This story is about my life from a child growing up on an island in the Caribbean to who I am today. It describes my love for one man who did not have the foresight to reveal his love for me and who left me to go overseas without any commitments, and who did not have any communication with me for months. It further outlines how I dealt with my heartache, and after feeling defeated, how I turned to another man who pursued me and provided the security and peace I needed and whom I married. This is a story of my life with my husband of thirty years. The children we had and our travels and the great life and love we shared. This is the story of my devastation when my husband died and my decision to return to University to fill the gap, so I could go on with my life, as I wanted no one else. True love returned when my telephone rang in my home, and at the other end of the line was my first love who I had not seen or heard from for thirty eight years, how we renewed our acquaintances and realized just how much we were still in love with each other. The pain and anguish was again experienced due to his indecisions, unavailability and inability to make a firm commitment about our new relationship, In this book are our conversations and letters I have written to him but never gave him, our quarrels, our sorrows and our visits, and above all, my frustration at his lack of commitment.

In June 2005 the Lord purpose in my heart to learn more about His word. Having a thirsty for knowledge the Spirit led me to Virginia Baptist College (seminary school). Been obedient to the Spirit of God He blessed me to receive my Master degree in Ministry (Theology) May of 2008. It was during my training there I was lead to write this book "Marriage, Seeing it God's way." Many times I prayed asking God to show me how to be a good husband according to his word. While writing this book the Lord helped me achieve the desires of my heart by becoming a loving husband. After so many years of doing things wrong in the marriage I had a yearning to do it God's way and fulfilled my purpose as a husband. My soul purpose was to please God and my wife (help mate) of 30 years. The Lord revealed many things to me one particular characteristic about me He showed me stood out more than all others. Love her as Christ loved me with longsuffer and forgive. Out of the process of time through many hours of seeking the Lord in pray, fasting and studying the Scriptures, the Lord opens up my mind to put these thought in the form of a book. I am thankful for the fellowship He allow me to share with Him, the many conversations we had, the tears I shed and the long hours of research. Two things I learned about God during this process, (1) He will meet you where you are, (2) He will always tell you what you don't want to here. Be careful what you ask for. Writing this book also allowed me to achieve many other goals; To come a certify Sunday school teacher ETA (Standard & Advance courses), Ordained Elder PCAF, Inc., Aug. 2011 and a graduate of ESSC Ministerial Training Course and a new career. I truly thank my wife for her patient and love she was the motor that kept me going but God was the source. I pray this book be a blessing to all who reads it. God bless.

Die koeël is deur die kerk. Die huweliksbootjie het gesink. Hy kry die bed en sy die tafel. Hoekom skei hulle en hoekom skei hulle nóú dat jy ’n volwasse kind is?

Jou ouers is besig om te skei of hulle is klaar geskei. Almal fokus op hulle, maar jy suffer ook. Volwasse kinders kry swáár wanneer hulle ouers skei. Net so swaar, indien nie swaarder as jong kinders nie.

’n Eerste in Afrikaans — ’n handleiding vol raad oor hoe om die sleg en gesukkel van ’n egskeiding te hanteer waar volwasse kinders van egskeiding (18 jaar en ouer) hulle eerstehandse ervaring, verwarring, onsekerheid, woede en hartseer deel wat begin die oomblik as Ma en Pa sê: dis verby.

Die slegte nuus? Die egskeiding sal altyd ’n wond wees. Die goeie nuus? Jy kan leer hoe om dit beter te hanteer en met tyd kan dit net ’n letsel word. Soos Gretha (26) sê: “Time makes all wounds bearable.”

Divorce is not an answer is a personal discovery I discovered in marriage. Marital life has a lot of challenges and people resort to divorce as solution. But I found out that divorce is not an answer. This cancer has eaten a lot of marriages. Because marriage is complex, people are searching for a formula to make their relationship work. Any time there is a challenge divorce becomes the solution. This personal discovery will appeal to your concience. The sorrows, struggles and frustrations on marriages at this end time is better imagined than experienced. Divorce is forever. It never goes away. If you know who you are and what you have, you can experience the beauty of marriage, the oneness and faithfulness of God to mankind. Marriage is a life time experience, it is not an experiment.

When Doug's father refuses to return to suburban New York from one of his lengthy business trips, his mother swallows a bottle of sleeping pills and Doug and sister Constance move in with their mother's mother in Rochester, who takes them in temporarily. At the end of the school year, Constance goes on to college and Grandma unloads Doug, putting him on a plane to Chicago to live with Carleton, the father he barely knows, and his father's young, beautiful, Native American wife. Doug finds himself living two blocks from the infamous Cabrini-Green housing projects, in an area where whites had mostly fled and black gangs are taking control. Carleton moved in with Mary a year earlier, marrying her two weeks after his wife died, and they remain in her apartment in the changing neighborhood because he'd lost another job due to his drinking and because Mary didn't like to be surrounded by white people anyway. Doug is immediately thrust into a world of petty crime, violence, and racial hatred, some of which emanates from Mary, who loves his father but despises herself for living with a white man. And yet, on her good days, she becomes more of a mother to Doug than he'd ever had, teaching him how to treat a lady and how to find his way in the inner-city. On her bad days, she locks him out of their apartment. So Doug comes of age in the streets, dates girls who live in the projects, and sees people beaten and killed. The people he comes to trust and learn from are people who are not white. They're Indian, they're Hispanic, and mostly they're Black. So who is he, he wonders, who thought of himself as White? This is the story of how it turns out.

Peaceful Separation, Peaceful Divorce is a source of strength and a guide for those making a transition from separation and divorce to creating peace and harmony in their lives." Deepak Chopra Author, Jesus: A Story of Enlightenment "Peaceful Separation, Peaceful Divorce offers a conscious roadmap through transition, reminding us that no relationship ends, it merely changes form. Having Heather as your navigator will smooth your journey and ensure that you arrive safely as your new self." David Simon, M.D. Author, Free to Love, Free to Heal "Heather Frenner is a true spiritual teacher. In Peaceful Separation, Peaceful Divorce, Heather's wisdom will touch your soul and give you a change in perspective. Her suggested daily rituals will equip you to face the experiences of separation and/or divorce with gentleness in your heart. As you read Peaceful Separation, Peaceful Divorce it will become impossible not to experience divine grace." Robin Alexis Author of Robin Song, Treasure Your Soul's Wisdom, and Raising Humanity. "What a wise woman Thank you for reminding us that every season of our lives has a beginning, a middle, and an end. Our culture has a negative attitude about divorce, and your book will help people see it in a different, more wholesome light. Your yoga suggestions are simple and concrete methods to help keep people in the present and out of the mire of what should be It also shows how much work you have done yourself. Congratulations " Peter Alsop PhD, Educational Psychologist, Singer/Songwriter

With courageous confession, the author describes her high school romance, laced with parental opposition, the pull of premarital sex, and an awareness of guilt before God. After less than a year of marriage to her high school sweetheart, when she begins to recognize her parents' concerns as valid, she meets a man who becomes a destructive force in her life. He encourages her to divorce her husband and instead, become dependent on him for emotional support. With painful honesty she relates how he gains manipulative control over her emotions and moral standards. She joins him in defying biblical commandments and societal conventions. Readers who have suffered through failed marriages will understand her struggles.

The author winds up her memoir by observing what in her background contributes to vulnerability and control by a man who seems to represent the devil. She tells how she eventually escapes from him and an emotionally abusive second marriage. She offers insight to parents and teens about both positive and negative relationships between them, and how those relationships powerfully influence the lives and marital decisions of young adults.

A story about a young girl of 17, her innocence and her leap into maturity by extremely painful circumstances. You will experience, through the eyes of a young wife and mother, the wonder, beauty and culture of a faraway exotic location. The happiness and wonder she experienced while discovering what she believed to be true love, and all the agony of betrayal by the one person she trusted the most. Redemption comes soon enough?. After having her young son taken away as a toddler, devastating pain brings her to a depression so deep that it takes years to recover. Her strength of will is put through a test when the case crosses over the court systems from two countries: the United States and Greece. During this time, she digs deep for strength she never imagined she had to help her during her struggle to be reunited with him. Twelve and a half grueling years later, she is finally able to hug her son who is no longer a little boy but a young man, searching for answers about the mother he was told was dead.

Screenwriter Helmreich and Psychologist Marcus, the latter a longtime court insider who has witnessed untold trauma as an evaluator in custody disputes, present us with a book that is shocking, tragic and ultimately enlightening. The authors present in-depth understanding of the havoc that child custody disputes can wreak not only on the couple but, more importantly, on the children. Harshly detailed, we come to know through this text the personal motivations and behaviors that end up devastating lives. Here, parents can learn what to do, and what not to do, to avoid bitter tragedy in such cases. Judges, lawyers, guardians and mediators will also find this book enormously educational and useful. The ten cases in this book have been culled from years of experience as a court-appointed child custody evaluator. Commentaries at the end of each chapter offer analyses and concrete, practical information for parents in similar situations.

In a time when divorce rates are higher than ever before-especially in blended families-"The Fusion Family" offers welcome guidance, practical advice, and easy-to-apply solutions and tools for families in transition.Charlotte Egemar Kaaber is a certified life and business coach, as well as a fusion mother. Relying on her professional and personal experiences as well as interviews with other blended families, she provides a comprehensive handbook aimed at helping families build the kind of strong foundation that enables everyone to stay united, even during the family's most challenging times. Kaaber shares thought-provoking inspiration and ways to succeed for a wide range of applicable issues, including communicating with an ex-spouse; disciplining children in a blended family; establishing new traditions and memories; dealing with jealousy among the children and parents; being present and creating security.The practical advice, tips, and tools included in "The Fusion Family" will help any newly-blended family understand and overcome challenges to create a new future together."I wish my mother had read "The Fusion Family.""-Pernille, a Danish woman who grew up in a blended family