In this illuminatingbook, Ellis provides a lively and insightful explanation of the differences between self-esteem and self-acceptance. Emphasizing the importance of self-acceptance, he examines this theme in the thinking of great religious teachers, philosophers, and psychologists. He then provides exercises for training oneself to change self-defeating habits to the healthy, positive approach of self-acceptance. These include specific thinking techniques as well as emotive and behavioral exercises. He concludes by stressing that unconditional self-acceptance is the basis for establishing healthy relationships with others, along with unconditional other-acceptance and a total philosophy of life anchored in unconditional life-acceptance.

What is it about the challenges and stresses of midlife that disrupts equilibrium and promotes a sense of despair, even of crisis? Why does this stage of the life cycle give rise to new mental and physical symptoms that, for some, lead to chronic unhappiness to the point of dysfunction? Of course, there are common midlife events that account for the special narcissistic vulnerabilities of this period of life, and Eda Goldstein ably reviews these events and the theoretical perspectives commonly brought to bear on them. In When the Bubble Bursts, however, Goldstein's special concern is those individuals who come to midlife with heightened narcissistic vulnerabilities that make the navigation of this stage of life more difficult still. In understanding the latter such patients and devising a treatment approach appropriate to their self issues, Goldstein adopts a broadly self-psychological frame of reference. It is a matter, she finds again and again, of understanding how current stressors frustrate healthy self needs and trigger narcissistic vulnerabilities. purview, embraces modalities that are, to varying degrees, supportive, psychodynamic, and psychoanalytic, reworks and strengthens self structures in helping patients find new ways of affirming their sense of self. Her substantive case studies, which accompany the reader through all the chapters in her study, draw on personal and supervisory experiences to illustrate crucial foci of the treatment process with a range of midlife patients in psychotherapy. It is a striking that, amid a voluminous literature on psychodynamic psychotherapy, so little attention has been paid to the narcissistic vulnerabilities of midlife and the manner in which they enter into the psychotherapy of midlife patients. Eda Goldstein remedies this glaring lacuna in the literature with a study that comprises an admirable blend of theoretical astuteness, clinical wisdom, and personal honesty. balanced discussion of theoretical perspectives on adult development and her concluding consideration of the countertransference issues elicited by midlife patient in their midlife therapists, is an edifying and ingratiating contribution to the literatures of psychodynamic psychotherapy, self psychology, and adult development.

Explore the science behind your daily living habits and make your day healthier, happier, and more productive. Best-selling author Stuart Farrimond brings you a ground-breaking health book that will revitalise your daily routine and bring to light the latest research in psychology, nutrition, biology, and physics alike. Set out to unearth the facts behind the pseudo-science fads, and provide take-away advice on every area of our lives,is an approachable, entertaining and easy-to read fitness guide for those seeking self-development backed up by solid The Science of Living scientific evidence. Dive straight in to discover: -The Morning, Afternoon, Evening, Night structure takes you through a typical day. -Fascinating statistics and infographics bringing each science story to life. -Long-held health myths debunked and exploded by new science. -Action points to each story to help you tweak your lifestyle habits accordingly Is sleeping 8 hours a night good for optimum health? If I exercise every day, why am I not losing weight? Should I brush my teeth before or after breakfast? Is coffee good or bad for you? These are all fundamental everyday questions explored throughout this wellness book, which combines popular science with practical self-improvement, factoring in the latest scientific research to debunk the common myths and provide easy-to-read and relatable content for every reader! The popular question and answer format brings an immediacy to the information provided, and the highly visually illustrations truly bring the science to life in a contemporary and accessible way. From fitness tips to circadian rhythms, productivity to popular science, this all-encompassing healthy lifestyle book truly does have it all. What better way to redefine your routine and revitalise your life than gifting yourself a new you this New Years? This curated collection of self-improvement tips will teach you to become a better balanced version of yourself. So make 2022 the year of wellness and healing yourself!

Ever feel like your body takes up too much space in a world that doesn't want to make any room? Katie is fat. Pretty much always been fat, and will be fat forever. FATTY FAT FAT is a funny, frank and provocative solo show about living in a body the world tells you to hate. Leave your diet books at the door. 'A funny, tender, poignant and important show which doesn't tie the story up in a neat bow because life isn't about convenient happy endings. Greenall has created a piece of art that will live with you long after you leave the room' Catherine Renton , The Wee Review 'Greenall is not just performing a show, she's performing a radical act; one that sticks a middle finger up to society's expectations, puts fat bodies front and centre, and does the 'Cha Cha Slide' while she's at it.' Katharine Gemmell, The List 'In today's society, her voice is needed so desperately and I couldn't recommend this piece enough. I laughed throughout but left knowing that things need to change - and that we all need to be part of the solution.' Esme Leitch, Feminist Fringe

Breathe, Be Still, and Listen Diana Lang s books, audio programs, webinars, and workshops have allowed thousands to access the physical, psychological, and spiritual benefits of meditation. Drawing on her wide experience in studying spiritual teachings from around the world, Lang has put together a gentle, guided approach to meditation that is very easy to implement. In Opening to Meditation, she demonstrates that meditating is as simple as breathing. There is no mystery to it. Her instruction goes to the core, avoiding the analytical theory, fixed rules, and intellectual razzmatazz that often intimidate would-be practitioners. Instead, she shows us how to reconnect with our foundational essence of soul and self, where peace and centeredness are always and everywhere available. Includes downloadable guided-meditation program"

First published in 1925, this forward-thinking volume examined states of anxiety, their causes and their possible cures. Based on physicians' reports of their patients, the author aimed to expand beyond purely obsessive dreads to understanding fear in both its determinants and its mechanisms, with the view that pathological timidity is only brought on through learned fear and environmental influences rather than from birth.

American society is in the midst of a crisis, an epidemic of violence, secrets and shame. The victims reside in every town, on every street. Finding it easier to remain in denial than to confront this reality, the public minimizes the emotional aftermath of sexual abuse of children and provides few programs to help heal those afflicted.
Recounting the author's journey through a minefield based on his own denial, Boys Don't Tell takes a subjective look back at a life distorted by the effects of child sexual abuse and offers insight as to why victims find it so difficult to "just get over it and move on." Through the eyes and emotions of the author, it reveals his abuse as a teenager by a trusted minister and mentor, then recounts years of therapy, a formal complaint to The Church, and a lawsuit settled in mediation.
Boys Don't Tell covers the nature of addictions, their impact, and the difficulty and reward in defeating them. Excruciatingly honest, Boys Don't Tell creates an openness that can facilitate healing in others. Boys Don't Tell gives voice to an estimated 20 million male survivors, and offers loved ones, professionals, church and organizational leaders the opportunity to understand the impact of child sexual abuse.
As one reader put it, "You have been through so much, conquered so much, lost so much, and still have far to go. I was moved to tears. At times I felt I was eavesdropping. This is a tragic story filled with hope for justice and healing."

Arm yourself with the tools you need to parent with confidence, raise happy and independent children, and find the fulfillment you deserve. You're getting divorced; you're angry, afraid, frustrated, and overwhelmed. Stop, stop and breathe. What lies ahead is a journey that starts now -- with the focus on you becoming the person you want to be and the parent you need to be. You can get through this and "Not At Your Child's Expense" can help. Do you feel like you'll never laugh again, engage in a meaningful exchange with your former spouse or parent with confidence? You can and you will. You're taking the first step right now by getting the help you need as you navigate through the stages of establishing a long-term, mutually-beneficial co-parenting relationship. Judith Fitzsimmons' successful co-parenting story might seem uncommon, but it is an experience that, with the right tools and attitude, you can achieve in your own family unit. "Not At Your Child's Expense" is a guide to help you overcome the obstacles of divorce and co-parenting, find a path to clearer thinking, and develop a healthy family dynamic. "Not At Your Child's Expense" provides valuable, practical ideas that are constructive to you, your co-parent, and, most importantly, your child. While you may not have expected your life to reach this phase, you do have a choice on how to move forward.

I Can't Believe I Dated Him includes the practical insights of Brene Browne's The Gifts of Imperfection, the heart-centered tools of Melody Beattie's Codependent No More, and the scientifically backed modalities of Nick Ortner's Tapping Solution. No matter how much we learn about dating, boundaries, and calling in the one, we wind up attracting the wrong men. When this happens, we are tempted to beat ourselves up. Don't. What if the frustration is the very emotion you need to change your future relationship status? Every relationship leaves us with new standards, boundaries and trust issues. While we hope to have a healthy relationship in the future, we are afraid of getting too excited. The past teaches us that high standards lead to disappointment. In I Can't Believe I Dated Him, relationship expert Jackie Viramontez explores how doubt, empathy and regret are showing up for for a different reason than what we might think. By embracing the power of our emotions, laughing at our imperfections, and being courageously authentic, we transform relationship issues into opportunities. Viramontez' seven choices, empower women to break up with the wrong men and to celebrate the right ones. We never again have to ask: Why do I keep dating cheaters? Am I dating a narcissist? Am I dating the right guy? How do I rebuild trust? If you are tired of dysfunctional relationships, I Can't Believe I Dated Him is a practical guide to experience a relationship grounded in confidence, emotional intelligence and authenticity.

This is the story--a grandmother's story--of the experiences and events that have shaped her life, including the sexual abuse of her four-year-old granddaughter in a daycare center. In these pages, the author will share her trials and tribulations and provide insight into overcoming life's adversities, as well as what to do when the unthinkable comes out of nowhere. It is a personal, powerful, and agonizing story including a devastating fire, a flood, serious car accident, two failed marriages, a horrific family death, and the despicable acts of sexual abuse on her granddaughter, and the emotional impact it had on her family as well as the strength and forgiveness it took to overcome these challenges. Child sexual abuse is a violation of trust that can happen anywhere, anytime. Sex offenders do not pick and choose. Every child id a potential victim. "When the Trust is Broken" will not only educate the public but assist in recognizing some of the warning signs. Included are many success stories and many resources available to share. Everyone should have the tools and the power to protect their family. "When the Trust is Broken" will take you through the day of sentencing and the prosecution of the perpetrator. "Children need to know it was never their fault but the fault of the sex offender". The convicted sex offender in this case is now serving 21 years.

Nancy's labor pains were harsh and long, close to seven years, in fact. Conceived by Ukrainian parents, her two adopted children, Alyona and Alec, began their rebirth six years later in an American city near the East Coast shoreline.
"Healing Emotional Wounds-A Story of Overcoming the Long Hard Road to Recovery from Abuse and Abandonment"""is a compelling chronicle of metamorphosis that gives testament to the power of love, encouragement, and resolve over the desperate circumstances of abuse, neglect, and abandonment. This unvarnished story recounts the tumultuous road to recovery of two six-year-olds adopted from Ukraine and takes the reader through a mosaic of emotions from anger and frustration to laughter and bewilderment.
This action-packed drama of the family's first seven years reads like fiction, but it's real. The high-stakes adventure is replete with volatile behaviors, love, intrigue, sadness, police intervention, unwavering faith, doggedness, emotional fluctuations, and humor. Three main characters emerge, along with a large supporting cast of friends, family, neighbors, and community: 1) Alec, born prematurely to a substance-abusing mother, who spent the early part of his life swathed in a blanket cocoon almost devoid of human touch; 2) Alyona, found on the streets at age four or five and returned to the orphanage by her Italian adoptive family after only six weeks due to her aggressive behavior; 3) Nancy, a single, early fiftyish professional who feels called to adopt these children. The antagonist in this saga is the history of abuse and abandonment, but the real heroes are the children, who emerge from the abyss of hopelessness to live lives of confidence, love, and expectation.
"Healing Emotional Wounds-A Story of Overcoming the Long Hard Road to Recovery from Abuse and Abandonment "affirms the hope of healing through commitment, hard work, extensive family and friend support, a "never quit" attitude, and an unyielding resilience and focus.

Telling of a whole new kind of hero, this collection includes poignant and uplifting stories of people who have suffered great emotional or physical difficulties and went beyond their pain to help others. 30 color illustrations.

Conquer Your State of Anxiety with Inspirational insight"Her description of her escalating illness is irreverent, brutally honest, and compelling, her successes are inspiring." -Booklist Receive practical and insightful anxiety relief and comfort from someone with first hand experience struggling with a specific type of OCD. Discover what anxiety looks like. Kirstin Pagacz tells the riveting story of how she discovered her disorder. By high school, she was anorexic and a substance abuser-common "shadow syndromes" of OCD. By adulthood she was holding onto jobs and friends through sheer grit. Help came in the form of a miraculously well-timed public service announcement on NPR about OCD-at last, her illness had an identity. Learn what anxiety feels like. "It's like the meanest, wildest monkey running around my head, constantly looking for ways to bite me." That was how Kirsten Pagacz described her OCD to her therapist. After learning how to conquer her specific type of OCD, Pagacz wants to share her insight with you in hopes that you banish those intrusive thoughts, conquer your anxiety, and live a better life. Inside you'll gain insight into: The benefits of meditation and yoga Cognitive behavioral therapy Medication and exposure therapy If you learned from guides like Anxious for Nothing, The Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills Workbook, or The Anxiety and Worry Workbook, then you'll want to read Conquering Your State of Anxiety.

'Funny, emotional and deeply inspiring, this is perfect for anyone wanting to break out of their comfort zone' Heat What would happen if a shy introvert lived as an out-and-out extrovert for one year? Jessica Pan is about to find out... * When she found herself jobless and friendless, sitting in the familiar Jess-shaped crease on her sofa, she couldn't help but wonder what life might have looked like if she had been a little more open to new experiences and new people, a little less attached to going home instead of going to the pub. So, she made a vow: to push herself to live the life of an extrovert for a year. She wrote a list: improv, a solo holiday and... talking to strangers on the tube. She regretted it instantly. Sorry I'm Late, I Didn't Want to Come follows Jess's hilarious and painful year of misadventures in extroverting, reporting back from the frontlines for all the introverts out there. But is life actually better or easier for the extroverts? Or is it the nightmare Jess always thought it would be? * 'In a world of self-care and nights in, this book will inspire and remind you to do some things that scare you every so often.' Emma Gannon 'Tender, courageous and extremely funny, this book will make us all braver.' Daisy Buchanan 'A chronicle of Pan's hilarious and painful year of being an extrovert.' Stylist

Hugh Masekela is a prodigiously talented giant of jazz and world music, and a pioneer in sharing the voice and spirit of South Africa with the rest of the world, but his globetrotting tale transcends music.

Still Grazing was first published in the US in 2004; it is an autobiography which shares rich detail of world-acclaimed jazz giant Hugh Masekela's life, infused with love and loss, sex and drugs, exile and revolution.

He survived it all, with wit, passion, abundant talent and wisdom, and is now bringing his story back home!

Most of us long to be a little calmer: too many of our days are lost to agitation and worry, stress and discord. Yet we know that we are at our best when we can manage not to panic and take challenges in our stride. Fortunately, a calm state of mind is not a divine gift. Even those of us starting from a more agitated position can systematically understand and lay claim to it. Too many books on this subject simply explain what it would be like to be calm. This is a workbook that takes us through the practical steps required to actually become calm. It is filled with exercises and prompts that deliver the self-understanding and self-compassion on which true serenity depends. Furthermore, the book invites us to build calming routines into our daily lives so that what we learn can stick with us and change us for the long term. Based on years of The School of Life's work in the area of anxiety and calm, this is a landmark workbook guaranteed to bring about the calmer state of mind we long for and deserve.

Break the pattern of abuse--safely!Battered women often become so frightened, isolated, and self-doubting that they don't recognize they are being victimized. They may minimize the seriousness of the abuse and make excuses for the abuser. The checklists, questionnaires, and personal stories in Growing Free can provide the shock of recognition they need to be able to say, "This is wrong. It has to end." Combining psychological insight with practical safety information, Growing Free helps the reader to understand--and end--the vicious cycle of wooing, tension, violence, and remorse that characterizes all levels of domestic violence. It outlines a series of steps abused women can take to ensure their emotional and physical safety. Growing Free offers both practical and psychological resources, including: lists of abusive behaviors from ridiculing family members to physical violence common rationalizations for abuse used by both victimsand perpetrator detailed discussions of protection orders and other legal matters detailed preparations and safety precautions that may make leaving less dangerous advice on what to take with you when you leave guidelines for establishing safe relationships in the futureGrowing Free provides readers with a straightforward, action-oriented approach to the problem of domestic violence. A companion volume available separately, A Therapist's Guide to Growing Free, offers therapists a comprehensive outline of the issues, tasks, and goals involved in treatment with victims and survivors.

Being a teenager has never been easy, but the digital age has brought with it unique challenges for young people and the adults in their lives. Nurturing Young Minds: Mental Wellbeing in the Digital Age collects expert advice on how to tackle the terrors of the twenty-first century and is a companion to Growing Happy, Healthy Young Minds. A comprehensive and easily accessible guide for parents, teachers, counsellors and health care professionals, this book contains important advice about managing online behaviour, computer game addiction and cyberbullying, as well as essential information on learning disorders, social skills and emotional health. This volume includes up-to-date information on: Understanding Teen Sleep and Drowsy Kids Emotions and Relationships Shape the Brain of Children Understanding the Teenage Brain Healthy Habits for a Digital Life Online Time Management Problematic Internet Use and How to Manage It Computer Game Addiction and Mental Wellbeing Sexting: Realities and Risks Cyberbullying, Cyber-harassment and Revenge Porn The 'Gamblification' of Computer Games Violent Video Games and Violent Behaviour Talking to Young People about Online Porn and Sexual Images Advice for Parents: Be a Mentor, Not a Friend E-mental Health Programs and Interventions Could it be Asperger's? Dyslexia and Learning Difficulties Friendship and Social Skills The Commercialisation of Childhood Sexualisation: Why Should we be Concerned? Porn as a Public Health Crisis How Boys are Travelling and What They Most Need Understanding and Managing Anger and Aggression Understanding Boys' Health Needs

This book was first published in 1987. School phobia (or school refusal) is a puzzling problem that is still insufficiently understood. It is quite different from truancy and can lead to long-term adjustment difficulties if ignored or inappropriately treated. The purpose of this book is three-fold: first, to describe the nature of school phobia; secondly, to review the treatment literature exposing the common elements of the most successful, though theoretically different, approaches; thirdly, to provide a detailed step-by-step guide to the diagnosis and treatment of school phobia involving a rapid return to school and comprehensive behavioural management. The techniques and principles discussed are illustrated in a series of case studies. The book is aimed at parents and those professionals who regularly come into contact with children with school phobia, such as educational and clinical psychologists, child psychotherapists, behaviour therapists and family therapists, psychiatrists, paediatricians and family doctors, and teachers and researchers from all phases of education. If these professional groups could achieve a common understanding of school phobia, many more children could be treated quickly and effectively.

The statistics are staggering. One in four girls will experience sexual abuse by the time she is sixteen, and 48 percent of all rapes involve a young woman under the age of eighteen. It's not surprising then, that in a society where sexual abuse of young women is rampant, many women never share their stories. They remain hidden and invisible. In her pioneering work with young survivors through the last thirty years, Dr. Patti Feuereisen has helped teen girls and young women to find their voices, begin healing, and become visible. In this revised third edition, Dr. Patti's gentle guidance and the girls' powerful stories continue to create an encouraging message: Remarkable healing is possible if girls learn to share their stories in their teens and early twenties. With a new introduction, new chapters, and updated resources, this new edition of Invisible Girls has even more to offer girls, young women, and those who care about them.

From the author of A Christmas Gift from Bob, the original bestseller and heartwarming story of the life-saving friendship between a man and his streetwise cat '[Bob] has entranced London like no feline since the days of Dick Whittington.' (Evening Standard) 'A heartwarming tale with a message of hope' (Daily Mail) 'Reminded me how amazing having a cat can be' (Glamour) * * * * * * * * The uplifting true story of an unlikely friendship between a man on the streets of Covent Garden and the ginger cat who adopts him and helps him heal his life. Now a major motion picture starring Luke Treadaway. When James Bowen found an injured, ginger street cat curled up in the hallway of his sheltered accommodation, he had no idea just how much his life was about to change. James was living hand to mouth on the streets of London and the last thing he needed was a pet. Yet James couldn't resist helping the strikingly intelligent tom cat, whom he quickly christened Bob. He slowly nursed Bob back to health and then sent the cat on his way, imagining he would never see him again. But Bob had other ideas. Soon the two were inseparable and their diverse, comic and occasionally dangerous adventures would transform both their lives, slowly healing the scars of each other's troubled pasts. A Street Cat Named Bob is a moving and uplifting story that will touch the heart of anyone who reads it. IF you love A Street Cat Named Bob, don't miss The Little Book of Bob, the new book from James and Bob.