Thawing Adult/Child Syndrome and other Codependent Patterns is the first in the four-part Thawing the Iceberg Series by Don Carter, MSW, LCSW. All of the books in the series are written to stand on their own as a complete program. The Thawing the Iceberg Series is a set of programs designed to assist in the healing of the emotional wounds outlined in the author's original work, Thaw - Freedom from Frozen Feelings.

Thawing Adult/Child Syndrome is geared toward surfacing the underlying patterns of behavior and limiting beliefs that keep us stuck in unproductive relationships, the original wounds of abandonment, shame, and contempt, and how our subconscious mind adapted to the unique circumstances of our childhood by creating survival skills that now interfere with healthy coping.

Anyone who has ever found themselves repeating dysfunctional patterns that has cause problems in their life and relationships, and then wonder "Why do I do that?" or "Why am I like this?" is likely to experiencing habitual subconscious programming that has been referred to as Adult-Child Syndrome.

Thawing Adult-Child Syndrome and other Codependent Patterns focuses in on the "here-and-now" symptoms of dysfunction in our adult life and relationships. This insight-oriented program helps bring one's "Inner Family of Self" & "Life Script" to the surface so that appropriate changes can be made. The program helps heal the relationship with self, which is based upon the idea that "One cannot have a healthy relationship with others until they first develop a healthy relationship with themselves."

Thawing Adult/Child Syndrome - Sample of Contents

All Books in the Series Include the Iceberg Model (the first 5 Chapters)

Chapter 1: "What the hell is wrong with you?" (p.4) Motivation, Dependency Needs, Iceberg Model

Chapter 2: Anatomy of an Emotional Wound (p.16) Abandonment, Shame, & Contempt - False Self

Chapter 3: The Art of Survival (p.28) External Focus, Impression Management - Invented Self

Chapter 4: Who am I Really? (p.36) Imperfect World & Spirituality - True Self

Chapter 5: Distractions & Dependencies (p.40) Addictions, Obsessions/Compulsions, and Other Issues

Sample of Exercises & Recovery Tasks:

Workbook Introduction An Overview of Program Contents

The Wound of Abandonment - Exploring the original Abandonment & Shame of Childhood

The Scab of Contempt - Characteristics and Functions of Internalizing & Externalizing Contempt

Introducing the Wounded Inner Children - The Wounding of the Child-Created Ego-States

The Five Drivers & the Safety Net - Feeling "Ok" by Obeying Inner Mandates from Childhood

"Scripty Feelings" & The Ok Corral - Exploring the Emotional Cycles of Abandonment, Shame, & Contempt

Compound Decisions & Contamination - Compound Decision Worksheet & Contamination of the Adult Ego-State

Drivers & the Mini-Script Process - Summary of Drivers, Mini-Scripts & "Allowers"; Intro to Script Elements

A Framework for Adult/Child Recovery - Guidelines and requirements of recovery from Adult-Child Syndrome

Hero's Journey & the Figure-8 Journaling Process

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INTRODUCTION: Beginning in my teen years, I experienced intermittent panic attacks. Previous to this, I suffered prolonged episodes of free-floating anxiety (generalized worry and anxiousness). During my twenties, I found coping skills for my anxiety that were mostly self-taught, although I had seen mental health counselors for short periods of time in my late teens. These sessions were scheduled by my parents; during times I seemed to be lacking the ability to cope as I should, following major events, such as relocating to new schools. This was in the late 1970s and some anxiety therapies, such as Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), were not as well-developed as they are now. Additionally, anxiety sufferers also now have the availability of self-treatment methods that have been developed and that can be found online and used in the comfort of one's home. I personally benefited from self-help programs when my anxiety disorder reached a level of severity at age-40, after I developed autoimmune thyroid disease, which caused me a period of hyperthyroidism (overactive thyroid gland). While I will reference treatments in the chapters of this book, including pharmaceutical and psychiatric therapies, the content will be mostly focused on the subject of anxiety symptom-manifestations. This will include what are known as "unreality symptoms" but I have also included chapters regarding "anxiety sensitization" and "catastrophic thinking." It is my hope that this information will help anxiety sufferers to understand what is happening to them when they experience these aspects of chronic anxiousness and/or panic attacks. My purpose is to reveal the facts, that these manifestations of severe anxiety and panic are very common but also very treatable and that they will not cause insanity or any real catastrophe. They are in-fact aspects of the anxiety mechanism called the "fight or flight response," which is completely natural and necessary but that can occur out-of-context or at "disordered" times. In the case of anxiety disorders, knowledge truly is power and gaining an education regarding symptom-manifestations, can lend toward better results for managing these symptoms, as proper treatment is also being administered. This was key to my own success with gaining coping skills for chronic anxiety symptoms and that I hope to convey through the chapters of this book. This book is not intended to be an extensive manual but is intended to contain information most often sought by laypersons on the subject. CHAPTER ONE Understanding Anxiety Depersonalization Symptoms (Feeling Unreal During the Fight or Flight Response) CHAPTER TWO The Derealization Anxiety Unreality Symptom (When Surroundings Feel Unreal with Chronic Anxiousness) CHAPTER THREE Understanding Anxiety Sensitization and Avoiding It (When Becoming Anxious is Triggered More Easily) CHAPTER FOUR Catastrophic Thinking: Unrealistic Anxiety Thoughts (When Anxiousness Brings Exaggerated Scenarios to Your Mind) CHAPTER FIVE Methods for Treating Anxiety Disorders (Pharmaceutical and Psychiatric Therapies for Chronically Anxious People) CHAPTER SIX The Differences between Anxiety Neurosis and Psychosis Disorders (Knowing Anxiety will not Cause You Insanity) CHAPTER SEVEN Anxiety and Heart Palpitations (Racing, Skipping, Fluttering and Thumping Heartbeats)

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