In Face to Face noted commentators on the American scene explore ways of coming to terms with father's authority so that individuals may assert autonomy while preserving and enhancing a sense of community. Fears of all-embracing mother must be confronted so that women's authentic values can be released into the larger world. The book invites women and men alike to confront the obstacles of inequitable social structures, the elitist myths that sustain them, and the primordial fears that lie at their base. Outstanding contributors--Christopher Lasch, Dorothy Dinnerstein, Jessie Bernard, Marjorie Bell Chambers, Jean Baker Miller, and others--address the central issues: fathers, mothers, and the future of freedom; masters and monsters--mythical, religious and psychoanalytic perspectives; men and women as workers face to face; positive confrontation in the public world; and implications for the future.

This book explores what we mean when we use the term "perversion." Are we dealing with a sexological classification, a mental disturbance, an ethical deviation, a hedonistic style, or an historical-cultural artifact? The book retraces some of the fundamental stages in the field of psychoanalytic thought-from Freud to Masud Khan, Stoller, and Lacan-and proposes an original approach: that "paraphilias" today are taken as an ethical failure of the sexual relationship with the other. The perversions signal a specific relationship with the other, who is treated not simply as a sexual object, but someone whose subjectivity is ably exploited precisely in order to get a perverse pleasure. Acts, if considered perverse, are understood as a metaphorical re-edition of a trauma, above all sexual, in which the subject (as a child) suffered the bitter experience of exclusion or jealousy.

Causal explanations are essential for theory building. In focusing on causal mechanisms rather than descriptive effects, the goal of this volume is to increase our theoretical understanding of the way gender operates in interaction. Theoretical analyses of gender's effects in interaction, in turn, are necessary to understand how such effects might be implicated with individual-level and social structural-level processes in the larger system of gender inequality. Despite other differences, the contributors to this book all take what might be loosely called a "microstructural" approach to gender and interaction. All agree that individuals come to interaction with certain common, socially created beliefs, cultural meanings, experiences, and social rules. These include stereotypes about gendered activities and skills, beliefs about the status value of gender, rules for interacting in certain settings, and so on. However, as individuals apply these beliefs and rules to the specific contingent events of interaction, they combine and reshape their implications in distinctive ways that are particular to the encounter. As a result, individuals actively construct their social relations in the encounter through their interaction. The patterns of relations that develop are not completely determined or scripted in advance by the beliefs and rules of the larger society. Consequently, there is a reciprocal causal relationship between constructed patterns of interaction and larger social structural forms. The constructed patterns of social relations among a set of interactants can be thought of as micro-level social structures or, more simply, "microstructures.

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"It's about time! Read this book."
"--Shere Hite, The Hite Report"

"With intelligence and flair, Gen-X feminist, journalist and playwright Kamen (Feminist Fatale) presents an exhaustive study of the sexual mores of the women in her generation. . . . Critical yet nonjudgmental, Kamen's lively book is a welcome primer on contemporary sexual ethics. . . . It's sure to be a hit among feminists of all ages even while it raises eyebrows in other camps."
"--PUBLISHERS WEEKLY"

"a]at times startling and at the very least amusinga]reading it is an education. And now we know at least some of what educated women stand to gain."
"--The New York Times Book Review"

"A refreshing surveya]Offers lucid analyses of the changing content and understanding of sex."
"-- The Chicago Tribune"

"At last, the torch has been passed! Paula Kamen follows women's struggle for sexual pleasure and self-affirmation into a new generation - and finds it healthier and more vibrant than ever. Young women will be fascinated by Her Way. Older ones will be amazed."
"--Barbara Ehrenreich"

"At last, a book about young women's sexual behavior that's actually written by a young woman! Paula Kamen documents women's sexual truths without judgment and-more important-without all the wrongheaded, double-standard-laden assumptions that all too often plague writing on this topic. Kamen brings the focus back where it should be: on women's own views, rather than others' views of them."
"--Lisa Miya-Jervis, Bitch Magazine"

"A bold new look at female sexuality in America today. Based onyears of meticulous research, Paula Kamen has produced a fascinating, important study of how young women are redefining their roles and relationships in a post-boomer world."
"--Iris Chang, author of The Rape of Nanking"

"Lively and entertaining, honoring the intimate voices of a diversity of women, Her Way is an authoritative study of our long slow journey toward sexual autonomy. Kamen is a savvy third wave feminist who has done her homework. The book is a link between generations, and a major stepping stone toward fuller liberation. This is feminism for the 21st century!"
"--Barbara Seaman, coeditor of For Women Only: Our Guide to Health Empowerment"

"Intellectual, political, and compassionate, Her Way shows that the freedom to live and love by our own standards-with men on our good side-is the way toward the social change that, truly, begins in our social lives."
"--Lynn Harris, author of Breakup Girl to the Rescue! A Superhero's Guide to Love, and Lack Thereof"

"Gives women cause to celebrate! Her Way shows how, for perhaps the first time in history, a generation of young women is truly defining sex on its own terms. Her nuanced analysis of this quiet but undeniable trend is optimistic while not shying away from the problems that remain, including the inertia of a mainstream popular culture that insists on portraying women as sexy rather than as sexual beings in their own right."
"--Lisa Douglass, coauthor of Are We Having Fun Yet? The Intelligent Woman's Guide to Sex"

"Chronicles the complex ways young women understand and experience sexuality today. In this collection, Kamen draws on interviews, reports, and studies to weave an analysis of how Gen-X womendefine and adopt sex roles and gendered responses to an increasingly sexualized world. . . . Kamen concludes, rather convincingly, that young women are finally beginning to make their own rules, instead of blindly obeying those made by others and, as a result, are leading more fulfilling lives."
"--MS. MAGAZINE"

"If women's sexual mores become more like men's, is that progress? Paula Kamen seems to think so, based on HER WAY. . . . Kamen backs her assertions with a panoramic breadth of scholarship-pretty much every major piece of sex research for the last hundred years shows up in HER WAY, including some fascinating surveys of women born in the nineteenth century."
"--NERVE"

"Lively and entertaining, honoring the intimate voices of a diversity of women, Her Way is an authoritative study of our long slow journey toward sexual autonomy. Kamen is a savvy third wave feminist who has done her homework. The book is a link between generations, and a major stepping stone toward fuller liberation. This is feminism for the 21st century!"
--Barbara Seaman, Co-editor of "For Women Only: Our Guide to Health Empowerment"

"The next time you're having an argument with some asshole over the fact that women can have just as high a sex drive and the same ability to know their desires as men, just pull out this book. . . . It's a great book to help you get an overall feeling for the sexual attitudes of chicks these days. . . . a must-have for any feminist home."
"--BUST"

Three decades after the Sexual Revolution, women's power and status have begun to match men's, and women are finally making the rules in order to experience a more radical and truer form of liberation.

Her Waydemonstrates how and why 20- and 30-something women have evolved to act and think more like men sexually, while also creating their own distinct sexual patterns and appetites. Today's young women are now the leaders of an unreported but sweeping "Sexual Evolution," in which women take control of sex and redefine it from their perspective. In other words, do it "her way."

Paula Kamen characterizes this Sexual Evolution according to two major developments that are setting sexual patterns for future generations of women: young women's sexual profiles are now remarkably similar to those of men, in terms of age of first intercourse, and numbers of sex partners and casual encounters. They also feel less guilt or shame about their behavior, from premarital sex to having a child out of marriage to coming out of the closet to cohabiting.

Yet young women are not merely imitating men, but forging their own distinct sexual perspectives and asserting their own needs. In addition to discovering the pleasures of sex, young women are also exploring the dilemmas, challenging male-defined sexual scripts, and changing what actually goes on in bed.

Based on more than one hundred lively, unfiltered and in-depth interviews with women across the country, Her Way cuts through the sensationalism and speculation of popular discussions about young women and sex. Kamen reports the real story of today's enhanced sexual expectations and choices.

"Online Matchmaking "examines the joys, fears, and disappointments of hooking up with people in cyberspace. Unlike most other books that exist in this field, this collection includes studies by experts from a variety of disciplines, including Communications, Cultural studies, English, Health, Journalism, Psychology, Rhetoric, and Sociology. "Online Matchmaking" could be used as a primary or secondary resource for any subject that focuses on cyber-relationships.

We all fall into one of five sexual zones. By using these zones, you can discover your sexual compatibility and take your sex life to a whole new level. Can a Zone 1 ever last with a Zone 5? Or are you both Zone 3's on a quest to enter Zone 5? Find out inside Zone 1: The Safety Zone The Safety Zone is where most of us live. It is mundane, everyday sex that both partners are comfortable with and will only consider. This involves missionary style sex, with a few different positions thrown in. Some kissing, little foreplay, 10 minute or less lovemaking sessions, few sex toys. Zone 2: The Fear Zone The Fear Zone is where a lot of us live. We have fantasies that we are afraid to talk about and afraid to act out. While we could be coaxed into talking about them, chances are we would never try them. Zone 3: The Temptation Zone The Temptation Zone is where some of us venture. We live mainly in the Safety Zone alternating with the Fear Zone, but we are willing to talk about and possibly act out our fantasies with the right partner. Zone 4: The Erotic Zone The Erotic Zone is when the gloves come off. This is where both partners trust each other and go on a wild ride, exploring their fantasies and acting them out. Zone 5: The Forbidden Zone The Forbidden Zone is where you are open to considering even the most outrageous acts, things you have never done and things you would be even too afraid to speak out loud to yourself.

Pink Herrings engages in a re-examination of six of Freud's cases via Lacan's account of sexuation. Specifically, the book outlines a theoretical framework in which sexuation is understood as a 'choice' made in response to the fact of the sexual non relationship. In making this choice, unconscious fantasy allows for the circulation of object a, which bear traces of jouissance. Drawing upon Lacan's distinction between phallic and other jouissance, Pink Herrings examines the four positions outlined in Lacan's formula of sexuation, and maps these onto the six case studies. In so doing, Pink Herrings not only brings new life and insights to the cases, but also clears a path to what is referred to as a 'clinic of sexuation'. Such a clinic would not replace existing Lacanian psychoanalytic practice (with its focus on the structures of neurosis, perversion and psychosis), but instead provide additional avenues through which to explore the operations of fantasy.

The present book is a continuation from "Psychoanalysis and the Unconscious." The generality of readers had better just leave it alone. The generality of critics likewise. I really don't want to convince anybody. It is quite in opposition to my whole nature. I don't intend my books for the generality of readers. I count it a mistake of our mistaken democracy, that every man who can read print is allowed to believe that he can read all that is printed. I count it a misfortune that serious books are exposed in the public market, like slaves exposed naked for sale. But there we are, since we live in an age of mistaken democracy, we must go through with it.

I warn the generality of readers, that this present book will seem to them only a rather more revolting mass of wordy nonsense than the last. I would warn the generality of critics to throw it in the waste paper basket without more ado.

As for the limited few, in whom one must per force find an answerer, I may as well say straight off that I stick to the solar plexus. That statement alone, I hope, will thin their numbers considerably.

Finally, to the remnants of a remainder, in order to apologize for the sudden lurch into cosmology, or cosmogony, in this book, I wish to say that the whole thing hangs inevitably together. I am not a scientist. I am an amateur of amateurs. As one of my critics said, you either believe or you don't.

First published in 1981, this title takes a 'sociobiological' approach to the exploration of sexual habits, looking at the fundamental biological nature of humans. The book covers the spectrum of human sexuality, considering love and marriage, variant sexuality and social influences. This is a valuable reissue for any student of sexual psychology or cultural and evolutionary anthropology with an interest in the fundamental influences on human sexuality.

In this witty and provocative study of sex and marriage manuals, M.E. Melody and Linda M. Peterson reveal that permissiveness, prohibition, and, tellingly, persuasion and enforcement-from sermons and hellfire to mutilation and electroshock-have informed popular sex education over the past hundred and twenty years.

From the late Victorian obsession with masturbation and hygiene, to the "if it feels good, do it" ethos of "The Joy of Sex," America's disposition to sex has evolved from a general squeamishness to a veritable cult of mutual orgasm. But despite the recent emphasis on "voluptuous pleasure," the basic power dynamic underlying the discourse on sex has been remarkably resistant to change. The authors reveal that, even as sexual behavior changed during periods of upheaval, the prescriptive literature on sex has remained traditional at its core, promoting sex within marriage for the purpose of reproduction.

A cross-generational account of the major constructions of masculinity and femininity from 1880 to the present day, Teaching America About Sex serves up a lucid and entertaining reading of the twentieth century's vexed relationship with sex.

Understandings of sexuality and sex education have changed dramatically, and in this collection, the authors explore the various texts that were used to teach, to entertain, to sanction and to form a sexual standard for a nation. According to Nelson and Martin, these include a puberty education, sermons on abstinence, medical writings promoting sexual fulfillment, Hollywood comedies about sexual coming of age and picture books validating homosexuality. The essays included here are designed to illustrate the many responses that Anglophone culture has had to such texts for over a century.

This literature review was undertaken in order to determine what caregivers needed to know about elderly sexuality, to determine the needs of elderly people related to their sexuality, and to determine how caregivers could best assist them in meeting those needs. In selecting materials to be annotated for this book, the first priority was given to empirical studies. Also included were articles by prominent practitioners and researchers interested in elderly sexuality, literature reviews, and books written for the lay population which are often cited in the professional literature. In addition to seeking knowledge about elderly sexuality and understanding attitudes about sexuality, this literature review sought information about measurement issues and measurement instruments frequently used in research within elderly populations. Also of interest were investigations of educational and training programs involving caregivers.

Previously published as "Dirty Minds: How Our Brains Influence Love, Sex, and Relationships."
PHILOSOPHERS, THEOLOGIANS, ARTISTS, AND BOY BANDS HAVE WAXED poetic for centuries about the nature of love. But what does the "brain "have to say about the way we carry our hearts? In the wake of a divorce, science writer and single mother Kayt Sukel made herself a guinea pig in the labs of some unusual love experts to find out. "This Is Your Brain on Sex "is her lively and hilarious examination of the big questions about love and sex, previously published in hardcover as "Dirty Minds."
Each chapter of this edgy romp through the romantic brain looks at a different aspect of love above the belt. What in your brain makes you love someone--or simply lust after them? Why do good girls like bad boys? Is monogamy practical? How thin is that line between love and hate? After reading this gimlet-eyed look at love, sex, and the brain, you'll never look at romance the same way again.

I am not a proper archaeologist nor an anthropologist nor an ethnologist. I am no "scholar" of any sort. But I am very grateful to scholars for their sound work. I have found hints, suggestions for what I say here in all kinds of scholarly books, from the Yoga and Plato and St. John the Evangel and the early Greek philosophers like Herakleitos down to Fraser and his "Golden Bough," and even Freud and Frobenius. Even then I only remember hints--and I proceed by intuition. This leaves you quite free to dismiss the whole wordy mass of revolting nonsense, without a qualm.

This book provides an international, multi-disciplinary empirical account of pole classes and how they fit into wider discourses about bodies and gender, and age and fitness. In particular, the book explores how women initiate agency and espouse liberation and empowerment through something as seemingly problematic as pole classes.

This book takes an in-depth look at the relationships exotic dancers have with their regular customers, and explores the limits of using feminist theory to discuss sex work. Incorporating interviews, personal accounts, and field notes, Egan sheds light on the feminist debates on sex work and women's power. She focuses in on the dynamics of desire and fantasy in exotic dance clubs to illustrate the complexity of gendered relations in everyday life. This is an accessible, revealing, and new look at a perennially intriguing and divisive subject--ideal teaching material for undergraduate courses in a variety of fields.

During the "fin-de-siecle," stories about hysterical women filled the air of Paris and the novels which emerged during this era conveyed this hysteria and openly portrayed the symptoms of the women being treated at the Salpetiere. This book examines the emergence of hysterical discourse and its influence on women's writing, specifically focusing on the presentation of female sexuality in three different narratives."

A practical workbook from the New York Times-bestselling author of Come As You Are that will radically transform your sex life.

In Come As You Are, sex educator Dr Emily Nagoski revealed the true story behind female sexuality, uncovering the little-known science of what makes us tick and, more importantly, how and why.

Now, in The Come As You Are Workbook, she offers practical tips and techniques that will help women to have the mind-blowing sex that they deserve (and that men have been having all along).

This collection of worksheets, journaling prompts, illustrations, and diagrams is an engaging companion for anyone who wants to further their understanding of their own bodies and sexuality.

Contains three studies: "The Evolution of Modesty," "The Phenomenon of Sexual Periodicity," and "Auto-Eroticism." Complete with Index and Charts.