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Books > Health, Home & Family > Self-help & practical interests > Popular psychology > General
From the host of award-winning podcast On the Edge with Andrew Gold comes The Psychology of Secrets, a bizarre, surprising and thrilling deep dive into the psychology of secrecy.
We all keep secrets. 97 per cent of us are hiding a secret right now, and on average we each hold thirteen at any one time. There’s a one-in-two chance that those secrets involve a breach of trust, a lie or a financial impropriety. They are the stuff of gossip, of novels and of classic dramas; secrets form a major part of our hidden inner lives.
Podcaster Andrew Gold knows this better than anyone. A public persona, he found himself the (unwitting) recipient of hundreds of strangers' most private revelations. This set him on a journey to understand this critical part of our societies and lives. Why do we keep secrets? Why are we fascinated by those of others? What happens to our mind when we confess?
Drawing from psychology, history, social science, philosophy and personal interviews, The Psychology of Secrets is a rollicking journey through the history of secrecy, bringing us in touch with cult leaders, murderers, psychopaths – and even you.
What’s normal anyway? Into every life some rain must fall. Nobody
is fine all the time, and if you’re feeling down or struggling
with serious problems, you’re not alone. This clear and
comforting guide is here to help you understand the mental health
issues that can affect us all, and to help you look after your
mind, body and soul. Touching on a range of topics, including
anxiety, depression, loneliness, stress and self-esteem, this is a
book for anyone and everyone who needs good advice, fresh ideas and
kind words.
Beliefism (noun): Discrimination against people who disagree with us.
Do you avoid people who are strongly against immigration? Or strongly for trans rights? Against abortion? For drug legalisation? We might like to think that we're tolerant, but many of us struggle to engage with people whose opinions differ strongly from our own, even if they might have something useful to contribute to the debate. That means we're falling victim to what behavioural scientist Professor Paul Dolan defines as Beliefism: discrimination against those with different beliefs to us.
Drawing on the evidence from across the social sciences, Dolan shows how easy it is for us to divide ourselves into opposing camps - and how harmful that can be. Using the central metaphor of the duck-rabbit illusion - where the same image can be viewed as one animal or the other - the book shows that looking at an issue from only one perspective can lead to bad decisions and unnecessary conflict. The world would be a better place if there was less beliefism and Dolan shows how more tolerance is only possible "by design". We need to embed less beliefism into our organisations and lives and he provides a checklist called EMBRACE to help us do that.
Combining curiosity, irreverence and warmth, Beliefism is a definitive behavioural science take by a leader in his field. Whether it's among friends, at university or at work, being less beliefist will make you a better partner or parent, and a more effective buddy or boss.
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