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Books > Health, Home & Family > Family & health > Coping with personal problems > Coping with death & bereavement
The writer has spent time working with Cruse Bereavement Care and
has found that many people suffer because of society's reluctance
to talk about death. "Born Astride the Grave" was written in
response to this and recounts the writer's experience of death,
grief and mortality.
"Ever since I first found out that Barbara had breast cancer the
thought of her dying plagued me almost daily. I never told her how
I felt about this because I tried to be her coach and source of
strength. There were many nights especially when she was in the
hospital with the infections that I cried myself to sleep. I just
kept thinking that it was so unfair for her to have cancer and
suffer all that humiliation and sickness that came with the
chemotherapy treatments. I never really got over the fear of losing
her. I was so afraid of what would happen to me. How could I ever
go on with my life without her? How would I cope with the thought
of never seeing her or talking with her again?I thought a lot about
death during this period. I firmly believed in the afterlife and
eternal salvation. I knew that Barbara was a good Christian and
that her place in heaven would be a certainty. But I wanted her
here on earth with me for the rest of my life. I wanted to see her
grow old and comfort me. I couldn't stand the thought of her dying
before me."
The Love of a Father is a personal story of the life author Faith
Parker shared with her father, who gave her some of the most
important treasures in her life. After his death, Faith noticed a
parallel between her father and the Heavenly Father as she allowed
Him to fill the void and begin a transformation process in her
life. We sometimes underestimate the value of our father's love and
the priceless gifts they offer. With this book, she encourages
readers to look for the treasures in the Heavenly Father, cherish
them, and share them with the rest of the world.
The perennial classic: this intimate journal chronicling the Narnia
author's experience of grief after his wife's death has consoled
readers for half a century; this edition features responses from
authors like Hilary Mantel, Francis Spufford, Rowan Williams, Jenna
Bailey ... 'An intimate, anguished account of a man grappling with
the mysteries of faith and love ... Elegant and raw ... A powerful
record of thought and emotion experienced in real time.' Guardian
'Raw and modern ... This unsentimental, even bracing, account of
one man's dialogue with despair becomes both compelling and
consoling ... A contemporary classic.' Observer 'A source of great
consolation ... Lewis deploys his genius for vivid imagery ... It
is a relief for the reader to find that he or she is not alone in
the intense loneliness or feelings of anguish that bereavement
brings.' Henry Marsh, The Times 'Testimony from a sensitive and
eloquent witness [on] 'The Human Condition'. It offers an
interrogation of experience and a glimmer of hardwon hope. It
allows one bewildered mind to reach out to another. Death is no
barrier to that.' Hilary Mantel 'Here, sorrow and despair, the
tiredness and numbness and petulance and nightmarishness of grief,
all have their full, uncontrolled, experienced force ... [Such]
radical openness ... Brilliant.' Francis Spufford *** No one ever
told me that grief felt so like fear. Narnia author C.S. Lewis had
been married to his wife for four blissful years. When she died of
cancer, he found himself alone, inconsolable in his grief. In this
intimate journal, he chronicles the aftermath of the bereavement
and mourning with blazing honesty. He grapples with a crisis of
religious faith, navigating hope, rage, despair, and love - but
eventually regains his bearings, finding his way back to life. A
luminous modern classic, A Grief Observed has offered solace to
countless readers for decades. This companion edition combines the
original text with personal responses from Hilary Mantel, Rowan
Williams, Francis Spufford, Maureen Freely, Kate Saunders, Jessica
Martin and Jenna Bailey. *** What readers are saying: 'A truly
great book - inspirational and untold help.' 'Every human being,
living or dead, understands what Lewis means ... One of the most
valuable books ever written.' 'Lewis, as always, sits down next to
you and validates your grief like a true friend. He lets you rage,
and cry, and even be furious with God, just as he did.' 'If you are
grieving an enormous loss, you may find comfort here ... A great
mind and wonderful writer who understands your grief well enough to
put words to it.' 'His journal was also my journal as I worked
through my own grief. Reading this book was actually comforting in
that I knew that someone else understood my situation and offered
insight and hope ... I highly recommend this book for anyone who
has gone through the death of a loved one or who wants to comfort."
'This little book has had me in floods of tears [and] shows a real
understanding of grief ... To read the words of this great man who
shared and understood my pain and is a life affirming and faith
affirming experience.'
Empathy and hope are offered in this book, built on a foundation of
introspection and inspiration. Readers are brought to new
understanding about suicide. Survivors are encouraged to rebuild
lives and put the past where it rightfully belongs: behind them.
Anticipation of death or anniversaries of the death of a loved one
can be worse than the actual event. Having said this, it doesn't
mean actual events such as anniversaries of a loved one's death
should not be acknowledged, they should be. Make your own tradition
of memories and celebrate the lives of your loved one in the way
shape and manor that works for you. As time passes, some memories
are still even clearer. Hold on to those times and clear the closet
in your mind of any negative thoughts. You have permission to be
sad as long as you need to be, yet you also have permission to get
on with your own living. Make a list of the things and ideas you
have for your living your life. As you achieve these goals and
cross of your list, add more, do more, and therefore you are
living. This book is definitely a quick read if you choose for it
to be. My wish for you is that you choose to take some time and
invest in your feelings only to unfold yourself. When you start to
take inventory of your soul and priorities, write it and you will
have a reference forever. Think about rainbows, butterflies, and
snowmen.
When doctors at the cancer institute told Jean that Albert had only
minutes to live, she was devastated. Then something miraculous
happened. Jean shares the details of their experience in this book.
Her message takes your faith to another level.
'Every time I speak to someone and hear about their experiences, it
leaves me with a sense of running's incredible power to help people
overcome pretty much anything.' Each day, millions of people around
the world put on their trainers and try to deal with their personal
demons and life challenges by going for a run. And, increasingly,
they do it knowing that they are not alone: a growing and often
virtual community is right there running alongside them. We are
all, in some sense, running for our lives. Rachel Ann Cullen's
first book, Running for My Life, described her own marathon journey
through depression, bipolar disorder and body dysmorphia, and her
revelatory discovery that running could transform her physical and
mental wellbeing. After hearing from people who had read about her
experiences, Rachel wanted to tell some stories of other runners
from all around the world - ordinary people living with mental
health struggles, grief, cancer and other unavoidable life events
who have relied on running to get them through their worst days and
to keep going. Running for Our Lives shares moving accounts of hope
and resilience; it demonstrates the power of running to help us all
overcome adversity, and is a lesson for us all in learning not only
how to survive life's challenges, but to thrive.
A growing number of people have become aware of the importance of saying, "I love you" and "good-bye" to those on the threshold of death. As human beings, we are all fragile, and the fear of dying is something everyone shares. When we face death, we face an uphill climb to conquer this fear, but it is a journey that can be made successfully, especially with the support of those we love. As a hospice chaplain and spiritual mentor, Garnette Arledge has helped hundreds of people through this time of approaching death, which she refers to as "Angel's Eve." It is a time in which the fear of dying is replaced with the calming presence of "Angels"--the children, parents, partners, and dear friends who fill these last moments with memories and forgiveness. On Angle's Eve is a guidebook for these comforters of the dying. Arledge shares the tools and skills that help make this a time of happiness and fulfillment rather than one of fear and anxiety. Believing that one's final moments are in the hands of the Angels opens up new vistas. When someone you love begins that last journey, you'll want to be one of those Angels. On Angel's Eve, with its message of hope, shows you how.
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