" also explores Maslow's
relationship with her father and seeks to find meaning in why he
was unable to outwardly express his love for her or her family.
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