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It is a challenge for parents to raise children in one home even
when everyone is getting along. After a divorce-when all the
mediators, attorneys, evaluators, and judges have moved on to other
families-parents are left with the most difficult task of all:
moving past their own conflicts and learning to raise their child
in two homes.
Divorced parents often begin with the best of intentions,
seeking to protect their children from hurt; even so, they often
feel overwhelmed with the seemingly complex array of tasks and
decisions that must be made after the dissolution of a marriage.
Dr. Frank Leek is an experienced clinical and forensic psychologist
(Now retired) who relies on his years of experience working with
divorcing and divorced parents to offer parents twenty essential
co-parenting tasks that encourage joint decisions, conflict
reduction, and a focus on the well-being of children. While guiding
parents through a process that often tests emotion and patience,
Leek shares practical advice that helps parents effectively deal
with the initial transition and the often complicated issues that
follow.
The insight offered in "Shared Parenting: Beyond the Great
Divide" leads divorcing parents on a healing journey where they
learn to communicate effectively, share parenting responsibilities,
and find workable systems that encourage a peaceful future for
everyone.
As a toddler, Mary sustains an injury to her left eye. In
elementary school, she is diagnosed with a traumatic cataract
caused by a shattered lens and is advised to always wear glasses to
protect her better eye. Not wanting to be teased by peers, she
disguises her impairment by wearing tinted shades of various hues.
These camouflages affect the way she views life and alters her
perception of people and events. Believing that everyone
encountered would initially focus on her eyes, she limits her
social interactions and becomes an avid reader. After ending an
abusive marriage to Chico, her high school and college boyfriend,
and later identifying with the Hebrew Israelites, she decides to
take off the colorful blinders and face life, with all of its
complexities, clearly focused by going on a Caribbean cruise to
reflect on her experiences in order to resolve the inner conflicts
which led to years of unhappiness and deferred dreams. The Creation
story in the book of Genesis guides her thinking as she desperately
attempts to recreate her life by analyzing over thirty years of
experiences in seven short days. It begins with her understanding
the causes of her blurred vision and ends with an enlightened sense
of self pride, purpose and spiritual awareness. Throughout this
true adventure, she uses her visual impairment as a metaphor for
the blindness she suffers as she journeys along life's path. The
book is filled with tales of her family structure and social
values; issues of marriage, domestic violence, infidelity,
deception and divorce; the challenges of single parenting; the
frustrations of religious persecution and professional
discrimination; the disappointments encountered in attempts to
establish friendships and develop intimate relationships; and
finally the blessings of finding true love and restoring trust.
The story begins with a couple and their baby moving to Albuquerque
where the husband hopes to be accepted at the university. After
they settle, the wife discovers that their marriage is hopelessly
challenged because she doesn't want to be married to a lawyer who
wins all their arguments. In her suitcase are three nuns who give
her well meant, useless advice until she banishes them. "here's my
parting gift to you," says her husband handing her an Italian
Berretta. By then, they are living in a mountain cabin on seventeen
acres.
Your Insurance Policy Against The Kind of Divorce Everybody
Fears
Divorce does not need to become the defining moment of the rest
of your life. Using her insight and expertise as a family-court
judge and former divorce attorney, Judge Lowrance presents a
revolutionary guide for people facing the turmoil of divorce. "The
Good Karma Divorce" offers concrete and battle-tested advice,
real-life examples, no-nonsense tools, and practical checklists.
With Judge Lowrance's guidance we can avoid the black hole of
litigation and create a good karma divorce, opening up a new world
of hope and possibility.
Have you ever been in Stuck-Ville? Ever resigned yourself to plan B
and then realized it wasn't the second chance you were looking for
but merely second best? A Fascination with Forward is a must read
if you are ready to put the past into perspective, pull the root of
your pain right out, tackle your true/false beliefs about God, and
release your plan A Does forgiveness matter? You bet This book will
ensue you don't let the past cause you to miss the party. Once you
have read this book, you will know you have found a friend.
God created marriage to be a beautiful, loving union between two
people willing to make a lifelong commitment. Often, though,
marriage goes wrong. Husband and wife turn on each other, and the
ugliness of divorce threatens a happy home. In the case of author
Raven Kane, her journey to divorce was much worse than many others.
Raven met Franklin and fell in love. They got married and had a
child. Their lives seemed to be ideal, and Raven's faith in God
grew as did her relationship with her husband. Yet, things are not
always as they seem. Soon, it became apparent that Franklin was no
longer the man she married; he was an adulterer, a liar, and he
began to drink liquor heavy.
Things deteriorated rapidly, and Franklin even turned Raven's
own daughter against her. When he ended up facing criminal charges,
he pulled Raven into the mess. It seemed like things could not get
any worse, yet Raven still had faith in a loving creator. Through
the tribulations of a broken relationship, she learned it was
impossible to build a marriage without God; it was impossible,
even, to build a life without Him.
An out-of-the-blue phone call from a passing acquaintance sends
Julie, a divorced Mother of two twenty-something sons, to a
tropical paradise, an exotic paradise in the middle of the
Caribbean to work and to live. What she discovers there transforms
her life. Living a tranquil coexistence with the native population,
not only does she discover a virtual United Nations of expatriates
who become her friends, but with them she travels to Cuba and Costa
Rica, to London and Scotland. She rediscovers long hidden passions;
for painting, artistically creating pastel impressions of her
island surroundings, and for swimming, a sport she takes up in
earnest in the calm, clear azure waters that surround the tiny
island. She also meets a man and falls so in love that her heart is
surrundered. Along this path of blissful contentment comes the
rememberances of a former, not so happy time, in which a series of
tragedies after her divorce left her mired in the depths of
depression. She realizes that the road back into the sun has
rendered her strong, capable, happy, and healthy. But can she hold
onto this new life and this new man who has entered it with such a
stronghold on her heart?
Almendro is a true story about the life of the author and how so
much can go so wrong in a short time. We all have dreams but how
many come to pass? Laura had two. She wanted a good marriage and a
happy home for the two families that tried to blend together to
become one. Her second dream was to live out the Golden Years on an
exotic island in the Caribbean. She got her first wish when she
married Jim but he wasn't what she wanted to believe he was. Laura
got her second wish when the couple moved to that exotic island
when they retired. It was here where the bottom fell out of both
dreams and for Laura the struggle to survive began. Jim met Sheila
before Laura ran off to Dominica with Gavin. Sheila wanted Laura's
life and everything she and Jim owned and Jim wanted to destroy his
wife in any way he could. He joined forces with the psychopathic
woman who betrayed him from the beginning but he was too blinded by
need and revenge to see it. When Sheila realized Laura was a threat
to her plan, there was only one choice to make. Get rid of Laura.
Forced to live in isolation in fear for her life, Laura lived alone
in the jungles of Dominica until she met the man who captured her
heart and saved her life in many ways. The Afro Caribbean people
took her into their care and taught her what she needed to know and
gave her the strength to carry on. When Jim died mysteriously,
Laura didn't have to ask how or why. She put on her armour, picked
up her sword and returned to the island she once called home. She
declared war on Sheila and was willing to die to keep her dream.
It makes no difference if they are a robber or a judge, the
greatest deterrent to committing wrong is by exposure. Humans will
deter from doing wrong if they believe someone is watching. This
book is to expose the wrong, teach some legal issues, encourage
change in our laws, and hopefully keep someone else from falling
into the same snares. Bernie's greatest desire for publishing this
book is to see his children again who he has been wrongfully
deprived from for well over two years.
In June 2005 the Lord purpose in my heart to learn more about His
word. Having a thirsty for knowledge the Spirit led me to Virginia
Baptist College (seminary school). Been obedient to the Spirit of
God He blessed me to receive my Master degree in Ministry
(Theology) May of 2008. It was during my training there I was lead
to write this book "Marriage, Seeing it God's way." Many times I
prayed asking God to show me how to be a good husband according to
his word. While writing this book the Lord helped me achieve the
desires of my heart by becoming a loving husband. After so many
years of doing things wrong in the marriage I had a yearning to do
it God's way and fulfilled my purpose as a husband. My soul purpose
was to please God and my wife (help mate) of 30 years. The Lord
revealed many things to me one particular characteristic about me
He showed me stood out more than all others. Love her as Christ
loved me with longsuffer and forgive. Out of the process of time
through many hours of seeking the Lord in pray, fasting and
studying the Scriptures, the Lord opens up my mind to put these
thought in the form of a book. I am thankful for the fellowship He
allow me to share with Him, the many conversations we had, the
tears I shed and the long hours of research. Two things I learned
about God during this process, (1) He will meet you where you are,
(2) He will always tell you what you don't want to here. Be careful
what you ask for. Writing this book also allowed me to achieve many
other goals; To come a certify Sunday school teacher ETA (Standard
& Advance courses), Ordained Elder PCAF, Inc., Aug. 2011 and a
graduate of ESSC Ministerial Training Course and a new career. I
truly thank my wife for her patient and love she was the motor that
kept me going but God was the source. I pray this book be a
blessing to all who reads it. God bless.
This story is about my life from a child growing up on an island in
the Caribbean to who I am today. It describes my love for one man
who did not have the foresight to reveal his love for me and who
left me to go overseas without any commitments, and who did not
have any communication with me for months. It further outlines how
I dealt with my heartache, and after feeling defeated, how I turned
to another man who pursued me and provided the security and peace I
needed and whom I married. This is a story of my life with my
husband of thirty years. The children we had and our travels and
the great life and love we shared. This is the story of my
devastation when my husband died and my decision to return to
University to fill the gap, so I could go on with my life, as I
wanted no one else. True love returned when my telephone rang in my
home, and at the other end of the line was my first love who I had
not seen or heard from for thirty eight years, how we renewed our
acquaintances and realized just how much we were still in love with
each other. The pain and anguish was again experienced due to his
indecisions, unavailability and inability to make a firm commitment
about our new relationship, In this book are our conversations and
letters I have written to him but never gave him, our quarrels, our
sorrows and our visits, and above all, my frustration at his lack
of commitment.
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